Spinoff- do prefer guy friends or lady friends

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Do you prefer guy friends or lady friends
    Guy/male friends : (36 votes)
    35 %
    Female/lady friends : (32 votes)
    31 %
    Both : (35 votes)
    34 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    99 posts
    Worker bee

    I hate to say it, but women can be and often are catty bitches. Yes, me included. I have a theory that when you get 3 or more women together any amount of regular time (work, school, social, etx) there will end up being mean spirited gossip at some point. 

    I work in a primarily female job With women from ages 24-70. Someone will be nice and sweet to your face, and talk crap behind your back. I’ve heard peoples weight, clothes, life judged. I’ve seen towhee talking about why someone called out and doubting her. Looking at her Facebook and judging her. I’ve had people talk about me then the next day tell me they love me and are so happy im working with them. The worst offender is the most hardcore Christian…

    women are judgemental and emotional. Men are much more straightforward. Yes, this is a generalization and not all women are like this. But many are. I have many social acquaintances who arw women and many “work friends” I don’t hang out with outside of work but I don’t get too personal with them. I’ve been burned too hard.

     

    Post # 4
    Member
    476 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    Before I was with my fiance, I had more guy friends than girl friends. But now, I’m in a female-dominated workplace and both my fiance and I don’t have any sisters, so I get my male opinions from my brothers/future brothers-in-law and get my lady opinions from my friends at work and otherwise. It’s a nice balance.

    Post # 6
    Member
    8282 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I prefer guy friends. Less drama. No competition with things. I miss having lots of guy friends like I did in high school. 

    Post # 8
    Member
    8282 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    @Ap2010:  I wish I were. We all lost touch around college. 

    Post # 9
    Member
    4540 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2014 - Royalton White Sands

    I used to have a lot of male friends in high school. I preferred it, but I was also quite single most of high school and enjoyed the no-strings-attached, platonic male attention. Now that I’m engaged, I don’t need that in my life. I still have a few male friends, whom I’ve known since middle school, but I don’t see them much. I spend my “friend time” with one of my girl friends. I only have 2 that I see regularly, plus one that lives out of state, which is about the same number as I’ve always had. 

    Post # 10
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    1040 posts
    Bumble bee

    I’ve always had more guy friends.

    Two major failed female friendships have pretty much made me swear off having female friends ever again.

    -One girl got close to me just to try and find out information about me to try and accuse me of wanting to f*ck her boyfriend (who was one of my roommates at the time.. I lived with my fiance, and 3 male friends). She said things like I “had too many inside jokes with him,” and that I “touched him too much,” (this was right after his birthday – I gave him a hug). My fiance worked with him, and it turned our whole apartment upside down with drama. I actually threw up because of the stress she was causing in my life. (He chose her over all of us, married her crazy ass and now he has no friends. We talk about him as if he’s passed away.)

    -One girl wanted to spend her 21st bday in Vegas (I was 27 at the time,) and told me and our other 4 friends (my fiance and our 3 male friends,) that we weren’t hot enough to get into the clubs she wanted to go to, but she wanted us to go with her anyway and wait outside for her. We all refused to go, she got upset and said we ruined her birthday. I tried reaching out and mending the fences a year later but she said we all “hurt her too much.” What…the…f*ck???

    My best friend is female though, she’s my cousin. So it’s kinda different because we’re family, we’re closer. We grew up together. She’s the only female friend I trust. Other females I know are just loose acquaintances.  

    Post # 11
    Member
    4015 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    guy friends, though I have a good mix of both right now and I’m happy with it. I try to keep low drama company 🙂

    Post # 12
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    1311 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 1994

    I tend to feel more at ease around men, but a lot of my female friends are pretty easy going. But not all..

    Post # 13
    Member
    2018 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I really dislike the subtle way of putting down women by claiming that they’re just so dramatic while men are not.  While men tend to express “drama” differently, they are no different from women in being subject to it!  As for my friend group, sometimes it skews toward men, sometimes toward women–anyone who is independent (wouldn’t demand to bring a spouse/SO everywhere); doesn’t define him or herself largely through relation to someone else (only as a wife or only as a father); has passions; has compassion and a sense of social awareness; and is intelligent is welcome in my circle.

    Post # 14
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    2169 posts
    Buzzing bee

    @Ap2010:  I prefer a mix of both! I love my guy and girlfriends. I’m choosy about who I’ll actually spend time with and let into my close circles, so all of my friends are awesome.

    Post # 15
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    1465 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2015

    I actually have more female friends now than ever in my entire life lol. And I work in a male dominated field. But in general, I find it easier and more “fun” (i.e. less drama) to be friends with guys. I don’t understand why girls get upset over certain things and honestly I just find it to be exhausting. 

    Post # 16
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    2162 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I hang out with guys more than ladies, but I actually do have a lot of female friends. They just aren’t the friends I hang out with all the time.

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