(Closed) Spending the night before the wedding apart

posted 5 years ago in Logistics
  • poll: Did you sleep together the night before the wedding?
    Yes : (22 votes)
    28 %
    No : (58 votes)
    73 %
    Other : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    We planned to but were both super exhausted (and kind of overwhelmed) from the rehearsal dinner.  So we kind of just passed out.

    DH scurried off to the other end of the resort first thing in the morning though!!

    Post # 4
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    We did not sleep together the night before the wedding, I stayed at the hotel with my best friend and sister. I just really didn’t think it would be as special if we saw each other that morning. I want the first time I saw him that day to be the first look.

    Post # 5
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

    I plan not to spend the night together.  I think it’ll make our first look (or walking down the aisle, if that’s what you’re doing) that more exciting!

    Post # 7
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    872 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    We’re going to be spending the night apart for logistical reasons and for fun. 

    We want to antcipate each other, we want to feel longing towards each other. It really helps with fore-play on the Honeymoon. ^_~ *sexy growl* 

    Ahem! Anywho.

    We’re also spending the night apart because there is not enough room at my place or at his to have the entire wedding party there with parents, so for room purposes we will be apart for the night and until the time of the ceremony. 

    Post # 9
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    Yeah, we stayed at our house together the night before. We saw no sense in wasting money on hotel rooms or getting stuck on a family member or friend’s uncomfortable couch or floor. After breakfast we went our separate ways until the first look. Seeing each other for an hour in the morning didn’t make the day less special, we were getting married, how much more special can you get?! But I totally get that not every couple is like us. If you want to be apart, go for it. Have him set up some man time with his groomsmen to distract him and he’ll forget there was ever any other option. :p

    Post # 10
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    I’m spending the night with my girls. I think it’ll be more fun, and make the next night more special. It’s the reason we’re also not doing a first look even though we’re not superstitious. I’m all about drawing out the anticipation for maximum effect later Wink. I want to be so excited and nervous I almost puke when I walk down the aisle. I know that sounds weird, but I think that’s half the fun, haha!

     

    Edit: Our wedding is 3 hours from home and we’ll be at a hotel for a couple nights before regardless. If we had a wedding closer to home, I may have spent the night before at my mom’s instead of at our apartment.

    Post # 11
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    268 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    We are spending ours together and getting ready together in the morning, so I feel like I’m in the minority on this one.  We had a few reasons for choosing it: 

    1) We are spending the night before our wedding in the historic mansion where we are getting married.  This is the only night we are able to stay there since they close for a week at Christmas.  We have a gorgeous suite booked and can’t wait to stay there! 

    2) We aren’t having a BP.  My hair stylist is coming to the suite in the morning to do my hair, and our Moms hair as well. 

    3) We don’t sleep well without the other one, that may sound cheesy, but its true. 

    Post # 12
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    951 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @BeachBride2014:  I’m not married yet, but I do not plan to spend the night before the wedding with him. It’s not that I’m superstitious either, I just think that it will be easier to get ready on my own and my getting ready time will start at 6:30 am!

    I am not having a bridal party, but I plan to spend the night before my wedding with my best girl friends in a hotel room and treat them to a night out so that they can still feel like ‘honorary bridesmaids’ and help me get ready in the morning! With that plan in mind the ‘night before the wedding’ discussion was uneccessary for us.

    Post # 13
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    577 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    We’ve lived together for 5 years and still chose to spend the night apart after leaving the rehearsal dinner. He stayed with his BM in the hotel and I stayed with my parents in theirs. We didn’t do a first look either, so the first time we saw each other was when I walked down the aisle. It was really weird since we live/work together to have THAT much anticipation to see each other, but it was also awesome.

    Post # 14
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    732 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    My FI is very traditional, he wants to spend the night before in completely seperate places. WHich im all for, only because I think it will make seeing him when I walk down the isle even more special =D

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