Post # 1
I’m not married yet, and I do plan on sending out cards as soon as possible after the wedding. According to Emily Post “all thank you notes should be written within three months of the receipt of the gift”, but apparently it seems some people get upset if they don’t get a note within a month of the wedding. Other people wait months to get photos for the cards. Now I am curious. Maybe it varies by location or family? When did you send your thank you notes? When do you think it would be rude to not have them out by?
Post # 3
@BriansBride: we aren’t married yet but are planning on having photo thank you cards. which I am sure will be late (our photographer is amazing, but is almost always behind in filling orders)- I have no doubt they will be late). So we plan on sending hand written cards, with personal messages within a month of the wedding and the photo cards will be more generic and those will come whenever…. And will be more of a keepsake.
Post # 4
@BriansBride: I’m not married yet either but I don’t plan to do photo cards because it would drive me up a wall to wait for the photos, then for the cards to be made before sending them out! I plan to write them out on the plane to our honeymoon. The sooner the better!!!
Post # 5
- Wedding: October 2013 - A Beautiful converted Barn
@BriansBride: before i was married i vowed that i would be writing the thankyou cards out the day after the wedding and sending them out the day after that! lol! not a chance! we got married October 26th and sent our thankyour out the 2nd week of December.
i knew we were doing DIY photo thankyous and arranged with our photographer to send us digital copies of those shots a few days after the wedding. it took a long time to get the photos printed – our printer couldnt cope with them, neither could the inlaws so we had to get them done instore… which took agggges!!! also – with nearly 100 thankyou cards to make it took longer than a day to write them out (i did personal messages in every one)… then we went on honeymoon for 2 weeks.
life happens – it took longer than i wanted to get them out but im glad we got them out within 2 months.
Post # 6
The longest I waited was several weeks. Typically, if I get a gift, I will send a card within a few days of receipt. Don’t wait for pictures to send with thank you cards.
Post # 7
- Wedding: September 2013 - Ontario, Canada
We waited for our photos to send with the thank you cards. they have gotten slightly delayed due to me having to have spinal surgery on short notice, so that obviously took priority, but i have ordered the cards today so they will go out within the 4 months mark. Hopefully our guests will be understanding of our situation though…
Post # 8
We got ours out within one week. It helped that we did joint thank you/Christmas cards. If we didn’t send them quickly the cards would go to waste!
Personally I’d prefer to get a card very soon after the wedding rather than wait for a photo card. Photo cards are nice, but I already know what the bride and groom looked like on the day – I was there!
I also think it’s important to include a personalised message if possible.
Post # 9
We got ours out within about 2 weeks of the wedding. They’re really not that hard to write if you already have everyone’s addresses and on the night of our wedding, we wrote down what everyone got us in our excel spreadsheet so it was very easy to make each messag very personalized.
Post # 10
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
I had them out in 3 months. No complaints from anyone, and that was speedy compared to most weddings I’ve been to lately.
Post # 11
i sent mine as soon as we got back from our honeymoon. it was about 2 weeks later.
then gifts we received afterwards had a 1-3 day turn around on thank you notes.
Post # 12
We sent almost all of ours within a week of getting back from our honeymoon. We waited to send a couple, including one to my aunt and uncle who’s brother/brother-in-law passed away suddenly right after our wedding. We waited almost 2 months to send that one, until we had seen them and given our condolences.
Many of my family members commented to me about how fast we sent them, so the expectations were in line with the 2 month rule. I spoke to my uncle about this over Christmas and he told me he still hadn’t received TYs from some weddings in the summer, and definitely was offended by that.
Post # 13
I just sent mine on Monday (12/30), so about 2.5 months after the wedding. My grandmother was already asking where it was. Oh fucking well. I think it’s rude to ask if someone’s written them yet just as much as I think it’s rude to wait forever to write them. But I wasn’t even at the 3 month mark yet.
That being said, after my bridal shower I had the Thank-You notes out within a week or so. But I also wasn’t getting back from a week long vacation, going back to work, dealing with health issues, dealing with my (other) grandmothers death, or Thanksgiving and Christmas. I think with all the shit that was going on after our wedding, I had a pretty good excuse.
Post # 14
I haven’t had my wedding yet but one of my bridesmaids had hers Feb 2013 and still hasn’t sent them out….she said she googled it up to a year is acceptable. To me though that’s a bit too long I hope to have mine done within the 3 month mark.
Post # 15
I was a bridesmaid last June and have yet to receive anything (but I did get a bridesmaid gift!). 😛
I also went to a wedding with SO in October and nothing yet so far, but to be honest, I’m not too bothered about either.
Post # 16
I mailed mine within a week or two.
As a guest, I don’t really care about waiting to receive a photo thank you, I’d rather just a nice hand-written note instead of waiting several months for the photo. Just let me know you got the gift, ya know? 🙂 But that’s my personal preference.