Post # 1
I responded to a thread in emotional that talked about how a girl’s best friend abandoned her when she got married and it got me to thinking (not about that situation-but about myself)
I have friends. A lot of friends…but most of them are “friends”- I put the quotations around it because they are ok to talk to (at work or other places) and they were ok to hang out with before I met my SO…but really I just don’t like them that much.
I have about 5 friends who I genuinely enjoy. We know we have each other’s backs…We are busy, we understand that each other are busy, we are laid back, low drama and just chill. I love them.
I also have some friends who I genuinely do not like and feel like I cannot get away from. They are people who are too dramatic, give me too many opinions about how they think I should run my life, talk about other people in mean ways all the time and are overall just too girly/bitchy.
The ones who want to hang out all the time are the later group. I am not the type to “break up” with friends, but geez! I am running out of excuses and can’t believe I am still being asked to do things.
I would much rather hang out with SO and SO’s friends (again-laid back, non-judgemental, cool people) than hang out with most of my “friends.”
Anyone else in the same boat?
Post # 3
I’m a big quality > quantity person when it comes to relationships. I don’t have very many friends, but I’m close to them and truly enjoy their company. I used to have some “friends” like you describe. They were people I used to work with, we kinda just ended up hanging out a lot, but I really have little in common with them. Over time I just stopped spending time with them. I’d rather sit at home and enjoy my own company than hang out with people just for the sake of it.
Post # 4
- Wedding: February 2017 - Seattle, WA
I’ve slowly but surely widdled my group of friends down to the few I actually love. Life is too short to waste time on people who are toxic to your life!
Post # 5
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
There are friends and there are acquaintances. Friends are the people you trust with your life while acquaintances are people you hang out with on occasion.
Post # 6
At this point in my life, I really only have friends that I enjoy being around and talking with. In college, I definitely had “friends,” people who were in my group of friends, but who I didn’t like or connect with. I moved to a new city after graduating, so I think the distance has forced me to only stay in touch with those people who are actually important to me. And because my life has become so busy since graduating, the only new friends I’ve made in my new city are also people I genuinely care about (or already knew). I just don’t have the time or energy to spend time with people I don’t truly care about.
Post # 7
I have two besties, a mother figure and two close friends. The rest are just filler.
All my life, I have had problems with catty and jealous women. This worsened after I got married.
Post # 8
To me, a friend is a person who you could call at 4am and they would be there for you, whether to listen to you, as a ride to the hospital or for ANYTHING. An acquaintance is anyone who’d roll over and tell you to call back in the morning.
I am lucky to have surrounded myself with true friends. I would do anything for them and I know they would do the same for me. I didn’t have any friends until I was 19 and now that I have the amazing ones I do, it was worth the wait.
So yes. I love my friends,like my friends and would do anything for my friends.
Post # 9
I feel like I only actually like about half of my friends… But I know I loved them all at some point for some reason, so I still hang out with all of them occasionally.
Post # 10
I have a few close friends that I love dearly, however I also have a few “whatever” friends that I think are just ok. Ironically, the “whatever” friends are the ones that always want to hang out and are more needy. I guess I just have a distinct preference for low maintenance friends lol.
Post # 11
I feel like there’s a handful of people I call friends that I genuinely love and respect, and the rest I could honestly do without their filler or drama.
Post # 12
I really only have true best friends instead of “friends.” I’ve never been one for a huge social circle. There are 5 people I trust with my life who I know will be there for anything. They are really the only ones I need. SO is the exact same way.
Post # 13
@housebee: THat is exactly how it works isn’t it? Then they get mad when you would rather stay home and relax instead of deal with their annoying drama.
Post # 14
Why on earth would I be friends with someone I don’t like?
I barely have enough time to spend with the people I love, let alone wasting my time on people I don’t care about.
Post # 15
Eh. My BFF and I go through phases where we’re more connected or less connected. Thanks to study abroad, we’ve gone a whole year without seeing each other, but it was like we were never apart. Now, though, our lives are very different, so it’s difficult.
Post # 16
@Kit_Kath: I agree completely 🙂