Post # 1
I’m curious: did you spend the night before your wedding apart or did you sleep in the same bed?
My wedding isn’t for a while, so I don’t have to make a decision yet. However, I talked to FH about it. His response? “Why would we do that? Why would we want to do that? We aren’t superstitious so why wouldn’t we want to sleep together before the wedding?”
I explained it was mostly for fun and for ease of getting ready. He wasn’t very happy about the idea, but he said he’d be willing to go along with anything I decide.
Do I want to hear from you guys: did you or didn’t you share a bed the night before. And why did you decide that way?
Post # 3
We planned to but were both super exhausted (and kind of overwhelmed) from the rehearsal dinner. So we kind of just passed out.
DH scurried off to the other end of the resort first thing in the morning though!!
Post # 4
We did not sleep together the night before the wedding, I stayed at the hotel with my best friend and sister. I just really didn’t think it would be as special if we saw each other that morning. I want the first time I saw him that day to be the first look.
Post # 5
- Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo
I plan not to spend the night together. I think it’ll make our first look (or walking down the aisle, if that’s what you’re doing) that more exciting!
Post # 6
@mrsbruff2b: That’s one thing I’m worried about: he’s not a morning person so it will either be a hassle to get him up and out the door before my bridal party comes over, or I’ll have to go somewhere else.
We are doing a first look. He claimed that’s why we shouldn’t worry about seeing each other that morning. Meanwhile, I do want it to be as special as possible .
He also has anxiety issues, so I was wondering if maybe that’s somewhat playing into not wanting to be apart that morning.
Post # 7
We’re going to be spending the night apart for logistical reasons and for fun.
We want to antcipate each other, we want to feel longing towards each other. It really helps with fore-play on the Honeymoon. ^_~ *sexy growl*
We’re also spending the night apart because there is not enough room at my place or at his to have the entire wedding party there with parents, so for room purposes we will be apart for the night and until the time of the ceremony.
Post # 8
@JoJoDahling: And you kind of hit the nail on the head as to why I want to be seperate the night before .
Logistics! Yes, I must have meant logistics!
Post # 9
Yeah, we stayed at our house together the night before. We saw no sense in wasting money on hotel rooms or getting stuck on a family member or friend’s uncomfortable couch or floor. After breakfast we went our separate ways until the first look. Seeing each other for an hour in the morning didn’t make the day less special, we were getting married, how much more special can you get?! But I totally get that not every couple is like us. If you want to be apart, go for it. Have him set up some man time with his groomsmen to distract him and he’ll forget there was ever any other option. :p
Post # 10
I’m spending the night with my girls. I think it’ll be more fun, and make the next night more special. It’s the reason we’re also not doing a first look even though we’re not superstitious. I’m all about drawing out the anticipation for maximum effect later . I want to be so excited and nervous I almost puke when I walk down the aisle. I know that sounds weird, but I think that’s half the fun, haha!
Edit: Our wedding is 3 hours from home and we’ll be at a hotel for a couple nights before regardless. If we had a wedding closer to home, I may have spent the night before at my mom’s instead of at our apartment.
Post # 11
We are spending ours together and getting ready together in the morning, so I feel like I’m in the minority on this one. We had a few reasons for choosing it:
1) We are spending the night before our wedding in the historic mansion where we are getting married. This is the only night we are able to stay there since they close for a week at Christmas. We have a gorgeous suite booked and can’t wait to stay there!
2) We aren’t having a BP. My hair stylist is coming to the suite in the morning to do my hair, and our Moms hair as well.
3) We don’t sleep well without the other one, that may sound cheesy, but its true.
Post # 12
@BeachBride2014: I’m not married yet, but I do not plan to spend the night before the wedding with him. It’s not that I’m superstitious either, I just think that it will be easier to get ready on my own and my getting ready time will start at 6:30 am!
I am not having a bridal party, but I plan to spend the night before my wedding with my best girl friends in a hotel room and treat them to a night out so that they can still feel like ‘honorary bridesmaids’ and help me get ready in the morning! With that plan in mind the ‘night before the wedding’ discussion was uneccessary for us.
Post # 13
We’ve lived together for 5 years and still chose to spend the night apart after leaving the rehearsal dinner. He stayed with his BM in the hotel and I stayed with my parents in theirs. We didn’t do a first look either, so the first time we saw each other was when I walked down the aisle. It was really weird since we live/work together to have THAT much anticipation to see each other, but it was also awesome.
Post # 14
My FI is very traditional, he wants to spend the night before in completely seperate places. WHich im all for, only because I think it will make seeing him when I walk down the isle even more special =D
Post # 15
@misspeanut: You are completely right: you’re getting married! What is more special than that!? I’m definitely edging more towards spending the night apart as part of the fun, but it’s also his wedding day too! And anything I can do to ease his nerves about it, I will do.
(Just to note: he isn’t afraid of marriage. Not at all: he’s looking forward to that. But the idea of standing up in front of everyone staring at him scares him to death. We were planning on eloping until his family put the killbosh on it)
@BookishBelle: A girl’s night before hand does sound fun! Usually my girlfriends and I get together once every 3 months for a girl’s night, and we usually all sleep at one place. He’s fine with that, which is why it surprised me that he wasn’t fine with it the night before the wedding.
@Paperbagprincess14: I know what you mean about the sleeping together thing: I’ve been with this man for 8 years, 9 when we get married. I can’t sleep without him next to me. That’s another big concern: I want to be well rested for the big event!
@crystalrae: That sounds like SO MUCH FUN! That’s really sweet to do for your friends! I’d love to do something like that since my group of girlfriends are really close. I only picked 2, otherwise I would have had to have 10 bridesmaids.
@TheHoneyWajr: I smiled reading your response. That is the moment I envision for my special day 🙂
Post # 16
@myluverbuny: <3! I never even thought about how special it will be for me to see him for the first time at the first look! Good point!