Post # 1
I was reading the thread about what didn’t matter in the end regarding the wedding as a whole — awesome idea for a post, btw!
We are eloping (not a secret, but we are going alone to another city THIS weekend!) but when we get back we are having a very casual cocktail party for our friends.
We will have about 60 people and are thinking heavy appetizers and drinks for two hours in a lounge type place in our hometown.
Did anyone do this?? If you had something informal like this or had a cocktail hour at your wedding reception, what did and did not matter?
Post # 3
@wrkbrk: I think that sometimes people put too much emphasis on pleasing everyone with these sorts of things. If you have 5 different apps, 3 don’t have to be vegetarian/vegan/kosher/gluten-free/peanut-free/sugar-free… you get the point. My favorite cocktail hour had a nice shrimp cocktail display, a fancy cheese and fruit display, passed hors-doeuvres, and a sangria bar. Simple, tasty, a little bit for everyone.
Post # 4
We had a regular wedding, but we kept the guest list small, under 40 people. What did matter was good food and open bar. We did beer, champagne, wine, water, iced tea, and lemon-aide. So you don’t need a full bar with unlimited choices. We had sushi which was a hit, fresh fruit, and a antipasto platter (with higher grade items, no canned olives!)
Post # 5
Thanks for your responses ladies! This pleasing others is really crazy, even with something as small and simple as we are doing! Of course we have vegans on the list and one person who can’t eat gluton. In addition … the parents have ideas. We are thinking about having maybe six heavy appetizers, some flavored popcorn (a specialty of the place where we are having it), chocolate martinis, wine and beer.
We are literally having ONE vase of flowers as far as decorations go and maybe our marriage announcement framed. When FMIL stareted talking about monogrammed napkins I stopped listening!!! 🙂
Post # 6
@wrkbrk: oh that sounds awesome. I love the chocolate martinis and popcorn. Adds a personal touch to the standard fair. Definitely do what you want, and don’t let anybody talk you into something you don’t want, but…if FMIL wants monogram napkins and she’s going to source them, order, pay and make sure they get to the venue, let her. It’ll make her happy and give her the feeling that she’s helping. I’m thinking you don’t really care if the napkins ARE monogrammed? Now if she expects you to find and order them and pay for them, well that’s different.
Post # 7
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
@wrkbrk: the party sounds great! Will you have any wedding pictures back? If I were a guest, I’d LOVE to see some framed or pinned up around the place. Even just a few, if you can get your photog to give you a few sneak peeks. And don’t forget to make the rounds… we kept getting distracted with people and talking forever, and then being like “Oh shit we gotta go mingle!”
Post # 8
@wrkbrk: Get some good music, and make sure there’s enough food for everyone. Communicate very clearly about the bar and drink options (we could have done that better). After that, a room full of cool people takes care of itself. Live music is TOTALLY worth the expense. Craigslist is your go-to spot for that. Don’t call it a wedding in your ad – call it a cocktail party, and describe the type of music you want.
Post # 9
@lolot: there should be a “like” option on posts!
@Duncan: another option for live music, if you have a small (live) theatre in town call them up and ask for recommendations. DH decided at 7:30 the NIGHT BEFORE the wedding we HAD to have a pianist. I called a theatre where I knew people, and she was able to pull up her musician list and give me names and numbers of her top pics and told me to call back if none of them were available. The guy we got was really good-had played Carnegie Hall, had him booked by 8:00 and texted him a YouTube link to SIL’s solo, he had it down the next day.