SPINOFF: Does Your S/O Smoke Pot? Are You Ok With It?

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Do you and/or your S/O smoke weed? Do you care?
    We Both Do : (51 votes)
    15 %
    I do - S/O doesn't care : (11 votes)
    3 %
    I do - S/O would prefer if I didnt : (0 votes)
    S/O does - I don't care : (22 votes)
    7 %
    S/O does - I would prefer if they didn't : (19 votes)
    6 %
    Neither of us do : (234 votes)
    69 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    308 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I mean, dealing is totally different than being a recreational user, which has little risk, especially in places where marijuana has been decriminalized or is legal in some or all circimstances. Granted, I live in about the most liberal place in the country, but I don’t understand all the pearl-clutching over pot at all. It’s no more dangerous than alcohol, and most of the people I know who smoke are successful, well-off adults in their late 20s to late 40s. The stoner sterotype is pervasive but it doesn’t represent the vast majority of pot users out there.

    Post # 5
    Member
    1163 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @Stephville:  Neither of us have ever smoked. In college I dated an EXTREME pothead so I was always around it and I hated it. He seriously smoked way too much, it smelled like crap, and it made him extremely annoying to talk to. He was always so freaking slow at everything and it drove me crazy. He probably smoked 10 times a day…first thing in the morning, between classes, before work, after work, while watching tv, while playing video games, before bed. Nasty as heck. Not to mention pitiful.

    Post # 7
    Member
    6872 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2014 - A castle!

    People can smoke pot and never have anything bad happen. People can smoke pot but also choose to do other, harder drugs, and bad things can happen. It works both ways. I think has a lot more to do with the individual than the pot.

    Post # 8
    Member
    7664 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

    @daisyfay:  This.

    I used to smoke until I was about 21, when I joined the TA and started getting drug tested. I miss it, and would like to go back (but smoke less this time). However, DH is true blue, and also cites how he has to be above reproach because of his job. He has always said he’d report me if I started smoking again (again, because of his job). I probably believe him. Swine.

    I went to Amsterdam for my birthday though. Most enjoyable.

    Post # 9
    Member
    2851 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    We both do. He does it daily, I do it maybe once a week… Usually less.

    I don’t like that he does it every night, he spends too much money on it and he stinks when he comes in.

    I just wish he didn’t do it so often.

    But once we start TTC he will stop (so will I).

    Post # 10
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    172 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    @daisyfay:  Agree, I live in a very liberal place (Vancouver, British Columbia) where pot is EVERYWHERE. It’s just not a big deal to me. SO and Ismoke it very rarely (like, once-twice a year, lol) it just makes me soooo sleepy and I just can’t function at all on it.

    I agree in that I don’t see what the big problem with pot is. It’s in the same class as alcohol to me. Though I actually believe alcohol is worse than pot in many ways.

    But just like recreational drinking, I don’t believe pot causes problems in relationship. I believe it becomes a problem if it begins to negatively effects your relationship with your partner and/or one person is not okay with it. But that’s the way with anything, I think.

     

    Post # 11
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    5697 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I voted neither but technically my husband has maybe a hand full of times at a party or camping since I have known him. But if it was more than that no I would not be ok with it. I have maybe twice before and don’t like it at all. I also kind of frown upon it in general.

    Post # 12
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    308 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    @Stephville:  Oh, I didn’t mean to imply that you did! I can just get defensive because I have several family members who are police officers in a much more conservative part of the country, and to hear them talk about it, you would think pot is a terrible scourge threatening to overtake the nation rather than mostly harmless plant matter subject to absurdly archaic laws that have put millions of undeserving people (especially minorities) in jail.

    Post # 13
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    267 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    @Stephville:  I agree completely – my SO uses weed occasionally, and I can’t stand it – like you said, “I just don’t like what can come along with regular drug use.”



    Post # 14
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    968 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @daisyfay:  You realize that recreational users buy from dealers, right? To blame dealers and hold them out as terrible people but saying users are totally different doesn’t make any sense.

    Post # 15
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    2372 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013 - B&B

    Neither of us ever. I mean, I am totally ok with the U.S. taking steps to legalize it, tax it, all that stuff, but for me, while its illegal, its a huge NO. Just so not worth the risks to us at all.

    That and I could never smoke it even if I wanted to. I have weird reactions around smoke, (cigarette, bonfire, etc.) I think ever since I got bronchitis jr. year of high school. it used to be so much worse, like just walking past a small cloud of smoke could send me into a crazy bad coughing fit, now im much more tolerant but still, I think if I tried to smoke I would end up coughing so hard until I pass out lol.

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