Spinoff: Are you easily offended on the bee when it comes to bee?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Are you easily offended on the bee while reading the boards?
    Yes -- Bees push my buttons quite often. : (9 votes)
    5 %
    Somewhat -- I find myself at times being offended. : (35 votes)
    19 %
    Not really -- I dont often feel upset/offended while reading the bee. : (106 votes)
    58 %
    Never -- Peoples comments never offend me. : (32 votes)
    18 %
  • Post # 2
    Member
    1249 posts
    Bumble bee

    Eh, i never comment that I am offended. I dont particularly like some of the things people say to me, nor agree with them, but i dont feed their drama. I move on to the more helpful posts, not ones that slam me. So i guess sometimes i feel offended, but i dont relatiate. Move on & let it go! It is just the internet afterall 🙂

    Post # 3
    Member
    1779 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Barbiestylez:  Uh no. I’m non-confrontational to begin with and honestly, if someone wants to put cash only on an invite that’s fine with me. Would I ever do it? Hell no. But hey, I’m not going to verbally berate someone about it either. ETA: I don’t feel offended about most things either. Unless someone was literally like ‘Hey, you suck, so fix that’ then I might be a bit pissed. A differing opinion is nothing to get your feathers ruffled over.

    • This reply was modified 2 years, 6 months ago by  springbride23.
    Post # 4
    Member
    2364 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    Barbiestylez:  Offended?  No.  Aggravated?  Yes! 

    If I see a topic that particular people were the last to comment on, it makes me want to roll my eyes b/c I know they’re undoubtedly fighting with someone.  There are repeat offenders of this and it’s just so counter productive! 

    Then again, who knows…someone may have pegged me as a rabble-rouser and I’m a source of eye roll for them!  

    Post # 5
    Member
    1131 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I think sometimes people get huffed about issues, but not in terms of being emotionally upset, just in terms of being opinionated.

    I definitely have opinions about certain things, but I am not ‘upset’ that people exist who do not share my opinions and act on them. But I’m definitely guilt of being the type of person who can get passionate about something in order to sway someone else’s opinion. Similarly I’ve had my opinions changed by good or passionate arguments here on the bee.

    Post # 6
    Member
    397 posts
    Helper bee

    You say don’t get offended easily and are totally apathetic about opinionated/snarky bees… Yet, you created an entire post about it. I don’t know. Just seems sort of contradictory, IMO.

    Post # 8
    Member
    5966 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2017

     

    Never.

    Im not easily offended in general. I may disagree or get annoyed. But never offended. Being offended would require that I care what a particular person thinks. And for the most part, I don’t really concern myself with the opinions of people on the internet. Im all for a good debate with an internet stranger just for the fun of it and to possibly see another side of something. I have no issue letting people know where I stand on something. I also may not agree with the opinions of others on here but Im never offended by them.

    Im not a very sensitive person in general.

     

    Post # 10
    Member
    5017 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Barbiestylez:  I am pretty laid back when it comes to things, especially some wedding etiquette stuff.

    I posted about reminding my close friends/FI’s family to RSVP for my shower – and I got yelled at for that! How offensive of me to text my best friend and ask her to please RSVP. Clearly I am gift grabbing and so greedy!!! How dare I not make my sister (who has a busy job and works 14 hours a day and has no ones phone numbers) not call everyone when I could send the text in 4 seconds! How SHOCKING! LOL.

    Post # 11
    Member
    2364 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    Barbiestylez:  I literally used the words, “Why so angry” to someone who I was NOT EVEN ADDRESSING and jumped all over something I said, b/c they took it out of context.  I can’t with this site sometimes!!  

    Post # 13
    Member
    42546 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Barbiestylez:  I think we also have to keep in mind that there is no tone, or body language associated with online postings. Some of the posts that seem angry may be misinterpreted intent, poor writing skills etc.

    Then there are the posts that are clearly angry…

    Post # 13
    Member
    1737 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2014 - 13th ~ TN

    Barbiestylez:  I am not because, like you, I try to avoid some of the posts I know are going to go that way. I try to avoid any posts about religon (unless it is someone asking specific questions & I know they are looking for certain responses). Meaning, I am not going to jump on a post that says “why do you think your religon is the best?” that is one looking to start something.

    I also avoid any that bring up polictical issues, issues about sexual orientation, etc. I only try to stick with wedding / relationship / home / family advice. And I try to not get too deeply involved in some of those discussions.

    Post # 15
    Member
    5017 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Barbiestylez:  So we arent outraged over posts…we are outraged over peoples responses to posts! LOL

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