Spin-Off: Would you and SO vacation w/a single friend?

posted 3 years ago in Travel
  • poll: Would you and your SO vacay w/a single friend?
    I don't see why not. : (32 votes)
    58 %
    Yes, but only if [explain] : (4 votes)
    7 %
    No way : (19 votes)
    35 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    You gave a lot of reasons not to see her that have nothing to do with your SO. She isn’t convenient.  The end. She cannot afford to come to you and you cannot afford to go see her (time/ time off and money).

    Just in general I would not vacation with my husband and a single GF. He feels obligated to pay for women and the times we have gone out with my girl friend (s) or female family members he always picks up the tab. Which really means WE pay for the drinks, the meal, the tickets and that burns a hole in OUR pocket. Also, we like our privacy and wouldn’t want to share a condo with another person or couple. Lastly, my husband would not have the desire to hang out with me and a friend for week. That is not his idea of a good time. 

    Post # 4
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    1627 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Your poll does not make sense. What’s the question? And why are both answers positive.

    Post # 7
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    10219 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Based on the scenario you’ve outlined, it doesn’t sound like meeting up with her by yourself or with your Hubby is going to work.

    So sadly, unless she as the Traveller can make it to you (the worker) it looks like you are going to have to give seeing each other a pass

    As for your Poll Question…

    It can indeed be a bit odd to travel with a 3rd Wheel vs Alone as GFs.  Couple Travel (2×2) is definitely much easier than a party of 3.  When there are 2 Couples as you say, things just seem to jive better… you all do things together, the guys hang out, the girls hang out, or the couples go their own way.  Makes for a much easier time… Mr TTR & I have done many Couples Holidays, and they’ve always worked out well.

    I think that if we were presented with travelling with just a 3rd Person, we’d give it a pass (unless it was an immediate family member)

     

     

    Post # 8
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    1627 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    @Overjoyed:  lol, umm no. we have vacationed with my husband’s friends. Each couple stayed in their own hotel room or condo. Now, as vacatuoning couples we all turn into HS kids teasingeach other when a couple is late meeting in a lobby or something. Didn’t plan out  morning sex to make it on time. We don’t even stay with family when we vacay…we want our privacy. 

    Post # 9
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    808 posts
    Busy bee

    @Overjoyed:  It sounds like the entirely reasonable problems you anticipate are to do with many other reasons – not the being single. You don’t sound keen, so definitely make your excuses!

    I’m going to a friend’s wedding in asia and my fiance and I are sharing a room with a single friend for a couple of nights. Doesn’t bother me!

    Post # 11
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    7208 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @Overjoyed:  I wouldn’t do it, with or without my husband, and whether or not she had a partner. It’s all about “travel style” as you put it – travelling with a friend just causes tension, and can spoil the vacation. One day and overnight with a friend? Sure. A whole week – no, not even with my best female friend. (In fact, a tension-filled week long vacation with my best friend and our husbands is why I said “never again”).

    Post # 12
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2015

    @Overjoyed:  I will echo others who said you have a lot of reasons not to that have very little to do with simply a couple + a single. I wouldn’t go in your case. 

    That said, when I was single I had a couple friends who were married and invited me on vacation. It was fun! FI and I don’t really have any single friends we are close to but I could see us splitting a cabin with one of my single cousins or something. And definitely another couple! We are not generally quiet in bed either but I’m sure we could manage it for a few nights!

    Post # 13
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    1952 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    No, I wouldn’t do it.

    Post # 14
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I voted yes because I don’t see issues vacationing with single friends. In cases where there is a resort or something that everyone is travelling to and getting separate rooms or suites is easy, I’d say definite yes.

    But in this paticular case I don’t really see why you would want to go. There are a lot of reasons not to. 

    Post # 15
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    @Overjoyed:  I definitely would.. I don’t see the issue? If you cant afford it that’s one thing, but I always think the more the merrier! We go on weekend getaways with friends some times… A longer vacation would be fine so long as the single friend doesnt mind. 

    Post # 16
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    9412 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    I would vacation with another couple provided we were very close but not a single person. 

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