Post # 1
So I have had friends who dated someone and after there break up I remained friends with them. Most of them were from my high school but my good guy friend had two serious relationships with women that didn’t attend my high school but lived near their area at the time and after they broke up I am still friends with them. My other friend is currently dating a girl who I talk to on Facebook and I haven’t met her in person yet I have clicked very well with her during our chats on Facebook and twitter. Does this relate to you guys?
Post # 3
Hellz no. Unless she bought me a drink.
Post # 4
@deetroitwhat: yep hs means high school
Post # 5
Lol, HS is a distant memory
Real life begins after college… once you are out on your own working full time, have an apartment etc. (get married, have kids etc)
Funny thing is life (and the act of living it) is sooo intense in HS & College etc (15 thru one’s early 20s) that one imagines that it is extremely relative
In the big scheme it of things, it doesn’t add up to a hill of beans (and definitely not from a “social” perspective)
I stopped looking back at HS fondly around the time I was finishing college.
I stopped looking back at College / Uni fondly around the time I was in my mid to late 20s… had a career, married, and kids.
That is about the time you realize how ridiculous this whole statement “these are the best years of your life are”… trust me they aren’t. Life is soooo much better once you mature. Which doesn’t fully happen until you are in your mid to late 20s. (over 25)
Hope this helps,
Post # 6
Not if I wasn’t friends with him/her beforehand. Me going to school with him a decade ago doesn’t really matter. If I only know him through his girlfriend (my friend), when they break up, we can be friendly but I wouldn’t consider him a friend ie no hanging out, texting, calling, etc. And not even that if he was a jerk to my friend.
Post # 7
i guess this is kind of the other way around but i am still friends with my ex’s best friend and his wife. they actually attended my wedding.
Post # 8
If I started hanging out with people from my high school (shudder), then I suppose I would end up being friends with someone my friends had dated…but I don’t know anyone from high school, really, so that’s a moot point.
In college…yeah, sure. It was a crazy time, though.
Now…well, I’m friends with my one friend’s ex-girlfriend. If my best friend broke up with her boyfriend I would not be his friend. So it really depends on the person and my relationship with him/her.
Post # 9
@QuirkySocialite: +1. I stay friends with my primary friend. If my friend breaks up with someone (even someone I like), I stay loyal to my friend. I will be friends with her next partner instead.
Anything that happened in high school, I have no connection to anymore.
Post # 10
I think picking sides in a breakup is kind of juvenile. Just because a couple doesn’t work out doesn’t mean they should lose the friends they made during the relationship. My best friend’s husband is an amazing guy, and unless he did something truly awful to her, I’d remain friends with him if they were to split up.
When my husband was in his early twenties he was in a group of friends that was all couples, he and his Girlfriend broke up and all the other couples married, they all reamained friends. She and I attended the bachelorette party of one of the other girls in the group together! lol
Post # 11
I think it depends on the situation. I would usually remain friends with their ex if I had a close bond with them but it depends on why they broke up. If cheating was involved ie my friends bf/gf cheated on them then I sure would cut contact for the respect of my friend but if their was no cheating involved then I would remain friends with that ex signifant other if I had a close bond with them.
Post # 12
I would remain friends with a friend’s ex if we had a history together which means we knew each other way back when. Right now, I’m torn if I want to remain cordial with a friend’s ex. We have mutual friends; and, I wouldn’t want to make anyone uncomfortable by clearly cutting ties with her.
Post # 13
It would depend. I do have few sets of friends who dated and broke up and I stayed friends with both people, but we were friends before they dated. There’s only one situation where I met one because they were dating and we stayed friends – that was in grad school. We were friends with both people by the time they broke up – so why not? (Both came to my wedding, too, though obviously not together.)
The only thing that would definitely keep me from staying friends with a friend’s ex would be if he or she was violent or mistreated my friend emotionally or physically. If they’re a good person and it just didn’t work out… no reason to end a friendhsip in my mind.
Post # 14
@LadyBear: I totally agree with you on this. Thank you. The only way I wouldn’t stay friends with their ex is if they mistreated my friend or if it was a family member I would cut ties regardless on why they broke up unless I attended the same school as them.
Post # 15
Why single out high school? Friends are friends, regardless of what stage of life you meet them.
Post # 16
I’m sorry, but I can’t even figure out what your post is about . . .