Post # 1
There have been a couple of posts today talking about our SO’s being your best friend etc.. it reminded me about a convo I had with my best friend. I was telling her that I was glad that FI was my best friend and she said “really? I don’t believe in that. I’d rather he be my lover. I have you and my mom to be my best friend.”
I totally understand where she was coming from but my thought was that ultimately after all is said and done what we have is friendship.. when we’re old and gray, aren’t having as much sex, our skin is aged and weathered I want to be sitting there with my best friend more than a man I had awesome passion with.
Do I think both are important? Absolutely.. I think you need both to make a relationship work BUT.. assuming you could only choose one..
Which would you pick? A best friend or a lover?
Post # 3
He is my best friend and my lover, I don’t think it should be one or the other.
Post # 4
Best friend, but really he’s both. If the passion dies, you can work at it (or buy a vibrator); if you don’t like one another, you’re kind of screwed!
Post # 6
@Cady: +1 I have both in my FI and I wouldn’t change it 🙂
Post # 7
Hubby and I are best friends… I like it that way.
Post # 8
Ha ha ha, 17 votes and not one for “Lover”…. guess we’ve got a lot of practical bees ’round these parts. :}
Post # 9
It makes me sad when people think like your friend does about relationships. Inevitably, passion fades over time and life (illness, financial strain, etc) gets in the way of passion and sex. Without the foundational “best friend” relationship, I think a couple is SOL.
Post # 10
My SO is my best friend, but our relationship simply wouldn’t be the same without the physical attraction we have with one another. Not just the sexual stuff, but the holding hands and cuddly affectionate stuff. I believe that will last until we’re old and gray and that’s what makes my relationship with my SO so much better than just being roomates with my best friend.