Post # 1
I know people on the bee are generally for registries and against requesting money. So I want to know how you guys feel about the people who do registries to not ask for money but end up returning everything becasue what they want is money. And these people do exist lots of them, if you’ve ever worked in a shop you’d know.
So what’s better?
Post # 3
@Atalanta: Neither. If you don’t want gifts, don’t register. People will get the clue. Don’t ask for anything.
Post # 4
Most places won’t let you return registry gifts for cash. I thought they generally will give you store credit.
Since I got married in New Orleans and live in NYC, I did return physical gifts that I got on my wedding day and repurchased them when I got back to NYC.
Post # 5
I had a friend that “sort” of did this. They registered for stuff, got it and then returned it for the money. I thought it was not right. If you don’t want the gifts don’t register for them.
Post # 6
Hmm I’m on the fence. I’ve recently started doing most of my shopping online which is way easier than searching through a store but back in the day when I would actually go to the store I would be a bit disappointed if I wasted all that time just for them to return it.
I guess in this situation I just wouldn’t have a registry but I guess if I have to choose between your two options I would choose creating a registry with the intent of returning the gifts.
Post # 7
@Atalanta: The retail store I worked at years ago only allowed gifts to be exchanged for store credit, not cash. I think a lot of people were disappointed. I have no problem with people registering for a ton of stuff because a lot of places offer discounts on any items your guests don’t purchase for you. I think it’s a bit silly to spend time registering for stuff you don’t need. If they are that desperate for cash, they should use that time to get a second job instead – time is money 😛
Post # 8
Neither. If you have a small registry, people will get the hint that you want money.
Post # 9
@MrsPanda99: This. I’ve never known any store policy that allows you to return anything for cash unless you have the original receipt AND it was paid with cash or debit (and sometimes a check). Gift receipt or no receipt = store credit.
But why not either not register and let your parents spread word that you want cash for x (like you’re saving for a house or something), or just make a small registry with things that you DO need/want?
Post # 10
Neither. Small registry OR when I ask you where you are registered you can tell me that you’d like to start saving for a home. I’m smart. I get it.
I seem to remember that BBB used to allow people to return registry items for cash, but I think that they stopped this because so many people were taking advantage.
If I took the time to pick something out for you from your registry and you returned it for the money (as in, you had always planned to do that), I’d be pissed. It’s rude. It seems dishonest. I would think twice bout getting you a gift for any other life event.
Post # 11
@Atalanta: I’m not really sure where you can return gifts to get actual cash/money back. Do you have any examples?
We registered for a bunch of items and ended up returning about 80% of them only because our design ideas changed for our decor. However, everything went onto a gift card which we used at the store.
Post # 12
They are both equally rude. One is greedy and the other is deceitful.
Post # 13
Post # 14
Both are rude, but asking for money is worse I think. I don’t know of any stores that allow you to return for cash anymore.
Post # 15
Returning things is a pain. Most people do not give you a gift reciept (realistically, why should they have to if you registered for it?) So many stores will only give you the lowest price the item has been in the last 90 days. I mistakenly registered for 2 crystal vases and recieved both of them. We decided to return one and buy a china place setting instead. When we tried to return it we were told the lowest price it was listed at was $50. Well, my family member had bought it for $100. It’s a total rip off and most of the stores we registered through have the same policy.
As for the money thing, I won’t comment because my province and it’s local etiquette regarding this is vastly different than a lot of places.
Post # 16
@Treejewel19: When I worked at Macy’s we gave money back, but that was a while ago.