Spin off – Stamps on RSVP envelope?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Would you include (or expect) a stamp on the RSVP envelope?
    Yes : (79 votes)
    92 %
    No : (5 votes)
    6 %
    Undecided : (2 votes)
    2 %
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  • Post # 3
    Member
    3633 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I agree that if people really wanted to come, they would find some way of RSVPing. That being said, it’s considerate to pre-stamp it for people so they don’t have to scrounge around for one. Especially in today’s tech-driven society, the use of stamps has declined and not everyone has one laying around. That being said, I only needed to send out about 60 invitations, so it wasn’t too bad. If I had to send up 250 invitations or something, then I could see how this could be a problem.

    Post # 4
    doilyMember
    1734 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2012 - Father's Vineyard Church/ A Touch of Class Banquet Center

    @Nic01:  Your invites are just the beginning of the hospitality that you are supposed to show guests. I personally think it’s a little rude to expect people to RSVP back but not provide them without a means to do so. You are expecting them to pay for the stamp. I understand that it’s only the amount of some change to do so, but if you want the RSVPs to come in, you should do it. It stinks that it’s an extra cost, but if you do a smaller card or a postcard RSVP return, the stamp is a lot cheaper!

    If you really don’t want to pay for the stamps, you should consider an electronic manner of RSVPing as an alternative.

    Post # 5
    Member
    8706 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I included stamps on the RSVP envelopes. I figured it was a lot easier than having people go get them if they didn’t have any on hand.

    Post # 6
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    1872 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I had several people explicitly tell me that they owned no stamps and without a stamp included, the rsvp would not have gotten mailed back. One of these people was a groomsman. lol. It’s just easier to slap the stamp on and fill out the return address on their envelope so you know who the rsvp is coming from. You’ll save yourself a lot of headaches later.

    Post # 7
    Member
    7090 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Getting people to send back RSVPs is like pulling teeth even with a stamp. I wouldn’t skimp.

    Post # 8
    Member
    789 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I put stamps on most of ours. The only ones I didn’t were the ones going to Europe because I didn’t have stamps but also told them they could email us. 

    With that being said I had some relatives ask the following, “you know we’re coming, do we have to send it back.” My answer in my head was: I PUT THE FREAKING STAMP ON IT FOR YOU ALREADY JUST SEND IT BACK. 

    We also have a lot of people not coming so they’re not sending the RSVP cards so I wasted money on the stamps. 

    If I had to do it over again, I’d still put the stamps on there. 

    Post # 9
    Member
    657 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    If you don’t provide stamps for RSVPs please provide some other way of RSVPing, via website or email. Honestly, it takes me about 3x longer to send anything that requires a stamp because I don’t have them sitting around and it usually it’s something that easily slips my mind when I’m out having to run errands.

    Post # 11
    Member
    1112 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    My thoughts are if you want them to send it back, send a stamp.  Because we live in a new era of e-everything and people are lazy. ~_~

    Post # 12
    Member
    1872 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @Nic01:  Unfortunately since you are basically mass-mailing you have to dummy-proof everything.

    Post # 13
    Member
    9532 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I am 3.5 weeks out from my wedding. Our RSVP date was 2 weeks ago. I’n still tracking down 40 people. I am confident it would be worse if I hadn’t used stamps on the RSVPs. And the cost of stamps was well worth a bit less stress getting answers from people.

    Post # 16
    Member
    9532 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    230. By the RSVP date we had heard from less than 50%.

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