(Closed) Spicing things up … need your help!

posted 7 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
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222 posts
Helper bee

@authentic: Aw I’m so sorry! This sounds craptastic =( I do understand though, SO gets like this when he’s over stressed.

A/B: Maybe check with him and see where his stress levels are. If he’s starting to feel stressed about the entire sex situation, it completely explains why he’s been going soft on you unintentionally. On non-sex nights, try giving him a nice relaxing massage complete with candles etc to help relax him (and it’s so enjoyable).

C: Well Idk how kinky you guys are, but you could try outfits and senarios to help spice things up. Something where you are in control and he’s helpless (if he’s into that sort of thing). I know SO goes wild when I tie him to a chair and…you can imagine the rest!

Position wise, have you guys tried the table? I mean bending you over it (heels may be required if he’s too tall in that position). It will minimize how his back has to bend and it’s a great angle for us girls. Another thing to try would be stradling him on the couch.

I hope everything works out! Good luck and happy sexing! 

Post # 5
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3012 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’ll reply to this when I get the chance.  J is around right now and he might be offended. 😛

Post # 6
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222 posts
Helper bee

@authentic: You’re welcome! I’m glad they are useful =) My SO is the exact same way, the most laid back person I know. There are tiny clues he gives when he’s too stressed and lack of sex-drive is the biggest one!

Let us know how it goes!

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

@authentic: I once dated a guy who had back issues and had this happen all of the time. The pressure from me being on top actually did something to a nerve and would make him lose his stance.  I know it might be hard for him, but perhaps he should talk to a doctor about it.

Post # 9
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Helper bee

Sounds like it’s time for a serious talk, even an agrument (agruments don’t have to be negative or loud). You’ve got to explain everything you’ve said here. It sounds like he doesn’t understand how this is making you feel.

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