Spin off. Would you be friends with your friends ex bfs/ ex girlfriends

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
  • poll:
    Yes : (31 votes)
    41 %
    No : (18 votes)
    24 %
    Yes but only to those that attended my hs/ college : (8 votes)
    11 %
    No. My friends feelings are important and I lost contact out of respect for them : (19 votes)
    25 %
  • Post # 3
    4367 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    High school?

    Hellz no.  Unless she bought me a drink.

    Post # 5
    10219 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Lol, HS is a distant memory

    Thank God

    Real life begins after college… once you are out on your own working full time, have an apartment etc. (get married, have kids etc)

    Funny thing is life (and the act of living it) is sooo intense in HS & College etc (15 thru one’s early 20s) that one imagines that it is extremely relative

    In the big scheme it of things, it doesn’t add up to a hill of beans (and definitely not from a “social” perspective)

    I stopped looking back at HS fondly around the time I was finishing college.

    I stopped looking back at College / Uni fondly around the time I was in my mid to late 20s… had a career, married, and kids.

    That is about the time you realize how ridiculous this whole statement “these are the best years of your life are”… trust me they aren’t.  Life is soooo much better once you mature.  Which doesn’t fully happen until you are in your mid to late 20s. (over 25)

    Hope this helps,


    Post # 6
    1470 posts
    Bumble bee

    Not if I wasn’t friends with him/her beforehand. Me going to school with him a decade ago doesn’t really matter. If I only know him through his girlfriend (my friend), when they break up, we can be friendly but I wouldn’t consider him a friend ie no hanging out, texting, calling, etc. And not even that if he was a jerk to my friend.

    Post # 7
    11379 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2012

    i guess this is kind of the other way around but i am still friends with my ex’s best friend and his wife.  they actually attended my wedding.

    Post # 8
    9949 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    If I started hanging out with people from my high school (shudder), then I suppose I would end up being friends with someone my friends had dated…but I don’t know anyone from high school, really, so that’s a moot point.

    In college…yeah, sure.  It was a crazy time, though.

    Now…well, I’m friends with my one friend’s ex-girlfriend.  If my best friend broke up with her boyfriend I would not be his friend.  So it really depends on the person and my relationship with him/her.

    Post # 9
    9412 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    @QuirkySocialite:  +1. I stay friends with my primary friend. If my friend breaks up with someone (even someone I like), I stay loyal to my friend. I will be friends with her next partner instead.

    Anything that happened in high school, I have no connection to anymore.

    Post # 10
    2237 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2007

    I think picking sides in a breakup is kind of juvenile. Just because a couple doesn’t work out doesn’t mean they should lose the friends they made during the relationship. My best friend’s husband is an amazing guy, and unless he did something truly awful to her, I’d remain friends with him if they were to split up. 

    When my husband was in his early twenties he was in a group of friends that was all couples, he and his GF broke up and all the other couples married, they all reamained friends. She and I attended the bachelorette party of one of the other girls in the group together! lol 

    Post # 12
    1722 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I would remain friends with a friend’s ex if we had a history together which means we knew each other way back when.  Right now, I’m torn if I want to remain cordial with a friend’s ex.  We have mutual friends; and, I wouldn’t want to make anyone uncomfortable by clearly cutting ties with her.


    Post # 13
    3833 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    It would depend. I do have few sets of friends who dated and broke up and I stayed friends with both people, but we were friends before they dated.  There’s only one situation where I met one because they were dating and we stayed friends – that was in grad school. We were friends with both people by the time they broke up – so why not? (Both came to my wedding, too, though obviously not together.)

    The only thing that would definitely keep me from staying friends with a friend’s ex would be if he or she was violent or mistreated my friend emotionally or physically. If they’re a good person and it just didn’t work out… no reason to end a friendhsip in my mind. 

    Post # 15
    7039 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Why single out high school? Friends are friends, regardless of what stage of life you meet them.

    Post # 16
    457 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I’m sorry, but I can’t even figure out what your post is about . . .

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