Post # 1
Are you OK with Lap Dances
Take the Poll vote YES or NO
AND IF YES… I want to hear WHY
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Personally, they don’t fly with me.
There is no way that I want or find it in the least respectful to me or our relationship… some woman with or WITHOUT a G-String grinding her Woo-Hoo in my guy’s crotch to the point that he has an erection…
Just not acceptable behaviour IMO
I wouldn’t accept that behaviour from HIM or another woman on the street… be it someone he knows, works with etc… or some random girl he met at a Bar.
So I wonder WHY it is OK for some Bees to feel that it is ok for a Stripper to do that to their guy in a Bar (or off-site) … that he pays money to ???
This is a spin-off to a HOT TOPIC here on WBee now where a Bride-2-B discovered that there was a lot more happening with the “Strippers” at her Fiance’s Bachelor Party than she ever imagined = http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/bachelor-party-was-this-past-weekend-and-i-am-having-mental-break-down-long
So, now I am curious where women stand on this issue and WHY
Particularly those Bees who said they wouldn’t have a problem with their guy having a Lap Dance.
As Fraser Crane used to say… I’m listening
*NOTE – Anyone who hasn’t read the HOT TOPIC referenced above, may want to give it a read, because I’ve been once again surprised by how many women do not know what the term “Bachelor Party” means to some men. Ladies, you’ll want to be on the SAME PAGE as your guy in this regard as to what is and isn’t acceptable behaviour for your own relationships sake.
Post # 3
I am not okay with it in general, BUT if it happens at his bachelor party (if he ends up having one) its whatever I just dont want to know or hear about it.
Post # 4
Nope, I am not okay with it. And it’s often not merely until the guy gets an erection but through completion if you get my drift.
Post # 5
Not okay with it at all, gross…My guy knows how I feel about it and totally respects my point of view. So instead of wasting money one some random chick giving him a lap dance (cringe at even typing it), he gets to spend it on me! (lol j/k…kinda)
Post # 6
I’m okay with it. I don’t know what you want me to say for WHY, though. It just doesn’t bother me. *shrug*
Post # 7
TO – MadameTussaud: Thanks for responding… much appreciated.
Just curious tho, is your YES a one time deal like what Aicyla22: said with Reply # 2 above (the Bachelor Party) or are you Ok with Lap Dances in general.
Post # 8
@This Time Round: I’m okay with them in general. It’s not like he gets a lap dance every night or something excessive, it’s just once in a great while with his friends or sometimes he and I go together.
Post # 9
It is NOT ok. I would never marry a guy that thinks getting a lap dance is OK. To me it is crossing the line and it is cheating.
If I got a lap dance my husband would be fuming. He wouldn’t do anything that he would not want me to do.
Post # 10
Lap dance don’t bother me. I’ve even bought one for DH before! I guess to me there is a huge difference between a naked woman dancing for him and getting favors from an escort or prostitute (who strip on the side) in a back room.
@MadameTussaud: Agreed. It simply doesn’t bother me. DH doesn’t want the stripper, the stripper doesn’t care about him, and he happily comes home to me at the end of the night (or with me if I was already at the strip club with him!)
Post # 11
I can deal with my guy going to a strip club for his Bachelor Party (if he chooses, it’s not really his style) and watching, but no one can touch him. He wouldn’t let another woman touch him anyway, and he has a really great group of friends that wouldn’t let him get into those types of situations.
He’s more the type to go play paintball, have some beers, eat some BBQ and go to a bar with some live music than go to strip club. When he was younger, he did frequent strip clubs, but when he matured, it lost appeal to him. He hasn’t been in a long time, well before we met. I trust him to take my feelings and our relationship into consideration when making decisions.
Post # 12
I voted I don’t have a problem with it, because I don’t really. He didn’t even go to a strip club for his bachelor party, they intended too but they all got hammered at our house playing Rock Band and no one could drive. He is the last of his friends to get re-married, he’s been all over the world, married and divorced before, so there isn’t much he’s wanted to do that didn’t get done. I think his friends are all loving and responsible family men with children, or TTC that are all very happy in their marriages. I trust them all, and know it wouldn’t get out of hand.
Post # 13
I thought I was okay with a stripper in a bar (my definition: topless girl dancing on stage, with lap dance, no groping from FI). Hes had lap dances before, whatever thats the past.
However, FI recently went to a bachelor party at the Best Mans house and the “stripper” brought some toys and was pretty much doing herself. I was shocked when FI told me. He said he was outside most of the time. He also told me the stripper was pretty gnarly (maybe to make me not so worried).
So after that incident and definitely after reading the other post, I am definitely telling FI, “NO STRIPPERS EVER”! Unless he wants some guy dangling his goods in front of me (which I think is SUPER gross) or wanting a bunch of guys looking at me naked…. NO WAY.
That probably means I’ll have to do my own “dances” for him 🙂
Post # 14
Lap dances don’t phase me. In my book strip clubs and lap dances are right in there with porn, it’s not a big deal. I don’t have a problem with sex work in any capacity and I don’t respect a woman more or less for just doing her job especially since a lap dance has to be asked for/agreed to. I’ve been to a strip club and I know that dancers will come off the stage and solicit people in the crowd, I’ve even had one be very persistent and grind in my lap a little in an attempt to to get me to agree to one but I still had the option of saying yes or no. Assuming the club is on the up and up then a lap dance is just a fantasy, just a slightly more tangible one and despite what all the “ex-strippers” who come on to the Bee to tell us “what really goes on in a strip club” say, I don’t believe that strippers are all “man-stealing whores” who derive pleasure in sleeping with patrons wether for fun or for sport.