spin off: who's HAPPILY waiting?

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 4
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Helper bee

Yep, I’m happy and loved up, and loving it 🙂 OH is starting a new job today, so he’s happy and feeling positive too. 

I went off in to a happy wedding dream this morning in the car on the way to work, I really enjoy it! 

Post # 5
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Helper bee

@undercoverjoan:  I was expecting OH to propose in October (coming), but now that it’s coming closer I think it’s unlikely to happen. And actually I’m fine with that. We’re just really happy as we are at the moment. Don’t get me wrong, I’m ready for the next step, but at the moment I’m enjoying being a loving girlfriend and being loved in return 😀 

Post # 6
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Newbee

@undercoverjoan:  I am! But I’ve only been “officially” waiting for maybe 6 months and I have a timeline that it will be within the next year (probably next June). So I’m pretty content and enjoying this time period. 

 

Sometimes I think about if the roles were reversed (if I were to propose to him), and I don’t even know if I’d work up the courage to propose by next summer! Even though I’m 100% sure I want to marry him, I’d just be way to nervous and shy about it! 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee

@undercoverjoan:  Me, I guess. But I may have a more loose definition of waiting than some other bees. We have talked about the future because we have both expressed a willingness to make it happen, but I’m not expecting anything in the imminent future and am okay with where we currently are in our relationship. We have a lot to accomplish before a proposal gets underway due to reasons that are not entirely in our control.

I do my best to enjoy every minute of my life and would not want to wish any moments away. I am currently happy with where my relationship is, and that’s what’s most important. 🙂

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@undercoverjoan:  +100000 Total agree out how you view waiting.

 

 @MissMarple:  Me and your definition might be the similar. We went ring shopping and thought maybe in 3 or so months we would be engaged. Honestly as sure as I am about him it freaked me out because we had nothing saved or truly planned and so much things popping up that our money went into. Now I’ve just started fashion school and we are saving before we get engaged so when we get at that point everything will be set and ready to go. I think it won’t happen until mid of next year and I’m totally fine with that because we have talked it out set our plans into motion and working to that point we want to be before we take that step.

 

 

 

I love waitiing. He was sweet before but now that he is thinking marriage he’s even cheesier than ever :D.  Things are falling into place and it’s exciting.

 

Post # 9
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Busy bee

I’m happily waiting now! Different story few months back! He’s more or less told me a timeline 3-4 months eek! We’re just back from vacation and we spent the whole trip looking at families with kids and getting excited for when that’s us! And SO brought up Engagement/marriage and baby talk ALOT on vacation! So all going well touch wood not long more to wait! I’ll prob be ranting on this again in another 2 weeks!! LOL

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee

@242beauty:  My SO is in a master’s program (he migh continue to get a doctorate), and I’m finishing up a post-baccalaureate program and applying to doctorate programs, so we’re really not going to have “real” jobs for a long time. Plus we’re long distance.

I know some people will say we could still get engaged, but honestly I personally think that we need more time before that becomes a real possibility. Since we’re young and have been students basically our entire lives, it’s more important right now to make responsible choices about things like education, loans, and savings before we try to get hitched. Hahaha it’s harsh, but true.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Me! Happy, stupid happy waiting!! We started dating around 24/25 and have now been together for 3 years. Last spring we discussed a proposal within one year, married within 2.5. I don’t think he has made any purchases, but that’s okay. He did dust the bedroom today. 🙂

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@undercoverjoan:  ME!!!! Especially up until last week, when I had to go back to school. It was just like what you said for quite a while, but now I’m having to concentrate on grad school stuff and my SO hurt his back, so things are a little less fun the past few days. But hopefully his back will improve, because if he wasn’t so grouchy I think we’d still be all excited and in love acting!

This stage, where you have talked about it enough, you know it’s coming sometime in the next few months, and you are so happy and in love is SO MUCH FUN! It is a huge improvement over being miserable and stressed out (which I was for a little over a year). 

With this happening recently, I’ve been really surprised at how lovey we have been with each other. We’ve been together for almost 4 1/2 years and living together for 3, so that stuff has decreased a little over time. But lately my SO has been saying “I love you” when I leave for work in the morning!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@undercoverjoan:  I’m happy waiting especially when I think about the stresses that would come with planning a wedding. Just as the PP said, he is extra sweet now too. It looks as if he is trying to prove to me that he would make an awesome husband. I’m already convinced though.

Post # 15
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Worker bee

I’m happily waiting – I’ve made up my mind to be happy about it (until maybe two days ago, I felt miserable).

I always wanted to be married/engaged before we bought a house, but we’re currently renting and SO wants to buy a house before our lease ends in February.  I’ve been really resistant to it….but I’ve finally had a change of heart.  Either way, marriage or becoming home owners is a big, exciting step that are both definitely going to happen.  Instead of looking at ring/dress pictures, I’m looking up home listings, which is just so much better for my mental health.  And once we start paying off a home we will be in such a different place finanacially – a wedding is nothing in comparision to what’s involved in saving for a house.

Happily waiting (though I said that if we buy a house I expect an engagement and marriage to follow in due course).

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@MissMarple:  Well next semester I will hopefully be on financial aid which might help me save and honestly my new school tuition is like a tenth of what I paid at my old school. SO is paying off a loan which is to end may of next year but have been talking about ways to pay it off by the end of the year so he can really save for “more important things”. So if things work out we might have our savings sooner then thought but not focusing on how fast we can pay off our bills.

We do know it’s soon ( and soon for us is within a year or so not in a huge rush). Even though we live close it’s like we’re in a LDR how little we see each other.We have both talked about wantnig to be married before living together and want to deal with as much of our personal expenses as possible before joining everything together as spouses. 

 

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