Spinoff: how would you feel if someone talked SO out of getting you a ring?

posted 2 years ago in Rings
  • poll: How would you feel?
    Pleased - because you kinda knew he wasn't into marriage and the promise would be fake : (4 votes)
    10 %
    Upset - how is it any of her business?? : (24 votes)
    59 %
    Confused - what was wrong with a promise ring anyway? : (3 votes)
    7 %
    Relieved - a promise ring from a grown man seems kind of silly : (9 votes)
    22 %
    Meh - if BF thinks it's a bad idea you trust there is a reason for that. : (1 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 2
    Member
    5228 posts
    Bee Keeper

    babeba:  I’d wonder if I fell into a time warp and ended up in seventh grade again. Seriously?? If this is something that third parties are getting involved in, I’d say the couple is not mature enough to be considering marriage anyway.

    I have no issue with promise rings. I think they are sweet for couples that are not in a financial place to get engaged, but still want to do something solidifies the relationship. 

    Post # 3
    Member
    262 posts
    Helper bee

    hes not a Jonas Brother, they don’t get a promise ring. If they want to committ to be married int he future, they will get engaged.  if they are unsure and can be talked out of a gift for their SO, then its probably not really that strong of a bond or committment anyway. 

    Post # 4
    Member
    2052 posts
    Buzzing bee

    If he can be talked out of it, I’d question his commitment anyway. 

    If he really wanted to get a promise ring or a pre engagement ring or whatever you want to call it, he’d get it, no matter what his best friend said

    Post # 6
    Member
    220 posts
    Helper bee

    babeba:  I’d be most concerned that my SO is so unsure of his feelings for me that someone could talk him out of getting me a symbol of commitment (whatever that may be). 

    Post # 7
    Member
    2052 posts
    Buzzing bee

    babeba:  Depending on the reasons for him wanting to talk him out of it, yes. 

    Theres two sides to this. If I was terrible for my SO his friends would be right to try and talk him out of it, but ultimately its his decision and if hes committed he wont be able to be talked out of it. That doesnt negate peoples rights to be upset about it though.

    Post # 8
    Member
    4831 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    andixlyn:  Hahaha!!! Yeah I wouldn’t be on board with a promise ring, but I’d also question his character if he let my friend talk him out of getting it for me. I’d also question why my friend didn’t want him to get it for me…

    Post # 9
    Member
    1883 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    More than anything, I’d be questioning why the friend thought it was his/her business. I would be really interested to know the motivation. 

    Post # 10
    Member
    2654 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    If we are talking about the thread on here about htis subject I would be glad that his friend talkes sense into him instead of allowing him and watching him lead me on…

    Post # 12
    Member
    662 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    babeba:  I’d feel like he isnt strong enough or secure enough in our relationship to make such a important decision on his own so….I’d count my lucky stars that he didnt make me some half-ass promise.

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