Post # 1
Since the thread on financial support from parents has been so popular, I was interested to see how much (on average) parents covered for your wedding.
In our situation, we covered nearly everything. My parents covered the food that was available in our hospitality room prior to the reception (cheese, crackers, etc.), everything I wore that day (dress, shoes, hair styling, etc.), and my mom ended up covering the expense of a few tables worth of linens (this was simply because they had to be added last minute, she picked up the linens, and told us not to worry about reimbursing her).
We paid for everything else, and had saved for approximately 4 years in order to afford the wedding we wanted.
Post # 3
It came down to pretty much 50/50. Both of our parents gave about 25% of the costs to us, then we covered the remainder. We found it incredibly generous and were very surprised!
Post # 4
My parents covered most of the wedding, but I bought my dress and some other big things. DH’s mother contributed, and paid for the whole rehearsal dinner, and Darling Husband paid for the honeymoon. Our families are pretty traditional, so we went the traditional route.
Post # 5
My parents did’t offer to support anything as my Fiance and I will have a small ceremony (just me, him, and our little boy) in Hawaii and they prefered not to come (They’re old now and don’t feel like having 16 hours one way trip). I’m okay with that :-).
Post # 6
My dad payed the deposit on the venue, and my mom bought my dress. My husbands parents payed for the entire rehearsal dinner. We picked up the rest 🙂
Post # 7
My mom covered 1/3 of the total cost. Between my in laws, my grandmother and aunt and uncle, they paid for roughly another 1/3 and we paid for everything else. I’m an only child so I always knew that my mom would help with our wedding in any way that she could but I really had no idea that she would be as generous as she was.
Post # 8
– His parents are paying for the food and drinks for our rehearsal dinner (which is being held at a friends house, so no extra money for the venue and stuff), but they’re also flying in from out of state, and helping to pay airfare for some of the younger or less well-off relatives so that a lot of people can come – which, even though its not technically “contributing” to the wedding, I consider it to be in a big way.
– My parents are paying for the caterer, which covers food, linens, and dinnerware. That probably ends up being more than a third but less than a half of the total wedding cost. I’m super grateful. (though if my dad keeps inviting random people without checking with us, he’ll have to pay for the bigger venue we’ll need to accomodate all of them…hehehe)
– Fiance and I are paying for the rest.
Post # 9
DH’s mom paid for the rehearsal dinner; we covered the rest ourselves. We’re in our 40s, though.
Post # 10
We planned on paying 100% of our expenses for the wedding and still are paying 90% of our expenses. My parents gave us money to pay for the honeymoon. Just very recently FI’s parents actually offered to cover the cost of the rehearsal lunch, which we were very surprised about. We did not expect any contribution from them at all. My mom did mention that she plans on still giving us more money as “acitivity” money on the honeymoon, but I told her the money she’s given us so far is wayyyy more than I imagined they would give us. My parents don’t have much to begin with so we’re very appreciative for what they’ve offered and they won’t accept a refusal.
Post # 11
@MrsWTD: My Godmother actually paid for our airline tickets for the honeymoon. We flew to Hawaii, so that was a significant gift. She considered it a shower gift (as she wrapped the tickets and I opened them there) but that was clearly much more than a typical shower/wedding gift. I didn’t include that as it wasn’t exclusively a “wedding” expense, but it definitely helped our budget!
Post # 12
My mother gave us a VERY generous check as a Christmas present, which we did not want or need—- she’s retired, living comfortably but on fixed income, while we’ve both got good jobs and good salaries. She told us to spend it however we wanted, so we told her we would put it towards our recent kitchen renovation and made a big deal of cooking Christmas dinner at our house so we could show off the granite and appliances from her gift, but in reality, we’ve still got that money in savings. It’s the “wedding slush fund” in case something unexpected pops up, and we’ve not touched it, and we’ll put it into regular saving or an investment post-wedding. But it does kind of make it harder to say whose money is going where!
Anyway we are paying for everything, including his parents’ flights from Europe and their hotel here and also on a side trip we’re sending them on. If they’re flying to the USA, might as well see a bit more of it! We even got them a car service to/from airport in that city, because if we’d been there, we’d absolutely pick them up!
We are determined that no parent ever see a bill or invoice for the whole affair.
Post # 13
I voted that my parents paid for everything…
They gave us a $5000 donation for the wedding and we just decided to keep it under that. I am in love with they way our wedding day turned out and am glad we saved our other money to start our lives together.
Post # 14
We paid for the wedding ourselves. We are grown people and had no need for our parents to pay for our day. We didn’t ask, they didn’t offer, and that was totally fine with us.
Post # 15
@fishbone: Anyway we are paying for everything, including his parents’ flights from Europe and their hotel here and also on a side trip we’re sending them on. If they’re flying to the USA, might as well see a bit more of it! We even got them a car service to/from airport in that city, because if we’d been there, we’d absolutely pick them up!
How thoughtful of you! I don’t think enough brides and grooms appreciate how expensive international flights can be. Sounds like they’re getting a great vacation, and celebrating their son’s wedding all at once!
Post # 16
FI’s family paid for 60 percent, my parents paid for about 30%, we paid about 10%. We didn’t expect any help at all and were very surprised/felt very lucky.