SPINOFF: how do you feel about bachelor party trips?

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Would you "let" your partner go to Vegas for a bachelor party weekend?
    Absolutely not and he wouldn't want to anyway : (31 votes)
    26 %
    Absolutely not but he would probably want to : (10 votes)
    8 %
    Yes and I would have no problem with it : (71 votes)
    59 %
    Yes but I would have a major problem with it : (9 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 3
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    820 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @MrsPanda99:  I would be fine with him going on a fishing trip or something I guess, but I would be super annoyed with the prospect of him spending $2,000+ just for a “bachelor party.” I’d much rather him plan a trip with his friends just because… or have us plan a couples trip so at least I’d get to enjoy it too.

    Post # 5
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    649 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    My husband and his friends went to Vegas for his bachelor party the same weekend I went to San Diego with my girlfriends. I was glad we planned our trips the same weekend so I was obviously busy and not missing him or wanting to bug him on his trip. We saved up money for our respective trips.

    I don’t see any problem with it at all. He’s an adult, and if I didn’t trust him, I wouldn’t have been marrying him.

    I also feel like being from southern California, Vegas isn’t a huge deal anyway.

    Post # 6
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    2052 posts
    Buzzing bee

    @MrsPanda99:  Eh, whatever.  I missed the bachlorette party post (got to be too deep with other posters for me to get in on it), but I don’t care what it cost if that’s what he wants to participate in whatever.  Both men and women should be able to have their time to go crazy before the wedding and if they have that much extra laying around then go for it!

    For me, it’s not like I ‘need’ a trip to not worry about what my SO would be doing-if I had to worry, I wouldn’t want to marry him!!

    Post # 7
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    820 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @MrsPanda99:  Oh – I didn’t even think about the strippers. Yeah, that’d be a no-go. I don’t know… it’s hard to conceptualize because DH is a total introvert – he would never desire to go on one of these trips, and he’s skipped bachelor parties when they’ve involved strippers because he’s skeeved out by them. I would be shocked at the 180 degree personality change if he wanted to go on a trip like this.

    Plus, he’s way cheaper than I am, and no WAY he would drop a couple thousand on a lame Vegas trip. We save up to go on more relaxing, enjoyable vacations together.

    Post # 8
    Member
    2052 posts
    Buzzing bee

    @MrsPanda99:  +1

    I’m not engaged yet….but is it odd that I have thought about inviting both of our parents/families along (most of whom will be in our wedding parties anyway haha!)?  I figure that I would love to have my mom there, and I get along well with his mom so she can come along too and we can do girls things…then if my dad and brother want to hang out with the men and go to a strip club or whatever, I wouldn’t mind!

    Post # 9
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    3557 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I would be super concerned since it would be so out of character for FI. I think the same thing about bacherlor and bachelorette trips though: they are ridiculous and excessive. In my head it’s like ‘hey, we’re throwing the most expensive party of our lives and immeadiately taking an expensive vacation right after! You know what would make that even better?! Taking two separate expensive vacations right before!’ Yeah…what’s wrong with limiting the party to one night and going to your favorite local activities?

    ETA Can you tell I’m a money hoarder?

    Post # 10
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    1157 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    @MrsPanda99:  no problem here but I know that he wouldn’t do it. He wouldn’t do anything that make me cry lol

    Post # 12
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    108 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @MrsPanda99:  If I am being absolutely honest, I would not like the whole Vegas thing. Why? Because I freaking love Vegas and would be jealous of him going without me. Not because I don’t trust him. Vegas and huge trips like that would be better spent as a couple lol.

     I think bachelor parties should be something that caters to “guy things” that they normally don’t get to do with there SO, and no I don’t mean strip clubs. More like camping, snowbarding, fishing, etc. No big fuss, but gives him celebratory guy time. Luckily he thinks the way I do and I’m glad he enjoyed himself at the casino and camping.

     

    Post # 13
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    896 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2009

    @MrsPanda99:  It is hard for me to come up with an asnwer because I truly doubt we will ever find ourselves in this situation (or a similar one).  I just really do not imagine my husband wanting to go to someone else’s bachelor party out of town (not even for his brother’s wedding, and he is the best man). If he really wanted to go, though, I think I would let him go because he is an adult and cannot keep him from doing whatever he wants to do.  I would be slightly annoyed, but it would not be a huge fight or anything like that.  But, again, I don’t think this will ever be an issue, as he will most likely never want to go to such bachelor party. 

    Post # 14
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    1526 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    If my DH and his friends really wanted to go, I would have no problem with it. I have no problem with strip clubs because I trust my DH.  He would have to be in touch with me so I knew he got there and before he left. 

    Post # 15
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    10384 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    My husband did an outdoor adventure weekend with the guys – white water rafting, ziplining, etc, and had an amazing time. Absolutely no problem with it.

    Post # 16
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    649 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    @MrsPanda99:  Oh, I definitely didn’t mean that like other people don’t trust their partner! I hope nobody takes that in a catty way. 

    FWIW, my DH did go to a strip club. I guess I would have rather he not gone, but it wasn’t a big deal to me. Plus, both of our fathers were there. Haha! 

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