Post # 1
http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/how-seriously-do-you-take-your-vows got me thinking about the vows we said at our wedding. While it is our intention to be married as long as we are both alive, we didn’t actually state this. In fact, our vows themselves did not say anything about promises to each other at all since we had a traditional Jewish wedding. What we said boils down to “we are now married according to Jewish law”.
So out of curiosity – how many Bees had “traditional” vows like the ones I see on TV? Did you actually say “til death do us part”?
Post # 3
Ours were the same ones my parents used and fairly traditional. I don’t think we used “till death do us part” but the sentiment was there.
Post # 4
Ours were traditional, but I think I requested that we say “as long as we both shall live” because I didn’t actually want to say the word “death” in my vows. Haha.
Post # 5
@Gemstone: haha! I can’t say I blame you! I kinda wish we got the opportunity to do them but it more was important to us both to go tradtitional (well, traditional for us!).
Post # 6
We wrote out own vows and incorporated the ’till death’ statement but worded it differently in each of our vows. Ours were short and sweet and simple, not super traditional though.
Post # 7
@Gemstone: Ours is the As Long As We Both Shall Live thing, too. It’s the traditional vows in my church.
Post # 8
Ours were pretty traditional, but without references to “obey” and such.
Post # 9
@phillygirl629: That’s okay! I think down the road, it will be more special to you that you followed family tradition.
@ProfessorGirl: Yeah, our pastor just let us tweak a bit to make it more positive. 🙂
Post # 10
Ours were not at all traditional, we wrote our own vows and selected the officiant’s reading. We are not traditional people and were not married in a church so could do whatever we wanted, excepted a couple mandatory declarations that must be exchanged under provincial law.
The officiant’s part that is traditionally the “til death do you part” in a ceremony for us was the following:
“Do you * promise to give * the love of your person, the comfort of your companionship and the patience of your understanding? Will you respect the dignity of her/his person, and stay committed in whatever challenges or joys life may have for you?“
Our personal vows were each different, since we did not write them together and neither of us heard the others until we said them at the ceremony. Mine had several commitments for “life” (not reprinted entirely here as they were long!), including the ending:
“I promise to love, laugh, play, cry, sing, dance and walk hand in hand with you not only when life seems easy, but also when it seems hard. And finally, I will forever and always keep my faith in the ebb and flow of life and of love and of our relationship, and remain grounded with you. I love you *”
My husband’s vows ended up having similar sentiments though in his own words, however, I always joke that he promised me for eternity, so he has a longer haul than I do!
So, both had plenty of commitments in there that we made “for life” without the “til death do us part”.
Post # 11
We said “as long as we both shall live” – same sentiment, nicer words!
Post # 12
We plan on using all the traditional vows in addition to our own written vows in order to add a personal touch. He’ll be writing some to me and I’ll be writing some to him as well, we won’t be writing them together, so they won’t be identical.
I’m actually very excited to see what he comes up with, since we won’t hear them until the ceremony.
Post # 13
These were ours:
I _____ take you _____ to be my wife/husband
my partner in life and my one true love
I will love you more each day than I did the day before.
I will trust you and respect you,
laugh with you and cry with you,
loving you faithfully through good times and bad
regardless of the obstacles we may face together
I give you my hand, my heart, and my love, from this day forward
And for as long as we both shall live
Post # 14
Ours weren’t traditional at all. Neither of us liked the idea of referencing death on one of the happiest days of our lives. We wrote vows (separately) that described the things we love about each other and things we want to do together in the future. I made everyone laugh, and he made everyone cry. We both ended our vows with the same sentence to tie them together: “You are already my partner and my best friend, and today I am proud to call you my husband/wife.”
Post # 15
Ours are what I’d call modern traditional. Same sentiments, similar sound to the words, but slightly updated.
“I, ____ take you, _____, to be my wife. To love you and to cherish you; to nurture and support you; to stand by your side as we share life’s joys and sorrows, laughter and pain. To respect the unique person that you are and help you to become who you will be. I choose you, _____ above all others to live with and love for the rest of my life.“
Post # 16
We plan to have “Til death do us part” but only because it seriously my dream to say the line “til death or zombies do us part.” Not only is it awesome and funny but it is meaningful to us. Fiance and I are big zombie fans. We pretty much only watch horror/zombie movies, I have a zombie tattoo, and I always give him zombie themed gifts for Valentine’s day.