Post # 1
Ok, since the “worst” wedding thread got a little heated because of people missing the point of it, let’s let that one go and focus on the BEST parts of weddings you’ve been to.
Just so you know, if you want to bring up religious aspects you liked or anything else to that effect, please feel free to. I’m agnostic, but I have absolutely no problem with people doing their own weddings the way they want to. Hopefully everyone will play nice in this thread, and promise to be tolerant of other people’s opinions. 🙂
The best wedding I’ve been to was my sister’s, for one reason in particular. She was in the hospital the night before, and we didn’t know if she was going to pull through. Thankfully, she recovered and was even well enough to have her wedding the next day. All the little nit picking we did over the details of the wedding seemed so stupid when we thought we were going to lose her.
Post # 4
Nice thread! Ours was a NYE wedding. My brother and SIL were invited and it was two college friends. So there were a ton of people there from college who I haven’t seen in a REALLY long time. It was so nice to catch up with everyone and spend NYE with my brother and SIL (who my DH also loves). It was just plain fun. DJ was awesome and we danced pretty much all night.
Another was our younger brother’s wedding. Food alone was amazing!! I was (and still am) pregnant, so I couldn’t partake in adult beverages, but the food was totally worth it!
Post # 5
Hmmm…I guess people like to complain more than they like to praise.
It’s my (possibly unpopular) opinion that a lot of stuff brides tend to focus on does not contribute to the guests’ experience. Things that make no difference to my enjoyment: decorations/flowers, favors, color schemes, or “personalized” details like special table names. Inherently interesting or beautiful venues (ie, venues that don’t really need to be decorated) do stick out in my mind.
I remember and enjoy when there are particularly moving toasts or when someone close to the B/G does something out of the ordinary like play the guitar and sing a song for the B/G (has happened at a couple weddings I’ve attended). The “personalized” things are far more memorable and moving when they are things other people do that are directed towards the B/G as opposed to things the B/G do to make the wedding reflect their own tastes.
What I remember most is the fun I have (or don’t have) at receptions. Good food helps, but most food I’ve had at weddings is forgettable and that’s okay; everyone kind of expects that. Music (diverse so that all ages get involved) and alcohol (that it’s available!) are important. It’s great when the DJ or band plays music that appeals to all ages and you feel like you’re out there sharing in a celebration with a bunch of people you don’t even know but you’re all sort of radiating happiness for the occasion. I went to a wedding once where after dinner was over the DJ played only booty/club type music the entire time, and basically the bridal party danced while everyone else sat around looking bored. So basically, keeping your guests at the forefront of your planning choices is important!
The guest experience is certainly enhanced when things run smoothly, eg when the ceremony flows straight into the reception or there is a cocktail hour bridging the two so that people are provided for and not left to their own devices.
I couldn’t name a single best wedding I’ve been to, but the ones I have the best memories of combine the above elements.
Post # 7
I went to a lovely wedding last year. I knew the engagement story of the bride and groom (I’m a friend of the bride) and how they started dating, fell in love, etc. I was there for the excitement of seeing her engagement ring the next day after the proposal, saw all the advance pics for the wedding gown and bridal party, etc.
The wedding was outdoors at a country club and the weather was perfect that day. The bridal party was gorgeous and the bride was sweet and beautiful. They got emotional while exchanging vows, which made everyone emotional. Their love was so evident!
The reception was indoors at the club in an elegant dining room. The meal was superb, open bar, and the band was great. Everyone danced and had a great time.
All in all the wedding was simple and traditional but romantic at the same time. I really enjoyed it, in fact, I was surprised how enjoyable it was. Now she’s helping me with ideas for my upcoming wedding.