Post # 1
I’ve had issues starting this thread, so I’m going to split up my posts to avoid having to rewrite everything if it screws up.
A grandmother received a nasty letter about her grandson, Max, who has autism. She often takes care of him. Karla Begley is Max’s mother and has MS, which is why Max often is at his grandmother’s house.
A fundraiser has been set up for the family.
Post # 3
I can’t post the link to the fundraiser due to WB’s TOS.
The organizer is Sharon Gabison, I haven’t heard her mentioned in any of the news articles and do not know her relationship.
The fundraiser is called We all care – Justice for Max
The Beneficiary is Karla Begley and Family
The grandmother is not mentioned (although she would be family).
This is from the website:
Let’s abolish hate and discrimination and show this family that there are loving, caring and compassionate people in this world.
Karla Begley’s family received a hateful letter directed at her son Max, a 13-year old boy with Autism. This mother is understandably devastated. Let’s show Karla and her family that there is still humanity in this world, and each individual, regardless of disability, is a valuable member to society. Let’s collectively open our hearts and wallets and send this family off to a well deserved vacation of their choice, with the personal support that they all need.
Post # 4
Ugh and now the links are posting. Mods/Admin Please do not delete this thread!
That did not show up before I hit post! I think I have it all editted, but WB is being weird today for pasting.
Post # 5
@AB Bride: im wondering why donating money is necessary to show support. It would be one thing if they were suggesting a donation to an autism research foundation or something or maybe setting up a scholarship fund or something that wasn’t for personal benefit. I hate to be so cold about it but it just rubs me the wrong way.
I found that letter truly disgusting, for the record. But here’s a thought (and proof I have no faith in people) what if they themselves planted the letter and leaked it and now are looking to get donations? what if that was the plan all along? I think leaking the letter and raising awareness should have been enough. Whenever people start collecting money like this it makes me skeptical of their intentions…
Post # 6
I’m curious why they’re raising money. We get free healthcare here.. unless I’m missing something!
The letter was just awful, I wonder who would write such a thing. Like that says a lot about the person who wrote it.
Edit – Oops I missed how it said for a vacation. I dunno, even still, I would probably donate to something that is more important than a holiday. I don’t want to sound cold, but to give a family a holiday is a nice gesture but hardly pressing in the grand scheme of the world…
Post # 7
Overall, I think the sentiment is a good one.
I think the difference between the main heading part of the page and the details aren’t a great match though. Seeing the main part, I would have thought money was going towards a charity for autism awareness under Max’s name or something like that. I find it odd that Max’s grandmother is not once mentioned, but her name was in the news articles.
There’s a goal of $20k, that’s quite the vacation! Although the family might need some extra supports for the travel I guess.
Am I being overly critical, or responsibly skeptical?
I do hope the money is going to what it says!
Post # 8
@canarydiamond: I didn’t see your responses until I posted my last one. I’m glad I’m not alone!
Post # 9
This may seem heartless but it isn’t. Autism is a serious issue and very difficult for any family.
We are all told mean things in life, be they written or verbal. The only people who read this letter don’t have autism.
There is nothing very special about this family, except that they took their letter to the media. Why give them donations?
I guarantee many much poorer families with autistic children are struggling in oblivion right now. Not complaining every time they are faced with a cruel remark, you don’t hear about them. Wouldn’t it make more sense to donate to a charity that supports many low income families with autistic children?
Sorry, the idea of donating to this family really peeves me.
Post # 10
@stardustintheeyes: I agree. I understand donating for research, etc., but I don’t think it conveys the best message if people just start donating $$$ for a vacation for the wronged family. If anything, it could only encourage copycat schemes where others plant things to make themselves look “wronged” in hopes of getting donations. Just being realistic… I guess.
Post # 11
I have friends and family with autistic children, and this fundraiser rubs me the wrong way as well. $20k for a vacation? Hmmm…
Post # 12
So many people did donate to the fund for the lady on the school bus who was bullied. That seemed popular, so I guess some people are for it.
I thought the crowd they got to cheer for Max when he walked out the door was a better response this time around. It showed this letter writter that he was welcome in the community and supported the family emotionally.
Post # 13
Actually, now I’m starting to wonder if the letter is a fake. It was a weird letter as well, hard to imagine who might write such a thing in seriousness.
It really doesn’t seem right to me that they are asking for donations. It feels off, like we’re being pranked. At best, it seems greedy.
Post # 14
I have been suspicious about this since the beginning. I was afraid to say so for fear of being bashed, but now I’m more convinced than ever that things may not be quite what they seem.
Post # 15
Im glad I didn’t come off like a cold hearted jerk lol I won’t be donating. I would have donated to a charity or research fund or something. But not for a vacation. Im sorry this happened and all but paying for a vacation for the family isn’t going to do much in the grand scheme of things. I have been wronged in many ways throughout my life, people suck sometimes, but I didn’t get a free vacation out of it as proof that not everyone sucks. Shame on them for taking such a terrible situation and trying to milk it, and if it’s not stemming from them, shame on whoever thought this was an appropriate next step.
Post # 16
@joya_aspera: I don’t know who’s idea this fundraiser actually was. It may be someone with good intentions who wants to do something good for the family.
It’s currently at $165, so there’s a long way to go!