Spin-off: If you couldn’t have a biological child, your next step would be…

posted 3 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Adopt.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@sailor:  It is quite likely that we will not be able to have a child. There is no reason to doubt either of our fertility, but due to a large, deep scar that runs down my stomach, it is probably physically impossible for my stomach to stretch enough. If this is the case, we will remain “Child-free by choice” and be pet parents instead.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

Adoption. We have discussed this at length because I’m worried about fertility issues. SO was adopted, and he’s always wanted to adopt because of it – and I’m right there with him. I do hope that we can conceive naturally at least once, but adoption is definitely part of our plan no matter what. I don’t personally see why I should spend a ton of money trying to make something happen when there are sooo many children out there waiting for parents.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012 - Southern California

Our next step would be to have lots of unprotected sex while living a child-free life together!  We want one, maybe two if the pregnancy gods are nice to me, but if it doesn’t happen, neither of us would be disappointed in a child-free life.  We enjoy it now :]

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@s2bmrscook:  That is really sad. I believe I saw your engagement pictures and you are a tiny little thing (and so pretty too). Maybe you would have a tiny little baby who wouldn’t stretch your stomach too much. I had a major surgery (I’m assuming it’s from surgery) that will impact childbirth for me too.

Also +1 on remaining child free by choice. If we couldn’t have kids, then we would accept it and not have kids. I wouldn’t spend money trying to change what nature isn’t allowing. There are worse things in the world than traveling the world with my husband and spending the rest of my life with just him…and a handful of furbabies, of course.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Remain child free. 

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2005

Not sure…  I think I would be inclined to foster older children.  There are so many of them in need of loving homes, and I’d like to help.  I think about doing that now anyway, but our little one is a lot of work on his own.  Maybe we’ll do it when we have an empty nest.

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@stephanie091512:  Oh, how could I forget…I’d get off the stupid Pill in a second! And have unprotected sex from here to the moon and back. You hit it when you said we are enjoying life now and we would continue to enjoy it. So true!

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

If assisted reproductive technologies failed us, we would ditch birth control and help my sibling and his with raising their children. 

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

remain child free unless the urge really hit, then adopt.

Post # 14
mswallabyBee
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor

@sailor:  Start saving up money to adopt. I’ve always deeply wanted to adopt, but my DH and my parents all really want us to have biological children. We’re at least 5 years away from TTC but sometimes I’m curious about whether we’ll be able to have kids or not.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@MrsPanda99:  Yep, it’s from surgery on my small intestine so it’s not only long it’s deep too. I’ve talked to a doctor and FH asked a friend who is a pediatric nurse and they both responded with a strong “Maybe” as to whether or not pregnancy would work. “Maybe” isn’t really a risk I’m willing to take.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

 adoption 100%

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