Post # 1
Reading the thread about Four Weddings got me thinking – would you do Don’t Tell The Bride? Let your FI plan all of your wedding, and have it put on TV, all to get a $25,000 wedding for free?
I must say, while I wouldn’t do Four Weddings, I’d have been more likely to do Don’t Tell The Bride. I think my husband would have done a pretty good job on guessing what I would like. OK, the dress would be a total gamble, but I’d probably have cheated somewhat and got a backup dress beforehand in case I didn’t like it.
So – what about you? Would you trust your FI to plan your wedding without any input from you? Do you think he would do a good job? Or would it be a total train-wreck like some of the ones on that show?
Post # 2
clairebbbear: I voted to go for it (and if I could pick 2, I love puppies) b/c FI and I are getting so fed up with the cost of everything, we wished we had eloped. For someone ELSE to pay for it? I couldn’t care less!! As long as I could take care of the most important part, which is the actual wedding, he could do the rest. We’ve been in (almost) total agreeance this whole year, so I think he’d do a pretty great job. And if not…who cares! It’s a free party!
Post # 3
- Wedding: July 2014 - Prague
I am not sure I trust my DH’s taste well enough to let him plan a wedding!
Post # 4
I’ve never seen the show… but while I think DH knows me well and would be capable of putting together a good wedding, there are two reasons I’d say no: (1) sometimes when he’s trying to be sweet, he stumbles and it comes off awkward or unintentionally not nice; and (2) he can be a pushover when it comes to our mothers, and both would want to “help.”
Post # 5
- Wedding: May 2015 - The Fairmont, SF
My fiance knows everything I want venue/decorations/color scheme/bridesmaid dress/dress/etc-wise and we agree on almost everything so I’d feel comfortable letting him plan the day on his own. However, I wouldn’t go on this show for the same reason I wouldn’t go on Four Weddings – I wouldn’t want strangers to get poor impressions of my FI and me for silly edits or things done while under the microscope and I’d hate for my wedding to be broadcast everywhere when I consider it a really intimate event. Then again, the more money we put into vendors, the more I wish a magical fairy would come pay for everything for us!
Post # 6
i dont think so– i am too much of a control freak that i would make myself sick with worry stress or anxiety.
Post # 7
I wouldn’t do it because I wouldn’t want to be on TV. Besides, my husband was mostly useless when it came to the wedding unless I narrowed down the choices to two or three options to get his opinion on so I doubt it would’ve been done well.
Post # 8
Absolutely no way! I have too many friends in the TV industry not to know how these shows work. In order to make them even vaguely interesting viewing, your every fault (and that of your groom and friends and family) is going to be emphasised. And then shared with millions of viewers. Don’t begin to think you can control the process either. The production company WILL find aspects of your life that you’d probably rather not expose and if they don’t, you won’t get picked for the show!
Post # 9
clairebbbear: No. $25K is five times our budget and it’s for TV. That means, despite my FI’s best efforts (I’m confident he knows my tastes quite well), the final product would absolutely not look anything close to the type of wedding we’d like. What we’d like would probably not be ”enough” for TV. In that regard, I’m sure my fiancé would be pressured into buying stuff we don’t need, serve a ton of food that will end up in the trash, and that’s the kind of things that would offend me. As a result, I would end up being the bitch bride on TV who isn’t grateful about the grand affair that’s been shoved down her throat. Seriously, no thanks !
Post # 10
I’d do it, my FI has awesome taste and we have the same vision 🙂
Post # 11
I wouldn’t want my wedding to be on tv, but I would completely trust my FI to plan our wedding alone, except for my dress. He never gets my size even close to right, let alone what suits my body.
Post # 12
Ha. No. The only thing he would “plan” would be an unlimited amount of beer/pizza/wings
Post # 13
I would never go on any reality TV show. But if for some other reason we could get a free $25K wedding if he planned the whole thing and I knew nothing about it, sure! I don’t think he’d make the same choices I would, but I’m sure he wouldn’t do anything distasteful or hideous, and for that much money I’d be totally fine with it!
Post # 14
No way. I love my man, but he’s hopeless when it comes to wedding planning. Especially my dress. I had him pick one dress that he’d like to see me in for our wedding and it was this horrendous blingy ballgown. I flat out told him that was not gonna happen. Ever since that, he’s left it pretty much up to me (I did let him choose between 2 photographers though since I didn’t value photography as much as he does)
Also I hate being on TV, so that’s reason enough not to do it. And we have a great budget (that is over $25,000) so I definitely wouldn’t do it. Not worth it to me.
Post # 15
No way! I love to plan things, so the idea of having nothing to do with planning one of the most important days of my life is a big no