Post # 1
On another thread I saw that a bee mentioned that the majority of the people she knows would prefer to have a boy as their first child. That interested me, and I wanted to take a poll to see if that is true on the Bee!
So which, if YOU had to choose, would YOU prefer as a first child?
Post # 3
I don’t know what their reasoning was, but when I was young I always wanted an older brother, so that made me always want a boy first. Getting pregnant I didn’t care but I sorta felt like I wanted a girl because DH’s family constantly talked about feeling like his first kid would be a girl, we got used to that idea. But, we’re having a boy first!
Post # 4
I think people just prefer for a boy to be first so they can have an older brother protector.
And also because a lot of people think boys are “easier” to raise.
Post # 5
- Wedding: August 2015 - Backyard Forest
If I had to choose… I want one of both – a boy then a girl. My reasoning is because my older brother passed away when I was 19, and I would like my daughter to have an older brother.
That being said, I would be happy if I had a girl then a boy
Or two boys or two girls
Post # 6
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@hollyberry4: There was a post earlier today and significantly more Bees voted for girls. It was almost double the number for boys.
Just saw that you meant as a first child. Well it’s obviously from old 50s TV where the older brother protects the younger sister because every home had the perfect boy/girl child ratio. It’s old fashioned and silly imo.
Post # 7
@hollyberry4: What matters to me is that my future kids have all their fingers, all their toes, and all the other parts they need. I honestly don’t care if I have a Boy or a Girl, so long as the little one is happy and healthy.
Post # 8
@hollyberry4: I don’t yet have any children but I do not prefer to have one sex over the other. What I’m mist concerned about is having a healthy child. I know each person/couple is different but I do not like to hear people saying they only want boys. I also don’t think it matters if you have a boy first or not.
Post # 9
We were 50-50% on the first child (although DH’s grandfather was clearly pulling for a boy, haha). Now we’d like a girl, because our first is a boy, but won’t be disappointed if we have another boy.
Post # 10
I could not have cared less as long as the baby was healthy.
If that is not the case, I really think people ought to think twice and then think again before expressing any kind of preference, even to a spouse! I know one ex-wife who used the information against the former H by telling her little girl her dad had wanted a boy as a way of turning her against the dad.
Post # 11
I feel terrible for my reasoning, and I know that it’s stereotyping, but part of me is worried that if FI and I decide to have children and we have a girl that I will not be able to relate to her. My own mother was not capable of relating to me for many years–seriously not until I was about 19 or 20 years old.
Obviously a girl could like the same things I do, and obviously a boy could like things that I can’t relate with, so yes, it’s a silly way to think, but I can’t help but worry just a little.
EDIT: I do want to say that my capability of even having a baby is of some concern. Both my brother and I were very premature and could have died, and this was after almost a decade of my parents trying for children; so of course I would hope for a healthy child that stays in until it’s ‘done baking’.
Post # 12
I don’t have children and honestly I just want a healthy baby. By the time I have a LO he or she may be it. I am not concerned or planning for two when all I want is one right now. Boy or Girl, doesn’t matter.
Post # 13
I tried not to feel a preference because I did not want to be “disappointed”; all I really wanted was a healthy baby. That said, I did an inner fist pump when I found out I was having a girl. I have always dreamed of having a daughter.
Post # 14
Before I found out what we were having I said (and thought) I genuinely didn’t care, but during my anatomy scan I realized I was rooting in my head for a girl– which is what we are having! I think the thing is, I wanted A girl…. I didn’t really care if it was the first kid or second… but having a girl first really takes the pressure off for the next one because I really really don’t care if I have 2 girls or a girl and a boy.
Post # 15
@hollyberry4: We only want boys. It’s a problem. We may not have kids at all. I’d be so unhappy with a girl.
Post # 16
@hollyberry4: Hehe is this thread based on the comment I made about people prefering boys where i am from?:) I am interested in seeing the poll results:)