Spinoff: Bridal Showers- Yea or Nay?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Are bridal showers the norm in your area?
    Yes! And I live in the US South : (43 votes)
    21 %
    No! And I live in the US South : (3 votes)
    1 %
    Yes! And I live in the US Midwest : (48 votes)
    24 %
    No! And I live in the US Midwest : (3 votes)
    1 %
    Yes! And I live in the US Northeast/New England : (41 votes)
    20 %
    No! And I live in the US Northeast/New England : (4 votes)
    2 %
    Yes! And I live in the US West (West coast, etc. incl. CO) : (27 votes)
    13 %
    No! And I live in the US West (West coast, etc. incl. CO) : (6 votes)
    3 %
    Yes! And I live in the US East (East coast, etc) : (27 votes)
    13 %
  • Post # 3
    5432 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016

    I live in Canada, which isn’t on your poll 🙁 aha, but anyways in my province (Ontario) they’re totally the norm and aren’t viewed as gift-grabby. Mostly it’s just people invited to the wedding, but I’ve seen some where a ton of people were invited who weren’t invited to the wedding, which kind of seemed greedy/odd.

    Post # 4
    8720 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Everyone here in NY and NJ has one. 

    Post # 6
    839 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I am from VA, and 99% of my friends/family had showers. I now live in CT, and everyone here has them too. The guest list is limited to those invited to the wedding in both regions.

    However, the part of CT I live in has a tradition called Stag Parties (no, they aren’t the same as bachelor parties). From what I understand, the groomsmen host the Stag Party as a fundraiser for the groom (and to help pay for the wedding, I guess). Anyone can attend, not just wedding guests – sometimes, the hosts will even put an ad in the paper to let people know about the party. You buy a ticket to attend, then there are raffles with prizes, and the leftover money is gifted to the groom. Most of them are structured as a guys night out and will include food, drinks and entertainment (games and/or strippers). 

    Post # 7
    10453 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2011

    They are common in AB too.  Usually it’s people invited to the wedding, but work, church, or other groups will also host them even when everyone isn’t invited.

    Post # 8
    8680 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I’m from Indiana, US.

    They are pretty common here, as are baby showers and bachorlettes.

    I originally wasn’t going to have a lette or a shower, but my aunt convinced me I should.. she’s throwing it with one of her friends, so I guess it’s okay.

    Post # 9
    42082 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I live in British Columbia and they are very common here. Often a bride has several showers: one thrown by the bridesmaids, one hosted by the FI’s family, sometimes work and church colleagues and friends.

    For the most part they are not as elaborate as I have seen pictured or posted about here. They are usually held in someone’s home with lunch or appies, some decor, a few games and a gift exchange.

    Post # 11
    8818 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    Canada and yes!

    Post # 12
    81 posts
    Worker bee

    Like most of your replies, I’m in Canada (Atlantic coast), and showers are common here.  Jack and Jill showers are also common here too.


    Post # 14
    1662 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @gingerkitten:  I live in Canada too, in Alberta. Bridal showers are considered fairly normal, not everybody has one but they are still common. I would say 2/3 of the girls I know have them.

    Post # 15
    195 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @julies1949:  I’m from SW Ontario and it’s the same here.  Not nearly as elaborate as the ones I see posted on the bee! Almost all of them are in a house, although I’ve now been to two baby showers in a hall. 


    Post # 16
    2151 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    They’re the norm here in Ontario! We typically rent a hall and all the women invited to the wedding are invited to the shower.

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