Spin off: Did your parents contribute to the ring?

posted 3 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Did either your parents or your FI's parents help financially with your e-ring?
    Yes and I see no problem with it. : (12 votes)
    5 %
    Yes but it makes me or FI uncomfortable. : (4 votes)
    2 %
    No and we would never want them to. : (232 votes)
    87 %
    No but it would have been great had they offered! : (18 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 3
    1560 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @wrkbrk:  No one helped, FI did it all on his own, and he did a damn good job! 😉 I will say he made a down payment and then did a payment plan, he was not able to fork over 10k in one shot!

    Post # 4
    41 posts
    • Wedding: May 2015

    No FI paid, he set me a budget and I chose what I wanted 🙂 just waiting for it to be made and then the official proposal!!! excited xxx

    Post # 5
    1056 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014 - Cedar Lake Cellars

    He paid it all himself over the course of several months

    Post # 6
    462 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    No, he paid it himself

    Post # 8
    1779 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 1997

    @wrkbrk:  I thnk it’s very odd for parents to contribute. A family diamond or ring is one thing but to give cash or go to an store and help pay for an engagment ring is odd. I think if one needs financial help with the ring, they may not be ready to give or receive an engagment ring.  Even if the family has tons of money doesn’t change that.

    No, noone helped my dh buy my diamond engagement ring.


    Post # 10
    3442 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    Nope, my husband & I both saved for it.

    I took us a year & a half to save up the 5k we needed since we were/are undergraduates.

    I sometimes wish we had saved the money instead, but I love my ring so much I’m happy that we went ahead with my dream ring instead of upgrading later.

    Post # 11
    168 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    The e-ring was a family heirloom, so I got lucky and paid nothing. It had to be sized and re-shanked, which my dad paid for as an engagement gift (did not know he was doing that). Both our mothers contributed to our bands by giving old jewelry to trade in (as my mom and fiancee described it, ex-boyfriend jewelry).

    Post # 12
    2286 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    I would not want my parents to help. I don’t need an expensive ring, but it does need to be a symbol of FI and I, not us and our family. I don’t think its even appropriate for the bride’s family to provide an heirloom diamond, but that’s another story: I think heirlooms should remain in the family so should go to a son. 

    Anyway if you’re not independent financially, marriage should wait. 

    Post # 13
    11668 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @wrkbrk:  neither of our parents chipped in but I see nothing wrong with it if that’s what they want to do.

    Post # 14
    2537 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    No, and I find it odd that any would.  If you’re old/mature enough to marry, then you shouldn’t need your parents to contribute towards an engagement ring.

    Post # 15
    2319 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    My mother contributed the family heirloom diamond, but she did not contirbute financially to the ring.

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