SPINOFF: do most people prefer to have baby boys?

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
  • poll: Which would you prefer?
    Boy : (118 votes)
    24 %
    Girl : (201 votes)
    41 %
    I genuinely would not care : (162 votes)
    33 %
    I don't plan to have children : (11 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
    5697 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I don’t know what their reasoning was, but when I was young I always wanted an older brother, so that made me always want a boy first. Getting pregnant I didn’t care but I sorta felt like I wanted a girl because DH’s family constantly talked about feeling like his first kid would be a girl, we got used to that idea. But, we’re having a boy first!

    Post # 4
    8518 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I think people just prefer for a boy to be first so they can have an older brother protector.

    And also because a lot of people think boys are “easier” to raise.

    Post # 5
    802 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2015 - Backyard Forest

    If I had to choose… I want one of both – a boy then a girl. My reasoning is because my older brother passed away when I was 19, and I would like my daughter to have an older brother.

    That being said, I would be happy if I had a girl then a boy

    Or two boys or two girls


    Post # 6
    9137 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

    @hollyberry4:  There was a post earlier today and significantly more Bees voted for girls.  It was almost double the number for boys.

    Just saw that you meant as a first child.  Well it’s obviously from old 50s TV where the older brother protects the younger sister because every home had the perfect boy/girl child ratio.  It’s old fashioned and silly imo.

    Post # 7
    1666 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2015

    @hollyberry4:  What matters to me is that my future kids have all their fingers, all their toes, and all the other parts they need. I honestly don’t care if I have a Boy or a Girl, so long as the little one is happy and healthy.

    Post # 8
    371 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @hollyberry4:  I don’t yet have any children but I do not prefer to have one sex over the other. What I’m mist concerned about is having a healthy child. I know each person/couple is different but I do not like to hear people saying they only want boys. I also don’t think it matters if you have a boy first or not. 

    Post # 9
    1472 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    We were 50-50% on the first child (although DH’s grandfather was clearly pulling for a boy, haha). Now we’d like a girl, because our first is a boy, but won’t be disappointed if we have another boy. 

    Post # 10
    6674 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I could not have cared less as long as the baby was healthy.

    If that is not the case, I really  think people ought to think twice and then think again before expressing any kind of preference,  even to a spouse!  I know one ex-wife who used the information against the  former H  by telling her  little girl her dad had wanted a boy as a way of turning her against the dad. 

    Post # 11
    1108 posts
    Bumble bee

    I feel terrible for my reasoning, and I know that it’s stereotyping, but part of me is worried that if FI and I decide to have children and we have a girl that I will not be able to relate to her. My own mother was not capable of relating to me for many years–seriously not until I was about 19 or 20 years old. 

    Obviously a girl could like the same things I do, and obviously a boy could like things that I can’t relate with, so yes, it’s a silly way to think, but I can’t help but worry just a little.

    EDIT: I do want to say that my capability of even having a baby is of some concern. Both my brother and I were very premature and could have died, and this was after almost a decade of my parents trying for children; so of course I would hope for a healthy child that stays in until it’s ‘done baking’.

    Post # 12
    1627 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I don’t have children and honestly I just want a healthy baby. By the time I have a LO he or she may be it. I am not concerned or planning for two when all I want is one right now. Boy or Girl, doesn’t matter.

    Post # 13
    1463 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I tried not to feel a preference because I did not want to be “disappointed”; all I really wanted was a healthy baby.  That said, I did an inner fist pump when I found out I was having a girl.  I have always dreamed of having a daughter. 

    Post # 14
    11391 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    Before I found out what we were having I said (and thought) I genuinely didn’t care, but during my anatomy scan I realized I was rooting in my head for a girl– which is what we are having! I think the thing is, I wanted A girl…. I didn’t really care if it was the first kid or second… but having a girl first really takes the pressure off for the next one because I really really don’t care if I have 2 girls or a girl and a boy.

    Post # 15
    9412 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    @hollyberry4:  We only want boys. It’s a problem. We may not have kids at all. I’d be so unhappy with a girl. 

    Post # 16
    567 posts
    Busy bee

    @hollyberry4:  Hehe is this thread based on the comment I made about people prefering boys where i am from?:) I am interested in seeing the poll results:)

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