(Closed) Spinoff: How long after your FI asked for permission until he proposed?

posted 6 years ago in Proposals
  • poll: How long after asking for permission until your FI popped the question?
    Right away, same day, etc. : (15 votes)
    21 %
    About a week : (16 votes)
    22 %
    1-3 weeks : (8 votes)
    11 %
    About a month : (7 votes)
    10 %
    1-2 months : (2 votes)
    3 %
    2-4 months : (6 votes)
    8 %
    4-6 months : (3 votes)
    4 %
    longer?! : (4 votes)
    6 %
    He/She didn't ask permission : (11 votes)
    15 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    5658 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2012

    My DH didn’t ask permission. He asked my dad years ago if he would want him to ask his permission before proposing and my dad laughed and said “please don’t” lol.

    Post # 4
    Member
    254 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    Haha – FI lasted exactly 2 days. He bought the ring and it was just burning a hole in his pocket, so he couldn’t wait it out. He told the jeweller he was expecting to propose in April, but he bought the ring Feb 18, asked permission that same night, and proposed on the 20th.

    Post # 5
    Member
    128 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I knew he asked my dad in September because he told me he did (and my mom kept asking if we were officially engaged yet). My fiance and I lived across the country from my parents and he wanted to ask my dad in person while they were visiting us. My fiance actually proposed in June…so that was about 8 months later.

    Post # 7
    Hostess
    16217 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    My husband (then FI) asked my brother for permission on a Wednesday, my parents for permission two days later on Friday, and then he proposed that same night, mostly because he was afraid my mom would spill the beans somehow, which is pretty likely.

    Post # 8
    Member
    4110 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    About a year after he was given a family stone from my mother. He obviously had her permission & my father had passed away years before.

    Post # 9
    Member
    620 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @mrsm915:  We were in a similar situation (although not quite as long as you), because we don’t live near my parents and DH wanted to ask my dad in person rather than over the phone =)  So he asked in May when my parents were here visiting and we got engaged on Labor Day weekend that year – so about 4 months.

    Post # 10
    Member
    1101 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    FI asked my dad Thursday morning and we went out of town that Friday and he asked that night.

    Post # 11
    Member
    2416 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    FI asked my parents permission on a Wednesday and proposed on a Saturday!

    Post # 12
    Member
    866 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    Ring chosen: Tuesday

    Parents visited: Thursday

    Ring picked up: Friday morning

    Proposal: Friday lunchtime

    DH said he doesn’t know how some guys keep the ring for any longer than a day — he was so excited to propose!

    Post # 13
    Member
    1642 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    One month exactly, and I was dying the entire time. It was more picking up the ring than a permission visit.

    Post # 14
    Member
    2086 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012 - Pippin Hill Farm & Vineyards

    I told my husband that if he asked anyone before he asked me, I’d say no.

    BUT, we picked the setting on July 6th.  The proposal was on November 26th.  He had the ring on numerous occasions between July and November, but no moment seemed right.

    Post # 15
    Member
    11753 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I voted right away, but really it was 2.5 days later. I knew he had asked and got the ring, so he did it sooner rather than later since he knew I thought he would wait a while (or at least until we got back home – We were visiting my parents and I didn’t think there was any chance he was going to do it while we were up there!)  – I was TOTALLY surprised, despite the fact I had been prancing around the house with the ring on just an hour or two before!

    Post # 16
    Member
    2077 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    My FI asked my grandfather years before he proposed.  I think it was 3 years?  

    However, it was more of a conversation that went something like, “Hey, I want to marry your granddaughter someday,” followed with “You’re a fine man, that is alright by me,” or so I’m guessing.

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