Post # 1
Nobody can seem to give a good reason (or any reason, for that matter) when I asked on the thread “Is your ring a social media star?”
Most people said that it’s ok to share on places like the Wedding Bee (which is a branch of social media, btw) but it’s “tacky” on Facebook and Instagram. Why?
How is it different then weddingbee? because weddingbee is about sharing wedding related things? Facebook is about sharing things about yourself and your life….why is showing a picture of your ring tacky?
Post # 5
@skippydarling: Because it’s showing off and showing off is tacky. Of course some of your close friends might want to see the ring, but if that’s the case they’ll ask and then you show them. Posting unsolicited pics on Facebook/Instagram is presumptuous.
Post # 6
Because people who are coming specifically to a wedding website care about that kind of thing, your Facebook friends do not.
Post # 7
@skippydarling: I find a lot of social media tacky and I think the main reason is that I just don’t care. People share things I don’t give a shit about and it annoys me. That is one of many reasons I only used LinkedIn. Everyone is so self involved and they assume that the whole world cares what they are eating, where they are vacationing, what their ring looks like…and people really don’t care.
Post # 8
@ellie-b: So your facebook doesn’t show pictures of your kids or your house or anything you’ve done that you’re happy about or proud of?
You’re assuming that people are showing off their ring in order to make others feel inferior. Most people aren’t doing that. They’re doing it with a good heart and are happy to share their news.
It’s nothing to be ashamed of.
Post # 9
I was one of those that replied how sharing a photo of your ring on Facebook is tacky.
Honestly, I like seeing others’ rings on FB, but I wouldn’t post my own because I’d worry that people would think I’m bragging. I have lots of friends on there who couldn’t come close to affording the ring I have. I even feel a bit guilty posting some vacation photos. It’s not like I lead the most fabulous life ever (or that SO and I don’t work very hard for the money we do have), but I try to be conscious not to upset people. I have no problem sharing photos with people who ask… but I’m not going to be like “Hey everyone!!! Here’s a photo of the expensive rock on my finger, whether you want to see it or not!!!!” (to me, putting a photo up implies just that… but I may be overthinking it a little!).
At least on this site it’s wedding-related, and on ring threads everyone is posting their ring… some of which cost less than mine, some of which cost more. It’s also anonymous.
Post # 10
I find it self indulgent and unnecessary. Posting on a site like WB is different because we all come here in order to discuss all things wedding and marriage related. I don’t walk around in real life shoving my ring in people’s faces so I don’t see the need to show it to everyone on my friend list. The only people who I think are actually interested in seeing the ring are my group of girlfriends. Beyond that, I don’t think anyone cares about the ring.
Post # 11
@MrsPanda99: Fair enough but you post a lot on this site.
You share your opinion A LOT on this site (most of the time when nobody asked you to)- which there is nothing wrong with. Why do you assume people care? In a way – you’re sharing in just the same way that people on facebook are sharing.
Post # 12
@skippydarling: I don’t think it is tacky unless you keep posting photos or commenting on the size, price etc.
I plan to post a picture when it happens. I have seen a few bees commenting that it is tacky to post on instagram because there are people who are not interested in seeing it on there – but I don’t care about the photo they took of their lunch either so… haha
Post # 13
I don’t think it’s tacky at all. People post pictures of their new houses, babies, rings and new cars! I am excited for them and usually very curious about the ring when I see someone is engaged.
I WANT to see wedding pictures. I want to see ring pictures. I don’t know why anyone thinks it’s tacky? My picture said “I said yes!”, with no stats, no details, just a shot of my hand. I got like 200 “likes”, so I guess it didn’t ruin too many people’s day…..
Post # 14
@Jellybones: Well I think posting a picture on facebook, a site where people have the choice to friend you or even subscribe to your feed is a lot different than “shoving” your ring in their faces. A lot different.
Post # 15
@skippydarling: Who doesn’t love a poll with canned responses?
@canarydiamond: +1 and this is what I said in the other post yesterday. I don’t want anyone to think I’m bragging but I do like to see other’s rings. I think BRAGGING is TACKY! Maybe that’s what’s driving the (over)use of the T-word.
Post # 16
@skippydarling: “You’re assuming that people are showing off their ring in order to make others feel inferior.” Did I say that? I don’t remember saying that? We clearly disagree and frankly, this doesn’t matter.