Spinoff- do opposites attract? What does it mean? Is it true? Are you and your

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

We are alike in the important things, and opposites in the small things, if that makes sense?

We are both the same values, similar personalities, same schedules (neither of us is a partier or stay out all nighter), we both love staying in and spending time together versus being out, we both have the same arguing style, same goals, etc.

Small things- He likes spicy food, I hate it.  He likes talk radio, I hate listening to people talk- I’d rather have music. 

Overall, I’d say we are more complimentary than opposite. All of our differences are minor. 

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Ap2010:  FI and I are the definition of opposites attract. He’s vegetarian, I’m an omnivore. He’s a marathon runner, I’m a couch potato. I’m Catholic, he’s Wiccan. He’s the hard sciences, I’m the soft sciences. He’s a gamer, I’m a musician. He’s white, I’m Mexican. He’s an child of the military, I’ve lived in the same house for my whole life. His parents are a decade younger than my parents. He got a full ride to college, I have student loans. We are very much the opposite of each other. 

However, we’re supportive of each other’s endeavors completely. I may not be vegetarian, but I’ll eat veggie with him and he doesn’t care if I have meat. He goes to church with me on occasion and I go to rituals with him on occasion. He comes to my concerts and I cheer him on while he runs. I think as long as you accept the differences and don’t try to change the other person, you’re good.

I also think you need to be on the same page when it comes to important things. Like, you can’t be opposite on having kids or certain sexual kinks. 

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Yes and no! My husband and I are opposites about some things that work well to balance each other out. He’s really laid back and I’m fairly type A, so he calms me down and I keep him in line! That said, we have the same core values about family, religion, work, etc so we aren’t opposites about everything. I think it can work to a point, but if you’re too different, you may disagree on too much.

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Not sure if that old saying is true. But I know I wouldn’t want to date/marry someone EXACTLY like me. I think my guy and I are a great balance/mix. I’m more social, he’s more laid back. I’m loud, he’s more reserved. We balance each other, and bring out the best in one another 🙂 

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

My husband and I are opposites when it comes to our personalities (i.e. he’s methodical, I’m impulsive), but we have similar tastes and interests.  It definitely keeps us balanced.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Yes & no.  Dh & I are opposites in temperament–I’m very high strung where he is calm.  But we’re on the same pages when it comes to core values, politics, lifestyle, intellect & social life.  He has interests I don’t share, like aviation, but that’s fine.

We share our main hobby/interest–our German Shepherds & their training, though he’s a noob at training.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Goal-wise – we are alike.  Personality-wise – we are very different.  It works for us.  DH is type-A and I’m laidback.  I’m the optimist and he’s the realist.   We have our moments where we clash but that’s normal.  Other than that, we complement each other well.  We understand our flaws and know that we’re only trying to bring out the best in each other.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

There is no one given rule or cliche that is going to be true to all couples.

I think it’s important to have somone who compliments you and your personality. It’s good to have similarities and differences.

 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

We are similar in some ways and total opposites in other ways. I think sometimes it works best if two people are opposite in some ways. For example, if you have two extremely shy people together, chances are things will be awkward (I have experienced this!) or I once knew a girl who was super talkative and could carry on a conversation by herself for hours. I always knew she’d have to end up with someone a bit on the quieter side, because otherwise she’d get frustrated… two personalities like hers would completely clash together. 

But there are some things that I think you need to have similar views on or things won’t work out. (What kind of life you want to live, what’s to come in the future, kids, etc.)

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