Spin-off: How many family members rushed to the altar during wedding planning?

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall

No? What do you mean? Because they wanted to “beat” you to get married first? I don’t know anyone who would do that.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@Cynderbug:  Well….I guess Mr. 99 and I did this, but it wasn’t because we wanted to beat my cousin and his fiance down the aisle…. they had been engaged for like, 6 months, were in the throes of planning, we ended up becoming engaged and getting married within 45 days, but I can assure you THEY were the farthest thing from my mind….. I mean, what the hell is the point of waiting if you want to get married and the timing works for you?

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

A friend did get engaged in December 2012 (we were engaged in August 2012) and got married in June 2013, after we had set our date for October 2013. But I wasn’t bothered by it, truthfully I think they wanted to get married fast because they wanted to start trying for a baby (she’s pregnant now).

My brother got engaged in March 2013, but they aren’t getting married until June of this year.

 

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

My nephew, he’s 5 years younger than me, got engaged two months after us.  They are still engaged and I havent heard of a date yet.  I was only worried because they are in NJ and mine was in FL.  

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

lol, no one.  

But my husband’s brother loved our wedding so much that he spontaneously proposed to his gf THE NEXT DAY!  (And obviously because he loves her, duh.)  So awesome.  They’re great together.

My cousin also proposed to his gf a week after our wedding… he had the ring before our wedding but waited so he didn’t “steal the fire”.  I wouldn’t have cared at all though.

Not to mention most of the people our age in our families were or are still in long-term relationships from 5 to 12 years long without marriage.  So all in all, I guess our family does the opposite of rushing to the altar.  

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

My sister. I don’t know if she did it because she wanted to “beat me” down the aisle or anything, but she had known her man six months, and two weeks after my engagement with my fiance of over two years, she was suddenly engaged with a small diamond (which I am saying, not to disparage small diamons, because they can be so beautiful and her’s really is nice for her, but because I know WAY too much about her man’s finances).

They took six weeks to get married, and will have known each other for a year in March.

We are having an 8-9 month engagement, so it doesn’t even feel like it’s that long. I know they had already been talking marriage, the timing of it all just seemed rather off….

 

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

None.  I got engaged, 18 months passed, and I got married.  There were no family weddings in the middle.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

No one rushed to get married before us but FBIL got engaged 4 months after us and is getting married 3 months after us. Most family said it was because of our engagement that he finally felt the “pressure” to propose to his girlfriend of 5 years. They’d been living together for a year. FI and I were only dating a year when we got engaged. I think it was just getting to be about time for them! They were very considerate though of our wedding date and planned their wedding for the very end of summer. This was as late as they could plan it for this year because FBIL’s FI is in graduate school and didn’t want to get married during the school year. We never asked them to plan around us but we certainly appreciate how considerate they’ve been.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

My brothers sort of did this.  My eldest brother dated for years, got engaged and planned a wedding 1.5 years off.  My younger brother got engaged.  Then my older brother broke his engagment.  My younger brother, seeing this mess, got married in less than 6 months.  My older brother eventually reconsiled with his FI and they got married 5 months after they got back together.

That was a chaotic year.

If we had been engaged when my FI’s sister got married and I’d seen all that he describes her going through…or if I had been engaged when my oldest brother was and the insane wedding my SIL originally planned I’d of probably of felt the same way.

There have been cousins marriages in between all of this.  We’re all between 20-30 and everyone is on their own schedule.  “Conflicts” are bound to happen.  My older brother thought that enagaments should be a year or more, my younger brother thought they should be 6 months or less.    My older brother also thought that one should date for several years, my younger, like me, thinks if its hit the year mark and not going towards marriage then you’re jerking the person around.  My youngest brother (bro #3) is like my oldest brother.  My cousins tend to be like my oldest brother, except for one who met, got engaged, married and now has a kid in less than 3 years.

Post # 14
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Blushing bee

5 People I know got engaged after us and are getting married before us.  2 are family, 2 are my friends, 1 is FIs friend.  I’m genuinely happy for them all as I’m sure they’re happy for me, I just wish going to their weddings didn’t eat up all my vacation time!  I’m only going to be able to take 2 days off for my wedding and those will have to be sick days.  

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Its been nothing but wedding before and after we got engaged.  As a result I keep down sizing my wedding for something more relaxed and easy going.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Nope, no one!  Actually I was kind of expected that when DH and I got engaged/married it would set the ball rolling for our (mostly older) cousins, but nothing so far.  

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