Spinoff: For Bees Who Will Upgrade Their Ring/Have Upgraded Their Ring

posted 3 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Who wants to/wanted to upgrade the ring?
    Me! : (20 votes)
    57 %
    My SO/FI/DH/etc : (4 votes)
    11 %
    We both wanted it (no one really brought it up first or pushed harder) : (11 votes)
    31 %
  • Post # 3
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    416 posts
    Helper bee

    Hell Yes. I wish I could go up a carat per year.

    Post # 4
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    5483 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @ebarnes0:  Meh I won’t “upgrade” in the traditional sense bc the stone is a family heirloom so it’s staying 😉 That said, I am sure in 10-20 years or something I will simply get a different ring in a different style. And have both. Muahahaha. 😉

    Post # 5
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    3778 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I didn’t originally think of it, I mean it’s always been in the back of my mind. A “well in 20 or so years maybe I’ll change out my diamond with a nicer quality one.” DH is the one who said something about it first. I guess it was kind of expected. Not sure why he expected to upgrade it. But I’m perfectly happy with my ring as it is right now 🙂

    Post # 6
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    489 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2015

    Absolutely!  My FI never liked my original ring (I fell for the “oohh shiny!” for a month or so before the issues FI always had with it really got to me as well, he was more than happy to upgrade my set), plus I noticed some serious issues with it after wearing it for a couple weeks (and the center stone already came loose, then it came loose again after another 2 months, ugh).  My new set with be bigger, better quality, better stones, better metal, etc.!  Niether of us has a problem with me owning multiple sets or completely upgrading again in the future, the ring is just an unnecessary symbol of our marriage so it doesn’t matter to FI or I if I have no ring or 1000 (although I am happy, well we both are, that I do have some ring on every day even if it’s a different ring every day) :-)! 

    Post # 8
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    @ebarnes0:  I’m not going to upgrade…more like sideways-grade. lol. Only because I have found that trying to dance around my ring at work is becoming an issue (for the amount of times I’m moving things, washing glasses, etc.) But not wearing anything is also an issue because I get hit on a lot, I mean A LOT (I’m really not so hot. I’m female, I bartend and it’s an occupational hazard) If I at least have a ring to point to it’s easier than explaining why I would never date your skeezy ass. Men need visual clues. So I need a band without a stone sticking off of it.

    Post # 10
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    3778 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @ebarnes0:  actually the opposite. I’m from VA and live in FL now… so planning and prep was in FL and the wedding was up in VA

    Post # 11
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    2305 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    When DH proposed, he confided in me a few days later that he wished he’d been able to afford a slightly larger stone (that still had the same specs/quality as my .51ct). I don’t think he feels ‘guilty,’ he just told me that he imagines it being in a specific proportion to my hand/finger. (He’s a design/architectural student so he’s the only person I know who would put *that* much thought into that lol.)

    I’m pretty attached to my ring now, but ultimately I know it’s also a symbol of his love for me and if he wanted to replace the stone in the future, I might allow it, but I don’t think I’d bring it up myself. (As long as he didn’t go TOO big.) I’d have to have my original diamond reset into a necklace or RHR, though. I’m too attached to it.

    Post # 12
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    1535 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    I have a feeling a friend of mine will upgrade. She consistenly talks about how small her ring is 🙁 but really, she got engaged super young.

    If you upgrade your ring will you still wear your original one? make it a RHR?

    Post # 13
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    3778 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @rachelmichelle:  that’s the same thing dH told me. He said “I was planning on getting you a .75 ct but ended up only getting a .5 because of *insert random expense that popped up*” I actually love the size mine is. but if he’s insisting on buying me a bigger one in the future.. I’m not going to refuse that!

    Post # 14
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    83 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: December 2000

    My original stone was a tanzanite. I wanted a diamond, so we upgraded it for our 10th anniversary.

    Post # 16
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    1535 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

     

     

    @ebarnes0:  oh wow! i didn’t know that. What happens if FI got the wrong size or you gain weight?

    my right finger is a lot bigger too! I can’t get my ering over my knuckle on my right hand

     

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