SPINOFF: Do you and your partner sleep at home together each night?

posted 3 years ago in Intimacy
  • poll: Do you and your partner always sleep at home together?
    Yes, of course, and I feel that's how it should be : (314 votes)
    62 %
    No, sometimes we spend the night separately with our own friends and family : (85 votes)
    17 %
    No way!! We often spend the night separately with our own friends and family : (3 votes)
    1 %
    We spend nights apart for other reasons, i.e. work or an LDR : (106 votes)
    21 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    2696 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    There have only been a handfull of times we haven’t slept together in the same bed or room (even in the hospital he had a cot to stay with me <3 ) I feel lost and don’t sleep well without him there.. lol

    Post # 4
    Member
    7281 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

    We spend every night together. I just…. it would be…. I don’t even know how to explain how odd it would be if my husband willingly stayed at someone else’s house when he could have chosen to be home where he belongs… with his family.

    Post # 5
    Member
    809 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    both options #2 and #4 apply to me, I just went with #2. we USUALLY spend every night (and day! we work together, hehehe. he’s just a meter away) together, but sometimes I go out for girly sleepovers or fly away to spend time with family. he doesn’t, though, I guess he’s not as much into sleepovers as me (but he’ll go out on business trips).

    he’s completely fine with me sleeping over with friends and drinking though. ;P he trusts me and the friends I make.

    Post # 6
    Member
    5932 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2018

    Sometimes Mr. 99 gets so knee-walking drunk that he’s gotta stay put somewhere unless I want to come get him…other than that..yeah, of course he sleeps at our house…his underwear is there.

    Post # 7
    Member
    2696 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @MrsPanda99:  No way, other than if we are traveling for work etc.

    Post # 8
    Member
    11668 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Sure, there have been times one of us has slept away for various reasons. Personally, I love having the bed to myself!

    Post # 9
    Member
    2973 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    We sleep together most of the time, unless I travel to go see family and he can’t come, then I sleep alone in my old bed and he stays at home. That usually never longer than a weekend though. Or one of us has to travel for work. 

    Post # 10
    Member
    1252 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @MrsWBS:  this! More room for my dog too.

    Post # 11
    Member
    8593 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Not very often, but once and awhile we spend the night apart.

    My parents and a lot of my friends like about an hour away from us.  So sometimes I will go by myself and spend the night at my parents.  Usually I always try to drag FI with me and he does come but sometimes he either has work to do that day or really doesn’t want to come.  So I will go and stay overnight (because I want to drink).  I don’t really plan to get wasted but I know I’m not going to be able to drive an hour home at 1 am.  So I stay at my parents.  I dont’ really have any desire to sleep over at a friends unless they have a bed!

    Also…if FI has to go out of town for work or sometimes he will go to his families house (4 hours away) to do some work with his brother (I don’t want to spend my weekend watching them work on a car through the night) and I will take advantage of the fact that he’s gone to go to my parents house to see my friends that weekend.  And I would stay at my parents.  I get to go out with my friends and hang out with my parents.

    So it happens, but not that often.  Maybe once every 2-3 months or so.

    He’s gone on a few trips with friends without me and I went with my friends to Vegas for my bachelorette without him.  Those aren’t a big deal either.

    If we’re in the same city though…no we don’t spend the night apart.

    Post # 12
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    117 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    My husband works 6 nights so we only sleep together one night a week.  The one night we are together he has toruble sleeping and spends most of the night away from me (on the computer or watching tv).

     

    I can’t wait until he goes back to his day schedule.  Should happen in the next month or two.

    Post # 13
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    4413 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    DH sleeps somewhere else with fair frequency, at least in the summer. He and his buddy prefer to, say, get a hotel downtown and sleep there after a night of drinking rather than try to get a taxi all the way back home (and then how would they get downtown in the first place!??). Or we will go on little trips without each other. He has gone camping and on a brewery tour in Portland; I’ve gone on a girls weekend with my mom and sister. I don’t mind at all — it’s way less hassle for me if he just sleeps where he is when drinking is involved, rather than me having to go pick him up!

    Post # 15
    mswallabyBee
    2070 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor

    Yes and no. DH works on a drilling platform offshore in the Gulf of Mexico, so he’s away two weeks at a time. When he’s here we spent every night together… Best part of the day 🙂

    Post # 16
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    1826 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    FI work straight days Mon-Fri. I work straight nights 6 nights a week so we get ONE night together out of 7.

    We sleep in the same bed…just not at the same time! 🙁

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