Post # 1
I feel like a classic fool. I tried on three dresses that were kind of “blah.” Then the fourth one fit me really well so my party and I got excited about it. I added custom straps which gave the dress a unique and luxurious feel. The excitement was contagious and I bought the dress, even though I had no intention of buying that day. The only person in my party who had gotten married before was my grandmother (a long, long time ago) so I didn’t necessarily have quality input.
There are NO refunds but I haven’t had alterations yet. I never wanted a strapless dress because they do not flatter my upper body. I thought adding the straps eliminated the problem but I can see now that it did not. I also wanted a simple round neckline. But I bought a sweetheart?! Most importantly, I am a simple and all-natural kind of person when it comes to dressing, and this dress does not say that. HELP! The dress is below. I can’t afford to buy a new dress but I don’t want to feel ugly at my own wedding either. PS – My wedding is less than 3 months away. Thank you for your thoughts!
Post # 2
I think you’re nuts. The dress looks great on you. Honestly, if you had a different neckline it would make you look bigger. I can see from the pics that you have broad shoulders. The sweetheart necklin and straps do a nice job of drawing attention from shoulders to the bust; they create balance. Furthermore, while in general I’m not a fan of rouching, on this dress I like it. I like the way they hit your waist and again give balance to your upper body. That waist line also hits you at the best part.
Post # 3
Gorgeous fit! gorgeous neckline ! Gorgeous straps! Gorgeous belt! Gorgeous rouching!! What’s not to love? You look gorgeous!
Post # 5
I love that dress on you! I think you look amazing in it, and it doesn’t look like it has too much going on. It has elegant, special touches but by no means is “busy.” Gorgeous.
Post # 6
I don’t understand how there is any question about this dress. Sure, it needs alterations, but as another poster noted above I really think this style works much better than others would.
Post # 7
jaimie.kwiecien: I agree with PP. The dress looks good on you. All it’s missing is a few minor alterations, it seems, to make it fit like a glove.
Also: ” The only person in my party who had gotten married before was my grandmother (a long, long time ago) so I didn’t necessarily have quality input.” Really? I was not aware that only people who have gotten married previously could have input on whether or not a dress looks good on you.
Post # 8
- Wedding: Disneyland - January 2016
I also agree that the dress is extremely beautiful on you and I think the neckline is way more flattering than a round would be. If you prefer more simplicity (though tbh it’s not over the top or “glam”), is the belt perhaps removable? And perhaps pearing it with pearls might give you more of an understated, classic look you might feel more comfortable in?
If you’re really not feeling it, might I suggest looking at Modcloth for dresses? They do actually sell some wedding dresses, or beautiful white dresses that some ladies have worn as their wedding gowns. I think the most expensive would be a couple hundred and they’ll be on the simpler, but still very pretty, side of things.
Post # 9
I think that you are a bit fixated on the dress’s problems of not matching expectations, rather than on how gorgeous it simply is on you. There are many other tasks for you to do for your wedding- I recommend turning to those and keeping busy! Maybe you are shocked by how fast it happened? I love the hair flower by the way.
Post # 10
jaimie.kwiecien: Omg are you serious? You are stunning in this dress. Your upper body looks fantastic. All it needs is a few tweaks here and there.
I agree you dont have to be a former bride in order to say what is nice or not.
Post # 11
- Wedding: September 2013 - Tuscan Farmhouse
I think it looks lovely on you and I’m not saying that just to make you feel good. Was it a very recent purchase so you’re just panicked a little?
Post # 12
michfurn: It’s definitely possible – I bought the gown yesterday! First shopping trip.
Post # 13
I agree with the pp, this dress is very flattering on you. I undertand if you don’t like it, you won’t be comfortable on your wedding day.
Would you be able to sell it? Using that money toward a dress you like better? I would post it on any website you trust, and start looking for a dress you like. Ask for samples the store is selling as those are usually discounted somewhat and you can take it home as soon as you’ve paid it off.
once you know what you are looking for you can also look at craigslist for sales as well. Good luck!
Post # 14
I think the dress looks great.
Post # 15
Oh my goodness, thank you everyone for kind words! Your support is so appreciated and meaningful. When my fiance and I started dating, I was a size 4. Now I am a size 6-8, medical issue :/ but now resolved. So the weight could be contributing to my fear – I plan to lose at least 15 pounds before the dress gets in mid-January.
In response to the comments regarding who can give good dress input: You are right. I guess I was thinking that I didn’t have some veteran there to say “No! Don’t buy yet! Make sure you shop around!” But that is totally on me, and only because I am currently freaking out.
Thank you again!