- 4 years ago
- Wedding: June 2012
When I was thinking about what disappoints me at weddings, the thing that came to mind is… my DH. This is an awful thing to say, and yes, I have talked to him about it, but I do feel the need to vent, if you’ll listen.
We attended a DW 2 summers ago, while we were engaged. We had a lot of fun – dancing, drinking, etc (it was a really nice wedding at the Biltmore Estate). DH was a GM for his good friend. Then, he got totally drunk. He also caught the garter, and for whatever reason, decided it was appropriate to basically do a lap dance for the BM that caught the bouquet. In his defense, this was probably the better option – they put the girl in a chair and told my DH to put the garter on her leg. She wouldn’t have it, so he did the dance instead. I drove us back to the hotel when the party was over, very upset, and I’m still sore over it. I just found out in April that they went to a strip club as part of this groom’s bachelor party. I’m not really upset about the strip club part, but moreso that he lied about it/didn’t tell me.
Then, DH’s brother got married this past April. This was the first wedding we attended as a married couple, and the first time we saw DH’s family in quite a while, so I was really hoping for a nice, romantic evening. Well, the brother had a ‘cigar bar’ at the outdoor reception, and it was open mostly during the dancing. I’m not one to dance without my DH, so I sat at the table and talked with the other ladies the whole time (I feel like that was bad planning on their part – the dance floor was basically empty while the cigar bar was open). Then, once he was done with his cigar, there was some obnoxious pop song playing, with people now dancing, and a circle had formed on the dance floor. DH felt the best way to express his enjoyment of the song was to get in the circle and do some moves that involved laying on the floor in his rented tux. It was ridiculous and I was so embarrassed. After that, he decorated his brother’s getaway car. So basically, I was without him for the entire wedding besides dinner, and it was at dinner that I found out about the aforementioned strip club, because we were sitting with the bride and groom from the aforementioned wedding and the bride told me.
Obviously, his shenanigans came from his drunkenness, and we’ve talked about that – how I get upset when he gets obnoxious from drinking too much. Also, at his brother’s wedding, I was really hurt by everything his family was doing that they didn’t do for us, and I guess it’s still getting to me, even now, in June. In DH’s defense, we went to a dry wedding that we really enjoyed as a couple, and another wedding with an open bar where I was a BM and he did NOT get wasted, and we had a great time.
I’m probably making too much about the 2 weddings that we attended where he got a little out of control, but it’s been weighing on my mind. It feels good to share a little.