Spin off: How long do you have to send out wedding thank yous?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: How long after a wedding should a thank you be sent out?
    1 month : (21 votes)
    20 %
    2 months : (17 votes)
    17 %
    3 months : (47 votes)
    46 %
    4 months : (3 votes)
    3 %
    5 months : (0 votes)
    6 months : (9 votes)
    9 %
    7 months : (0 votes)
    8 months : (0 votes)
    9 months : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    4540 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2014 - Royalton White Sands

    I think three months tops. 1-2 would be ideal, but it can take a while if you only have time to do a few a day and had a lot of guests. 

    Post # 4
    4136 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    The sooner the better, but I would not be bothered by one coming up to a year later personally. Ours took 5 months to get out. We spread word of mouth why they were taking so long though. We had a photobooth at our wedding and wanted to send everyone their pictures. Our photographers house burned down right after our wedding (no joke). Understandably it took a while to get the shots. Not the best admittedly, but things happen. 

    Post # 5
    9137 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

    Emily Post says 3 months but the older ladies I know will be miffed and talk about you if they aren’t received within 2-4 weeks of gift giving.  If you go on a honeymoon right after the wedding, they will start counting the 4 weeks from when you return from your honeymoon.

    Post # 6
    7654 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I will be nice and say 6 months, although I would never have waited that long. I know a lot of people want to put their wedding pic on their thank you postcard, and I think this would be an acceptable amount of time to accomplish that. If you aren’t using a wedding photo, I would say within 3 months. I personally got ours out within a month.

    Post # 7
    11772 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    All of ours were sent out within 2 weeks! (Our honeymoon was weeks 2-4 after the wedding, so I got them out before we left!)

    But I voted one month. Just get them over with!

    Post # 8
    1254 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I think the sooner the better! I had one thank you note that arrived 6 months after the wedding I attended, and I wasn’t offended. Better late than never! 

    Post # 9
    1822 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall

    I say 3 months. We went on our honeymoon right after the wedding, then immediately afterward we were buying a house, moving, and unpacking, and our free time was mostly taken up by sorting through the 1,000+ wedding photos to tell our photographer to put into our album. 3 months after the wedding was a BLUR, I would definitely hope that no guests were offended that it took us (well, ME) 2 months to write them all. I made sure to make each one a prety long paragraph and include a photo.

    I’m in the minority that I really don’t care if I ever get a TY note. I’m not big on cards and things like that in general. 

    Post # 10
    2358 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    There were some that I expected but never got. Ill be sending mine out within a month of my wedding.

    Post # 12
    628 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    I had a goal of 2 months but then i got really sick and ended up in the hospital 2 months after we got married and recovery was a long process so i think and hope people understood that we took longer they got out in 6 months…

    Post # 14
    1719 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I think 3 months is the longest it should take, but ideally 1-2 months.  Obviously life happens and I would totally understand if something major happened and people took longer to send.

    Post # 15
    1103 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    With no unusual circumstances, I will start being miffed if it’s two months and I haven’t gotten the TY card yet. I’m not a fan of photo cards since they take longer, I prefer to get a card sooner than a picture later. I see those pictures online at the same time anyway. Not saying dont do them, just that I don’t appreciate them for all the extra money I’m sure they cost. 

    Post # 16
    2878 posts
    Sugar bee

    I voted 1 month. I personnally will probably send the cards 2 to 3 weeks after the wedding, depending if we leave for honeymoon right after or delay it. I understand some situations might be different, though : other than uncontrollable life circumstances (funerals happening, being sick, etc.), I’m thinking about people who want to join photos as well / make cards with the pro pictures. I understand it can take longer. But as I guest, I find it very long to wait 3 months. I would prefer receive the photos later, but have a ”thank you for your gift card” a few weeks after, because I want to feel like my gift was 1) correctly received 2) appreciated. 

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