Post # 1
So DH and I have been together for almost 5 years now, married almost 1. And I wouldn’t call our time together getting boring, but I would say that it’s rather routine!
We are both pretty conservative people, and haven’t really tried anything before. Its really just us and a bed!
Any suggestions on things we might be able to introduce into the bedroom, but not completely freak us out?
Post # 4
Have you ever been to a sex shop together? Go and just buy stuff to try out. It will be fun. My DH isnt into toys but I have them and he likes to see me excited when coming out of my comfort zone. It depends how far you guys are willing to go in the bedroom. In my bed I have no limits
Post # 5
Nope we’ve never gone to a shop together. I’ve been to one years ago, but DH hasn’t even stepped inside one before. Good idea!
Post # 7
You can also introduce “naughty” board games. It’s a good place to start if you consider yourself conservative. FI was A LOT more conservative than I was. It was difficult to get him out of his routine. Introducing the board games got him out of his comfort zone without him feeling overwhelmed.
Post # 8
Lingerie and lubricants…
I like this company, all there lubricants are “healthy” for you!
Post # 9
I think you should buy some sex toys. You don’t have to go all out and get like, anal beads, but there are definitely some tamer options that help spice things up.
If you were only to get one thing, I’d suggest a vibrating cock ring. They are amazing and stimulate both of you. A vibrator (if you don’t already have one) for him to use on you, or for you to masturbate in front of him, is also a lot of fun.
Post # 10
This one is free: get OUT of the bedroom. I don’t believe sex should be limited to the bed. There’s a whole house – make good use of it. Couch, living room, hallway, bathroom, wherever. It’s easy, free, and you don’t have to worry about figuring out how to use something exotic that you found at a random porn shop.
Post # 11
Are you always using the same positions?
If so, change that up right away!
Post # 12
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
@claireos: HAHA this was going to be my suggestion!
Sometimes just a change of scenery is enough, but something new and sexy to wear wouldn’t hurt either. Toys are ok, but if you’ve never really tried them before it might be a little overwhelming. Maybe start with something simple like a naughty board game or a set of sexy dice.
Post # 13
I agree with @claireos: get out of the bedroom, heck, get out of the house!
Also, dressing up can be fun beyond lingerie. Think slutty hallowe’en costumes, haha. Ask him if he has any fantasies (or figure out if you do) and see if you can base something around that!
Post # 14
I have an app on my iPhone called “iKamasutra” that lists a bunch of different positions and categorizes them by type. It’s really fun! You can keep a “to do” list, check them off after you try them, see “position of the day” or simply shake your phone to see which one randomly comes up!
Post # 15
Great game here… Never have I ever… there are apps for it and if one floats your fancy turn it into a sex game instead of a drinking game. Instead of a shot figure out a way to make it happen!
Post # 16
@claireos: my thoughts exactly.