Spin off: do you judge people with BIG rings?

posted 3 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Do you judge women with big rings?
    All the time! : (76 votes)
    16 %
    Never! : (124 votes)
    26 %
    Only if its a gemstone! : (15 votes)
    3 %
    If it looks fake, I'm all over it! : (93 votes)
    19 %
    On occasion... sad but true. : (171 votes)
    36 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    1140 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013 - Ontario, Canada

    I don’t but I have a large stone myself (2.5ct solitaire) so I know there can be many different reasons behind having one (like a family stone, or maybe it’s just what the couple prioritise and have a really simple wedding instead).

    I have people notice mine from time to time and I have had a few judgemental comments but at the end of the day, there are always going to be someone who wants to be snarky whatever size ring you have. I LOOOVE my ring and what it represents and at the end of the day that is all that matters.

     

     

    Post # 4
    Member
    2661 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    I don’t judge anyone for their ring. I just notice she’s married/engaged think “aw that’s nice!” and “ooooh pretty sparkles!” and move on!

    Plus, although many of us here on the Bee have helped our SO pick out the ring, I feel that the majority of women have no (or limited) say in what they’re getting. It’s totally not fair to judge a woman by something she may not have even chosen!

    Post # 5
    Member
    1631 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I am fully against consumerism – so yes…I admit it.

    I know I will get flamed – but it’s true.

    Post # 6
    Member
    2968 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    I don’t judge anyone for their rings. Period. Diamond, moissanite, coloured gemstone, natural, lab-created, big, small – it’s a personal preference that has no real impact on me whatsoever.

    Post # 7
    Member
    664 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I don’t judge a big ring if I don’t see any weird red flags. I know lots of people with big rings for a variety of reasons.

    BUT I do judge women if they are wearing huge stones but don’t seem to have their shit together. My ex’s mom got married while we were together, and she had a massive ring but was on the verge of declaring bankruptcy, was defaulting on her mortgage, car payments, bills, etc and still going on multiple tropical vacations per year. I judge people like that.

    Post # 8
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    1184 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I don’t judge anyone’s ring or even really notice unless they have a unique ring.  I’m much more enchanted with an Edwardian setting than a 3 carat solitaire.  It’s just personal tastes.  But I don’t judge someone’s socioeconomic status based on ring (or car or house), mostly because the people I know with the most money tend to live pretty normally…which is probably why their millionaires 😛  Not to mention, you can finance pretty much anything.  So I don’t consider it an indication of anything.

    Post # 9
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    1184 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I also don’t judge gemstone engagement rings.  I’ve seen some flat out stunning ones, including a particularly memorable aquamarine set in diamonds.  *swoons*

    Post # 11
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    4474 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    I actually really don’t. When someone has a large ring I usually admire it and am complimentary of it. I grew up in an environment where I was sort of taught that bigger is better when it comes to jewelry, and I know a lot of women who aren’t wealthy but take pride in their large stone jewelry collections. 

    Post # 12
    Member
    4576 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @pineapplez17:  +1

    @Miss Circe:  +1

    No, because it’s not very nice. I can certainly admit to being a frigid bitch at times, but not about something so sentimental as an engagement ring. Mine is a black diamond, and I’m sure I’ll get lots of side-eyes…but I promise no one will say anything to me directly.

    Post # 13
    Member
    197 posts
    Blushing bee

    I don’t judge large rings.  I love/prefer them!!  I would say that I see more negativity geared towards large than small on this forum. 

    Post # 14
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    3077 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    I was just noticing this about myself last week. I saw a woman with a gorgeous quite large stone and automatically assumed she had money. She was in her 50s or 60s. I work in a position where I’m privy to her financial status, at least with my company, and I was really surprised when I saw that she didn’t have that much money. I realized she could’ve had tons of money elsewhere but it made me realize that I AM someone who when I notice a large flashy stone, I definitely assume someone has money.

    I completely acknowledged that it could’ve been an heirloom or that maybe they did have money at one point in their lives (if they didn’t now…again, I don’t get the full picture). But yea, I assume you have money if you have a big stone. Most people like that about big stones though, they want others to think they’re elite or well off at the very least.

    ETA: I don’t judge them as a PERSON though…I’m not sure if that’s what is meant by this thread. I think nothing about them as a person….your ring doesn’t define you. I just assume wealth lol

    Post # 15
    Member
    691 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I judge people who lie about their rings… Like some threads about the 4Cs someone with perfect stats says my ring “has a big visible inclusion and all I can see is this black line” after the just posted their ring has a clarity of VVS1. Why lie about a ring??? It isn’t that serious!

    Post # 16
    Member
    8426 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    Nope, don’t care enough to judge. 

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