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@PurpleUnicorn: It wouldn't bother me, but he said it would greatly bother him and he has never considered it. He also said knowing he has children out there that he didn't know would kill him.
DH would never even consider it not for a moment. Then again, he doesn't have anymore to give, so it is a non issue for us.
@mwitter80: he sounds exactly like my DH! we were actually discussing this after he watched a CSI episode (I think) where a character on the show had like over 100 kids from sperm donation and one them committed a murder or something.
Nope and Nope... then again we wouldn't even look into fertility treatments &/or IVF if we struggled with or couldn't have kids on our own. *shrugs shoulders*
just curious though, you said your DH would not do it, but if he wanted to, would you be okay with it?
I wouldn't like it.. and while I do understand your argument that it's doing some good for people who want children that cannot conceive naturally, you always want to make money off of it. I feel like if anyone is going to give, they should be doing it for free out of the goodness of their heart. But personally I wouldn't want my husband donating, especially for cash.
I don't want to come across as selfish but I would feel really uncomfortable about it. FI and I are not TTC yet, but when we do try and if we do have difficulties (touch wood we don't) it will be sooo difficult discussing these kinds of options. Obviously the children will you our own but deep down they won't be from us...
On the other hand, a child is a child no matter what. This is a really tricky subject.
I don't think I'd mind because I know how hard it is for the people in those situations that need the donated sperm but DH wouldn't do it. He thinks it would be too weird and I can't blame him.
I wouldn't care. As far as I know, DH has no inclination to do so, but I don't think he'd be vehemently opposed to it, say, if a friend asked him to be a donor.
Add a poll please! :-)
Absolutely not, but neither would he want to.
Neither of us would care if the other decided to donate. I am considering donating eggs
I think deep down DH would like the idea of helping others who have also struggled with fertility but being completely honest about it 1) his sperm count/mobility etc was a factor in our issues so they probably wouldn't use him and 2) DH would want to be involved in some capacity in that childs life. It would kill him not to get to know and possibly love a child that was biologically his.
Poll please!!! :)
And I would totally not want him to. It really freaks me out--the idea of someone else having his biological fingerprint...
I want to clarify/add, I didn't consider this being for a friend. I was thinking only donation for money. I could imagine helping a close friend, but both husband and wife would hvae to be on board with that.
It hasn't really come up between us, but I don't think either of us would be comfortable with donating eggs or sperm. It would be really hard knowing that there were children out there that were part of us that we didn't know.
If it was something he did before me then what is done is done and there wouldn't be any point in worrying about it. However, now that we are together I would have issues with him donating. (Wasn't there a TV episode recently about a guy that donated tons of sperm and had like 12 kids????).
That being said he isn't the type of guy to really even considering donating sperm (or blood for that matter) so it really isn't even on our radar.
No. It would weird me out that other women were having my husband's kids... and I would also worry that one of my kids could meet them and fall in love and end up marrying their sibling. I saw it once on Oprah so obviously that is a rational fear ;)
@Treejewel19: i guess i am answering all these questions hypothetically because i don't think i will ever donate my eggs or become a surrogate, but in theory i am 100% open to all possibilities. And i say i won't just because so far i have never looked into it felt the need to. Well i did once look into donating eggs but it just seemed complicated and when i brought it up with DH (he was my bf then) and learned he wouldn't like it, i just dropped it. I was not so serious about doing it that i would make him uncomfortable if he really didn't want me to.
No he wouldn't do it.
& As selfish as this is I would care if he did. 
We had a MC last year & when we do TTC again I have to work my ass off to make sure the baby makes it in this world healthy as can be due to having type 1 diabetes. I would feel hurt if I knew someone else had my husband's baby but I do not. Ahhh, I hate how selfish that is. :(
Same goes for me, I am keeping my eggs. Again I am selfish.
Not really though! I am honestly the most giving person I know. (SERIOUSLY, if I was rich it wouldn't last long at all.) But when it comes to this I am touchy about it.
We have fertility issues, so yes, we are okay with it. If we can help another couple like us in any small way I think we would like to.
ETA: We also wouldn't consider the children produced "ours" or "his." So for us that isn't an issue at all. If it's gone through the legal processes, he signs the paper at donation saying "I give up my rights as a father" or whatever you have to do, then that's that.
@Mrs.Estep: i don't think that makes you selfish. it's completely normal to feel that way. And as a PP pointed out, i would do it for selfish reasons - the money! i would also be doing it knowing i am helping someone with fertility issues and i like the idea of that.....but i wouldn't do it for free! well i would do it for free for a friend/family, but for a stranger, like in a donation clinic, i would do it depending on how much they paid me!
wow, i am so in the minority according to this poll! i had no idea! i am now curious to ask my friends in real life what their opinions are...
Ha, Mrs.Argentina took the words right out of my mouth. So I will just post this:
Like others have noted, both DH and I would feel weird about kids who are half his running around out there in the world. I'm selfish - I want any and all kids with his genetic material to be my own.
I think we'd consider it for a family member on his side of the family. But that situation is not realistic in our lives, as he only has sisters, so it'd be a no go.
@Bubu82: Lol @ that cat. :)
We are another "nope and nope" couple! Although when I asked him, his reasoning was based around it being a hassle, haha!
@Juliepants: lol, that's my reason for why i will probably never do it - it's a hassle. if it was easy and i just had to walk down the street and pop out some eggs, i would do it in a heart beat.
No and no. The only children we want are each other's. Maybe it's selfish, but that's how we feel.
I've written about this before actually. My FI's ex-wife and her girlfriend asked my SO to donate so they could have a baby. He thought about it for about 2 seconds, but I said no way. Thus far the subject has not been brought up again.
I'd be ok with it but I don't think dh has ever exPresed an interest in doing so.
Neither of us are okay with donating either of our reproductive materials.
One of my very good friends is currently with an IVF baby created with donor sperm. Based on her experience I would be happy to consider DH donating in a similar situation (to help somebody close to us).
Funnily enough though I think I'd be more ok with me donating an egg vs DH donating sperm.
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I am not even sure if this has been covered in another thread (if so, please link me!). But after just reading the surrogate thread and hearing about the egg donation thread, i am curious what people say about this topic. I was ironically just discussing this with DH a few days ago. He has never donated sperm and never wants to. He says he doesn't like the idea of having tons of biological children out there.
However, the way I see is that you are doing other people with fertility issues a huge favor and i can only hope against everything that we never find out we can't have kids. So already i can imagine how grateful the people who use the donated sperm (and eggs) must be.
And i just have no issues with our biological children being "out there". I wouldn't consider them ours (or DH's). If it were my eggs, i guess i would be curious about them, but that's it, it wouldn't stop me from donating. And so i obviously have no issues with DH donating. I was actually trying to convince him to look into it because we could use some extra cash these days, lol.