Post # 1
I was reading the thread about the 4k budget being too small and a couple bees posted that their parents chipped in (or their FI’s parents chipped in) so that made me curious. Did your parents help pay for your e-ring?? Did your FI’s parents help? Not talking about a loan here-I mean did they gift you money so you could get a better ring.
Absolutely not judging so lets keep it nice. In my first marriage when I was young and stupid my parents helped. But people were horrified when they found out. Now that was probably because of everything else about my ex (blaaaaaah). But now I’m just wondering if its actually a lot more common that I think?
TIA for any thoughts!! 🙂
Post # 3
@wrkbrk: No one helped, FI did it all on his own, and he did a damn good job! 😉 I will say he made a down payment and then did a payment plan, he was not able to fork over 10k in one shot!
Post # 4
No FI paid, he set me a budget and I chose what I wanted 🙂 just waiting for it to be made and then the official proposal!!! excited xxx
Post # 5
- Wedding: June 2014 - Cedar Lake Cellars
He paid it all himself over the course of several months
Post # 8
@wrkbrk: I thnk it’s very odd for parents to contribute. A family diamond or ring is one thing but to give cash or go to an store and help pay for an engagment ring is odd. I think if one needs financial help with the ring, they may not be ready to give or receive an engagment ring. Even if the family has tons of money doesn’t change that.
No, noone helped my dh buy my diamond engagement ring.
Post # 9
thanks guys so far for the comments! Anyone whose parents did help want to share the situation??
Post # 10
Nope, my husband & I both saved for it.
I took us a year & a half to save up the 5k we needed since we were/are undergraduates.
I sometimes wish we had saved the money instead, but I love my ring so much I’m happy that we went ahead with my dream ring instead of upgrading later.
Post # 11
The e-ring was a family heirloom, so I got lucky and paid nothing. It had to be sized and re-shanked, which my dad paid for as an engagement gift (did not know he was doing that). Both our mothers contributed to our bands by giving old jewelry to trade in (as my mom and fiancee described it, ex-boyfriend jewelry).
Post # 12
I would not want my parents to help. I don’t need an expensive ring, but it does need to be a symbol of FI and I, not us and our family. I don’t think its even appropriate for the bride’s family to provide an heirloom diamond, but that’s another story: I think heirlooms should remain in the family so should go to a son.
Anyway if you’re not independent financially, marriage should wait.
Post # 13
@wrkbrk: neither of our parents chipped in but I see nothing wrong with it if that’s what they want to do.
Post # 14
No, and I find it odd that any would. If you’re old/mature enough to marry, then you shouldn’t need your parents to contribute towards an engagement ring.
Post # 15
My mother contributed the family heirloom diamond, but she did not contirbute financially to the ring.
Post # 16
@MrsSkeletonKey: whoa lol how did I miss the name change? 😉