(Closed) SPINOFF: Did he LIE, or did you KNOW that you were the other woman?

posted 4 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Have you been the "other woman"? If so, did you know it, or did the man pretend to be single?
    I was tricked into being the "other woman". That scumbag lied. I respect others' relationships. : (35 votes)
    17 %
    I knowingly was/am a mistress or the "other woman" and he was married. All's fair in love and war. : (40 votes)
    20 %
    I have never been the other woman, and I never would knowingly choose to be a mistress. : (92 votes)
    45 %
    I have never been the other woman, but I'd go after a taken man if I really wanted him. : (1 votes)
    0 %
    I knowingly was/am a mistress or the "other woman", but he was NOT married, just in a relationship. : (37 votes)
    18 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    547 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @FLBlonde93:  I’m curious, does the man have to be married for you to be considered the “other woman” … or can you be considered the “other woman” if you hook up with a man who’s in an exclusive relationship with someone else?

    ETA: do you want to know only about those who’ve been with married men… or cheaters in general?

    Post # 5
    Member
    230 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    We both knew exactly what we were doing.  His marriage was long over before I ever came along.  Of course, everybody who doesn’t know the whole story thinks I am a homewrecker, but I really don’t care.  I’m happy; he’s happy; the ex wife is now living the life she deserves.

    Post # 8
    Member
    1194 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I knew it.  We were together for years and just couldn’t cut ties even though he had a girlfriend.  I just couldn’t let go.

    Post # 9
    Member
    6209 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

    I have (thankfully!) never been the other woman, however I wouldn’t want to go after a married guy, even if I wanted him. Not because I am above that, but more because I wouldn’t want to date a guy who would cheat.

    Post # 12
    Member
    1980 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2014
    Post # 13
    Member
    547 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @FLBlonde93:  I voted already… but I would vote for the new category if I could re-vote.  It was a long time ago. He & I were on/off for several years, and during a long “off” period he dated someone else. I hooked up with him while he was dating her to prove to myself that he was not a good guy. I was young, dumb, and selfish. I’m not proud of it, but it did help me see what an asshole he was and it helped me move on from a very toxic relationship. 

    Post # 14
    Member
    825 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @FLBlonde93:  I was knowingly the “other woman” in my first serious “relationship.” He had a long distance girlfriend and was not married, but I still felt awful. I tell him that he had to choose between us because I couldn’t do that to another woman. 

    Post # 15
    Member
    1194 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    @FLBlonde93:  Oh gosh, no.  Eventually, I packed up my stuff, left the town I lived in, met my husband and it’s six years later 🙂  

    I am quite thankful every day he didn’t leave her for me. 

    Post # 16
    Member
    3281 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Ours was in high school, he (FI) was “dating” one of my best friends for about a month or two although we had been friends with benefits for 2 years before they dated. I kinda hooked them up, and felt pretty bad when he starting calling me, etc. We only kissed but I felt pretty bad, we tried to fight it but knew we were meant to be together. We both broke up with our SOs at the time and have been happily together for many years! But to answer your questions yes we both knew about each others SOs

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