SPINOFF: After being told 3 times, would you expect a 6 year old to understand?

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
  • poll: After being told 3 times in a row to not do something, would you expect a 6 year old to understand?
    Yes, and I would remove my child from the negative situation if he/she chose not to listen : (149 votes)
    93 %
    No. it's too harsh to expect a 6 year old to understand, even after telling them 3 times : (10 votes)
    6 %
    Other/Please Explain : (2 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 3
    3199 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @megz06:  some children start first grade at the age of 6, and by 7 they’ve all started full-time school. they ARE old enough to  understand no and to receive consequences for their actions. i certainly did at that age.

    at your request i have chosen not to comment on the parenting choices of this girl’s parents or grandparents.

    Post # 4
    635 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I have a step son who just turned 8 – I’ve been his stepmother since he was 4.  At ANY time if he had acted like that girl did in your original post he would have been removed from the situation (and probably spanked!)

    ETA – not spanked by me … I’ve never spanked him, that’s his dad’s job!



    Post # 5
    9019 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    You are completely in the right in this situation.  That child is a pure-T brat, as we say in the South.  You’ve been nice enough but, if I were you, to protect YOURSELF I would never allow that child near my dog again.  Sooner or later he will bite her and then charges will be pressed against YOU.  Not worth it.  Don’t allow that kid in your yard ever again. 

    Post # 7
    1163 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @megz06:  Yes 6 is definitely old enough to understand no and to understand consequences. I just babysat my neices who are 2 and 4 and they both understood when I would say no or shake my head when they touched something off limits. 

    Post # 8
    2565 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    Especially when it comes to animals, children need to understand.  If that girl were my child she would have been told once how to behave with the dog and removed from the situation if she did not listen.  Many of the children who are injured by animals are not being supervised appropriately by their parents or haven’t been told the right way to interact with animals.  It is safer for the children and the animals if they all learn how to interact properly with each other, and if they can’t you separate them.

    Post # 9
    1470 posts
    Bumble bee

    It’s not a matter of her not understanding….she understood completely (unless she has a developmental disorder). She chose not to heed your directions, hence the big fat no you got as an answer to your requests.

    Am I missing something? Because it seems too obvious to be real…


    Post # 10
    9019 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    And – a normal six-year-old should absolutely be able to understand and follow instructions after the FIRST time being told, let alone the third time.  Good grief.

    Post # 11
    3128 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2017

    @MrsMc77:  I agree. I think at age 6 she definitely understands. I would start teaching that behavior (warnings then situation removal) pretty much immediately as a toddler. 

    Post # 13
    9412 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    @megz06:  Are they old enough to understand particle theory after it is explained three times? No. Are they old enough to understand basic rules and boundaries? Of course they are. Whether or not they have been taught that they need to listen and respect adults is a completely different question though.

    I have enough nieces and nephews to start a soccer team. Emma, one of my favourites (don’t tell), is around the age we are talking about. I have similar rules about my dog with Emma (she knows that she has to make him work for a treat, she knows not to approach him in the wrong way, and she knows not to run unless she wants to be chased and licked).

    Three times is more than enough for them to understand. The child was obviously ignoring you and her actual guardian at the time should have stepped in. Emma would never chose to ignore any adult because she knows better, but if she dared to then her mother (my sister) would step in immediately and make it known she was being bad.

    Post # 15
    4576 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    Sounds like your garden-variety 6 year old to me. She may not understand the concept, but she understands “stop doing that” and “no.” Grandma should have stepped in.

    *So* glad no one has ever tried to bring their kids to our house.

    Post # 16
    1468 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    She most likely understands she just doesn’t care.  She’s a 6 year old…not all 6 year old are mindful.  For that matter not all 60 year olds are mindful.  It really has nothing to do with age it’s all about the person.  It’s obvious that she won’t listen to you so she shouldn’t be allowed to play with the dog until she can.  It’s in your own best interest. 

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