Spinoff-Have you ever been jealous (ever) of a ring?

posted 3 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Jealous of Ring?
    yes : (102 votes)
    22 %
    no : (111 votes)
    24 %
    yes and i would never admit it but on this poll (no post) : (65 votes)
    14 %
    yes and i will admit it : (85 votes)
    18 %
    honestly could care less uness someone is rubbing it in : (42 votes)
    9 %
    i like polls : (52 votes)
    11 %
    other-explain : (11 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    6273 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I am jealous of about three peoples’ rings in the entire world. One of them is my boss. Her ring is actually smaller caratwise than mine, but is so intricate and looks perfect on her hand. The other two are bees, but I am not telling who!

    Post # 4
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    8706 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I generally don’t get jealous. I take a to each their own approach. If someone flaunted a ring at me, I’d roll my eyes — How petty. I get jealous over experiences, thngs that not everyone can have. Everyone can get a ring, but not everyone can have a one-on-one with a favorite actor/ess or see a play somewhere I am unable to get, or go see places I want to go.

    Post # 5
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    4540 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2014 - Royalton White Sands

    Unless Blake Lively’s ring counts, no. I don’t really have too many girl friends, and all of my female relatives are either significantly older or significantly younger than me, so there was really no one to be jealous of in the first place.

    Post # 7
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    529 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Hmm, well I used to-ALL THE TIME, before I got my own. Literally thought I’d feel jealous of other rings my whole life. Then I got engaged and haven’t been jealous of another ring since- but we’d also saved up for a while so I could get exactly what I wanted

    Post # 8
    Member
    615 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I totally get jealous but then again not everyone has that kind of money and I wouldn’t want someone else’s career or life. When I think about that then I return to normal again.

    Post # 9
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    2162 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I’ve been jealous of rings before. I’m not mean about it, and it’s not a negative feeling. Right now we are in a pretty good place financially, but when we got engaged we were struggling pretty bad. FI bought his brother’s wife’s ring since they had recently upgraded. It cost him very little. It’s white gold and not exactly my style. I would want something different if I had a choice, but I LOVE my ring because my sweet FI proposed to me with it. Most people tell me my ring is gorgeous. The hardest part is when FSIL says things like “it looks bigger on you because you have smaller hands”…making me feel like it’s too small (not that I ever really cared about the size). She just gives me a complex.

    Post # 10
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    3407 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I totally have feelings of jealousy.

    But, that does not mean I would trade my rings 🙂

    Post # 11
    Member
    855 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I pretty much don’t care. I like what I like and whlie I might think others are pretty, I don’t wish for them.  Its the same way I feel about mansions in architectural magazines– nice to look at, but I would never want one.

    I will starting thinking less than charitable things if someone is flaunting it in some attempt to incite jealousy.  But not because I want the ring, more because I dislike their attitude. We’re so much more than the stats of our material objects, so if thats the most important thing to someone, or they’re constantly harping on it, then I’m probably not friends with them in the first place.

    Post # 12
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    6407 posts
    Bee Keeper

    Not a ring, but I’ve envied tons of other things about people.

    I think envy can usually be helpful, at least in the long run. If you realize you’re feeling envy, you know that there’s probably a goal there you can set for yourself. Not worth the effort/time/whatever involved? Then was there really something to envy? Sometimes envy can misfire and it’s good to realize that we actually don’t really want something that we originally thought we did, after all. 

    Of course, sometimes we really do want something, but it’s really out of our control (e.g., I envy the timbre of people who have beautiful singing voices. I can practice as much as I want but my timbre’s always going to be kind of “meh.”) But here again is an opportunity. This time to allow ourselves to let go that which is not under our control, and make peace with our lot in life, recognizing that nobody has everything, or control over everything, but we each have a lot of blessings, and a lot that we do control. Remembering my place in the world, both my blessings and my limits, and how similar that is to everyone elses, helps me envy beautiful voices in a bittersweet way that’s more sweet than bitter. We don’t have to be ruled by our “wants.” Life is complete and joyful even though not every single one of our desires will be fulfilled.   

    Post # 13
    Member
    1443 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2010 - parent's backyard

    yeah, sure I’ve been a little jealous. my ex-boss who is very rich has a gorgeous, droolworthy set. and I’m jealous of every bee who got to pick her own ring and got exactly what she wanted.

    but it’s not bitchy jealousy. just a “sigh, you are so lucky” type of jealousy. I’m not bitter about it. I’ll get what I want one day when I’m ready for it, and until then I will contentedly drool over other people’s rings. 

    Post # 14
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    3097 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013 - A court...

    No , but I’m picky. Though I probably would be if I ever saw someone with a blue diamond *drools*

    Post # 15
    Member
    6273 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2014

    @veryberry13:  It’s not bad as long as you aren’t cruel. Pretty normal. My jealousy is kind of weird in that I can acknowledge and respect someone with a better ring than me, but I don’t hate on them. It’s more like a “Man, it’d be great to have Jane’s ring!” kind of thing.

    I work in an upscale office/retail area, and the only people who give me ragey jealousy are the women who can sit at Starbucks and look perfect all day, and not have to work.

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