Post # 1
Just out of curiosity. The last poll I could find for this was done two years ago.
I know some bees say up to a year (which I find ridiculous) but I think that refers to the gift and not the actual thank you note.
I already sent mine out so I’m not trying to figure that out, I’m just trying to figure out what other bees think. I think it’s “better late than never” but I also think that thank yous should ideally be sent out within three months of a wedding (and TBH I think that’s even a little long).
So bees, what do you think? How long is too long?
Post # 3
- Wedding: May 2014 - Royalton White Sands
I think three months tops. 1-2 would be ideal, but it can take a while if you only have time to do a few a day and had a lot of guests.
Post # 4
The sooner the better, but I would not be bothered by one coming up to a year later personally. Ours took 5 months to get out. We spread word of mouth why they were taking so long though. We had a photobooth at our wedding and wanted to send everyone their pictures. Our photographers house burned down right after our wedding (no joke). Understandably it took a while to get the shots. Not the best admittedly, but things happen.
Post # 5
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
Emily Post says 3 months but the older ladies I know will be miffed and talk about you if they aren’t received within 2-4 weeks of gift giving. If you go on a honeymoon right after the wedding, they will start counting the 4 weeks from when you return from your honeymoon.
Post # 6
I will be nice and say 6 months, although I would never have waited that long. I know a lot of people want to put their wedding pic on their thank you postcard, and I think this would be an acceptable amount of time to accomplish that. If you aren’t using a wedding photo, I would say within 3 months. I personally got ours out within a month.
Post # 7
All of ours were sent out within 2 weeks! (Our honeymoon was weeks 2-4 after the wedding, so I got them out before we left!)
But I voted one month. Just get them over with!
Post # 8
I think the sooner the better! I had one thank you note that arrived 6 months after the wedding I attended, and I wasn’t offended. Better late than never!
Post # 9
- Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall
I say 3 months. We went on our honeymoon right after the wedding, then immediately afterward we were buying a house, moving, and unpacking, and our free time was mostly taken up by sorting through the 1,000+ wedding photos to tell our photographer to put into our album. 3 months after the wedding was a BLUR, I would definitely hope that no guests were offended that it took us (well, ME) 2 months to write them all. I made sure to make each one a prety long paragraph and include a photo.
I’m in the minority that I really don’t care if I ever get a TY note. I’m not big on cards and things like that in general.
Post # 10
There were some that I expected but never got. Ill be sending mine out within a month of my wedding.
Post # 11
@BrandNewBride: Haha I agree with getting them over with! That was why we got ours done so quickly! I hated having them hanging over my head. U felt so free once they were done!
Post # 12
I had a goal of 2 months but then i got really sick and ended up in the hospital 2 months after we got married and recovery was a long process so i think and hope people understood that we took longer they got out in 6 months…
Post # 13
@CTbride2010: I think there are definitely extenuating circumstances!
TBH I am not personally offended when it takes awhile to receive a card. I think there are definitely extenuating circumstances and I also don’t really care when I get it (but I do find it rude if I don’t receive one at all). I just think that people shouldn’t use the “I don’t have time” reason. I think most of the time people who say that actually have time. Like I said though, definitely understand extenuating circumstances!
Post # 14
I think 3 months is the longest it should take, but ideally 1-2 months. Obviously life happens and I would totally understand if something major happened and people took longer to send.
Post # 15
With no unusual circumstances, I will start being miffed if it’s two months and I haven’t gotten the TY card yet. I’m not a fan of photo cards since they take longer, I prefer to get a card sooner than a picture later. I see those pictures online at the same time anyway. Not saying dont do them, just that I don’t appreciate them for all the extra money I’m sure they cost.
Post # 16
I voted 1 month. I personnally will probably send the cards 2 to 3 weeks after the wedding, depending if we leave for honeymoon right after or delay it. I understand some situations might be different, though : other than uncontrollable life circumstances (funerals happening, being sick, etc.), I’m thinking about people who want to join photos as well / make cards with the pro pictures. I understand it can take longer. But as I guest, I find it very long to wait 3 months. I would prefer receive the photos later, but have a ”thank you for your gift card” a few weeks after, because I want to feel like my gift was 1) correctly received 2) appreciated.