Spin off: Do you get upset when someone de-friends you on Facebook??

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
  • poll: Does it bother you when u get defriended?
    YES!!! If we arent friends on facebook we arent friends in real life : (27 votes)
    16 %
    NO!! its just a website. Not going to lose any sleep : (109 votes)
    64 %
    Other, explain : (33 votes)
    20 %
  • Post # 3
    2571 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I dont have facebook anymore because of shit like this lol. I have enough things in my life to worry about… why add more stress? 

    Post # 4
    1178 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I don’t think I would even notice…

    Post # 5
    8389 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @Kandiss16:  Hmm I can’t really say one way or another, I’ve never been defriended.  I pretty much use facebook as an email address with lots of pictures.

    Post # 6
    13168 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    How do you even know you’ve been de-friended?  I wouldn’t even notice …

    Post # 7
    2419 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Apart from one Drama Queen who blocked me and then, rather stupidly, made a vicious public announcement about my various alleged shortcomings that of course I couldn’t see, I don’t think I’d notice if anyone defriended me. I don’t even know how many friends I’ve got in the first place!

    Post # 8
    2661 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    I wouldn’t say upset, but depending on the person it can sort of bum me out. Like I’ve had one or two girls that I was good friends with in college unfriend me and I’ve been a little disappointed. We haven’t had much contact post college (maybe a happy birthday here or there), but we were on good terms, and it’s not like they deleted me in a mass FB overhaul. I’ve seen that they are still friends with other people from other people they didn’t know as well, or my SO. They met my SO through me, and didn’t know him very well–why keep him as a friend but unfriend me? So it makes it feel a bit more personal, even if it wasn’t. (it’s totally possible they started doing a clean up, got bored, and didn’t finish)

    ETA: if a good friend of mine that I’m regularly in contact with randomly unfriended me…THAT would be upsetting!


    Post # 9
    729 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2007

    I don’t have FB, so nooope.

    Post # 10
    4576 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    Oh my god I *wish* 90% of the people on my FB would unfriend me. I have so many people that I know for a fact do not like me floating around on there.

    One in particular: she’s married to a friend of ours that we love and I used to like her alot…and then someone else forwarded me some text messages she’d sent saying some rather unladylike things about me. She doesnt know I know and BF doesnt want me to unfriend her because the husband is a good buddy of his and she would absolutely never let her husband talk to him again.

    Post # 11
    2851 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I mostly have people on Facebook who I actually interact with IRL. Not many “friends” that I knew in HS. So if one of those people unfriended me, I prob would not notice, or would not care. If a family member or actual friend unfreinded me, I would know something was up. I don’t even know how many FB friends I have (not many).

    Post # 12
    318 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2015

    I’m voting “other” on this one. If it’s just any old Joe (or Jane) Schmo that I know as an acquaintance or casual friend, it’s no skin off my back.

    That said, I really get my hair up if/when someone who I consider a good friend to delete me as a friend from Facebook without a conversation first. I liken it to breaking up with someone via text message… If someone has meant so much to you/been close with you for so long, I think there really ought to be some kind of adult conversation going on. Otherwise, it just comes off as passive aggressive.

    Post # 13
    9412 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    @Kandiss16:  I don’t have Facebook because I think it is stupid. I can’t imagine being upset by something so trivial and juvenile as Facebook friends. Really? People care about this? Wow. My 8 year old niece might too :-

    Post # 16
    1631 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Nope. I don’t do drama. If you delete me you had a reason. Whatever it is – I don’t really care enough to cause a stink…

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