Post # 1
Okay, after the other post about dress shopping before being engaged I wanted to ask if there was a condition where you would shop before you were engaged.
My SO and I have been together 2.5 years, and have discussed a lot of the aspects of our wedding – type, ideas about where, length of engagement, BUT we aren’t engaged yet.
We want to get married fairly quickly once we are engaged- 6 months, maybe 8 maximum. I know this, and that dresses take a while to be made, so would this be a situation where shopping prior to the actual engagement was acceptable?
Post # 3
@Blueghostgirl: although, I’m not in that situation I would still say no to dress shopping before. I’d pay rush fees over trying and picking a dress before I was engaged.
Post # 4
@Blueghostgirl: i’m supersticious, so no, I personally wouldn’t go dress shopping before I was engaged bc I wouldn’t want to jinx anything (I know, it sounds childish…but I can’t help it). Although FI and I did talk about wedding stuff before we were engaged (we found the venue before we were engaged…started the guest list, ect) but going dress shopping, or to bridal shows, invitations, ect…I wouldn’t do beforehand. I do get that you guys are planning a short engagement and that its harder to get dresses in that short of a time…but maybe you can do a rush order or something?
Post # 5
I would compile a list of bridal stores in your neighbourhood and research dresses online. I might even secretly try on a few dresses (I tried on dresses before being engaged but after I knew FI had bought the ring).
But I would never, ever purchase or order a dress before having a ring on my finger. I’m sure your FI has every intention of proposing, but until he spends money on a ring and gives it to you, you shouldn’t spend money on a dress. Don’t put the cart before the horse.
(It’s also messy from a logistical standpoint. You guys have a certain wedding in mind right now, but by 2018, that plan could change. The giant ballgown you buy in 2014 might not suit the beach wedding you end up having in 2018.)
Post # 6
I wouldn’t buy a dress before being engaged but I would look at dresses online. I didn’t go out shopping or try on dresses before FI and I got engaged but I did research a little and figured out what styles I hated, liked and loved.
Post # 7
Window shopping online is one thing. Going to a store before you’re even engaged is just silly, imo.
Post # 8
If I was shopping for a dreas I’d assume we have talked seriously about getting married and have a date/ timeframe in mind. I’d consider my self already engaged!
Post # 9
it was more just a curiosity question. Thanks for your replies.
@canadajane: the 2018 date is because when you sign up it asks for a date. The plan is to get married in the next 2 years, as I want kids before I am 40, and he wants to be married before we have kids.
Post # 10
We were together five years and talked marriage all the time. I didn’t see the need to dress shop beforehand. We are having a 7 month engagement. I went dress shoping the week after our engagement — the bridal store I went to didn’t think I was rushing and my dress will be in April (5 months total time). Pay rush fees, seems weird to shop before an offical engagement IMO. If you go to David’s Bridal they come in a lot faster I’m told.
Post # 11
Honestly, I would do it. I had a short 5 month engagement; progress started on the ring 3 months before it was actually ready, and he proposed within 24 hours of finally having it. Dress shopping was the single most stressful event of my life. I wish I had more time. Over several weeks prior to the actual engagement I went shopping, and was beginning to feel the time crunch pressure. It sucked. A lot. Too much. So much, that I’m still not 100% happy with my dress (and it is just a little late at this point!). Sigh. Start shopping on your own time table when you feel you need to. Circumstances are never the same for everyone.