Spinoff: How I (accidentially) Succeeded at Breastfeeding

posted 3 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Thanks for sharing this counterpoint as well. I’ve read both your and iarebridezilla’s accounts and I guess it just goes to show that all the planning in the world doesn’t necessarily make something work out the way you hope and think it will. 

I’m undecided on breastfeeding, but think that if I am able to I would like to do it for my maternity leave and then move to formula. 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

@ExcitedScaredBee:  That is so wonderful!  I have recently started researching breastfeeding, and it’s not supposed to hurt.  Usually if a woman feels pain, it’s because the baby isn’t latching correctly.  I am so happy to hear that your baby is a natural and that you’ve found you enjoy it.  Congrats on the new addition to your family and your success!

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@ExcitedScaredBee:  I’m happy you’ve been able to stick with it.  I was absolutely convinced of the advantages of breastmilk but nursing didn’t work out for me either.  I did stick with pumping though and gave DD expressed BM for 7 months, then started using my freezer stash and supplementing with formula around 8 months.  I think we’ll be on 100% formula by 9 months, and I’m ok with that.

@Christy42213:  I was told repeatedly by several different lactation consultants and nurses that BabyDane had a perfect latch.  I could have sworn I was sticking my nipple in a blender every single time she latched.  She was lazy too, so she would latch, unlatch, relatch, unlatch, relatch… etc and IT REALLY FRICKIN HURT.  I was happy to hook up the pump just to avoid having my poor sore nips clamped down on over and over and over again.  I have NO idea what went wrong, but I do plan on trying nursing again if we have another baby.  I’ll bet it was just that neither one of us had a clue what we were doing haha!

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

@DaneLady:  She had a perfect latch, but she kept unlatching and relatching?  I don’t mean to be rude, but how is that perfect then?  I haven’t breastfed so I’m only going off the information I’ve read about it.  I got the impression that once the baby actually started sucking, that’s the part that’s not supposed to hurt or it meant they weren’t latched correctly.  My mom says she never felt pain unless we bit her, which apparently I started to do after my teeth came in. She quit breastfeeding me after I repeatedly drew blood.  🙁

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Thanks for sharing! I love both posts, both great stories about varied experiences.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Christy42213:  Her actual latching was great, but she would fall asleep, her latch would break, then she would wake up, and latch again.  It’s really only the first latch & suck that hurt, but she was doing the first latch & suck OVER AND OVER again.  It was extremely frustrating for both of us.  I was doing all the right things, like waiting for her mouth to open ALLLL the way so she got the areola in her mouth on not just the nipple part, and we stripped her down to a diaper and tickled her feet and everything we could think of to keep her awake.  It just didn’t work out 🙁  Pumping was ok though, and I’ve heard a lot of people say that pumping hurt but to me it felt better than my barracuda baby!

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

@DaneLady:  Wow, I had no idea breastfeeding was so difficult before reading these stories on the bee.  Thank goodness for breast pumps & milk donors!

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Christy42213:  I knowwwwww!  I thought that since it was “natural” that it would be easy but I was wrong.  I’m always so happy to hear about people who have had success breastfeeding, because it is hard but so beneficial.  I will never, ever judge anyone who chooses differently though.  I absolutely encourage people to research and get as much information as possible if they want to try it.  I really thought we would just get the hang of it, especially with the encouragement of the LCs at the hospital.  If you have support from your partner and the assistance of LCs then it will definitely help get you started on the right foot.  I just have a lazy baby!

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Thanks for sharing your story, too.  I always intended to BF, though I have to admit I was really nervous about it because I had read so many horror stories about pain, cracked and bleeding nipples, mastitis, engorgement, etc.  I was surprised when BF was really easy for me.  I had some issues with engorgement in the beginning, but nothing too terrible. 

It’s hard to find that line between being positive and encouraging to other women (“don’t believe all the horror stories!  It was easy for me!”) and giving a false sense of security such that women feel like failures when it doesn’t work out.

My son is 8.5 months old now, and I’m still nursing at home and pumping at work.  My supply took a dip at around 6 months when he started solids (and my AF returned).  For the past couple of weeks I’ve been dipping into my freezer stash because I’m not pumping enough at work to send with him to daycare the next day.  I plan to continue to nurse and pump until he’s a year old, but unless my supply magically increases again, or his intake decreases as he eats more and more “real” food, we probably won’t make it to the one-year mark without having to supplement with formula (which I am fine with).

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

@DaneLady:  Did you ever have your LO checked for tongue and lip ties? Constant breaking of suction is often a sign of a lip tie which could explain why LO’s latch looked great from the outside!

 

@Christy42213: Personally, the whole “it’s not supposed to hurt” thing is crap and especially in the first few weeks! You and baby both have to learn how to breastfeed and sometimes LO will need to grow a bit before nursing will be pain free.  Having said all that, any pain that lingers beyond the first couple of weeks should definitely be checked out!

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@ExcitedScaredBee:  That’s awesome it worked out for you! DS is 2 and he is still nursing- it’s more of a comfort thing than food source now:)

Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@ExcitedScaredBee:  thanks for sharing! I hope we have it as easy as it sounds you did. I hear way more horror stories then good ones so BF is the thing that i am most neevous and overwhelmed about.

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Thank you for your perspective! It’s good to be reminded that not all first encounters with breastfeeding are difficult. 

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