Post # 1
Am I one of the few ladies that is totally comfortable with masturbation? I know my FI does it. I know he watches porn. He knows I do both as well.
I don’t expect him to seek me out when he is feeling horny. Sometimes, sex is work. Sometimes, I would rather do what I can in a few minutes than get it on for a long period of time and get dirty.
I know for him, having that sexual release is better. I know what he is like when it builds up and I prefer he doesn’t get to that point. I would rather us not have sex every night and him not feel sexually frustrated. I know he has a bigger sex drive than I do, but I don’t feel like that means I need to have sex with him when I don’t really feel like it.
Sometimes, I just love to masturbate.
Am I alone?
If you pick no, this is for the women that feels no emotion about it whatsoever.
Post # 3
Idk if he does and I dont care either way. It’s not my business. As long as we are both satisfied with our sex life that’s all that matters to me.
Post # 4
He does. I don’t care. If I felt it were cutting into our sex life, I might speak up, but it has nothing to do with feeling inadequate in the way some women might – mostly it would just be, “Hey, I need attention too, so get over here.”
I really can’t wrap my mind around being jealous about it. I’m not attacking those who are, but I can’t even begin to understand it. There are many emotions I’ve seen others have – though I haven’t had them myself – but I could still understand where they were coming from. This isn’t one.
I’m not jealous about porn either. Whatever gets the job done – amirite?
Post # 5
As long as it’s not in public we don’t care what the other one does. I have insomnia so some days I’m up until 3-4 in the morning, and he knows I masturbate pretty regularly at those times. He much prefers it to being woken up in the middle of the night. But we do that occsionally too 😉
I’m not sure when he does, but I know he does. He gets up earlier than me so I’m assuming…
Edit: I kind of don’t like the attitude I’ve seen in similar threads that whenever the generic “he” is in the mood, the woman is assumed to be available for sex. Sometimes I’m not in the mood, sometimes I’m busy. He’s a grownup, he can take care of himself.
Post # 6
The idea of catching him in the act or watching is a turn-on, but I would be very upset if I was home, and it was reasonable for us to have sex at that time. This is only because we do not have sex as often as I would like. I am good to go 24/7. I would pretty much have to be dying or have food poisoning to turn him down, and I would have no problem with a quickie with little-to-no-effort on his part.
Post # 7
I couldn’t care less. His body, his choice. The idea that him jerking off as some kind of negative thing against me, is a totally foreign concept. I enjoy my alone time as well.
Post # 8
Where is the option for “I have no idea if my SO masterbates”? I don’t care either way.
He definately knows that I do….and he doesn’t care.
Post # 9
Nah, don’t care… I’ve done it when he’s around too, either he’s busy or I just want it to be fast and simple. I assume he has the exact same feeling sometimes.
Post # 10
@MissTatas: Added it for you. 🙂
Post # 11
I walked in on him once when we were dating… whether he still does or not I have no idea, nor do I want to know! I’m not always in the mood, and if that is what it takes, well, okay. It bothered me at first, but now I’d sometimes prefer if he “takes care of business” and lets me sleep! But we still have a regular sex life together, so as long as that is not affected, more power to him.
Post # 12
He does. I don’t care. Sometimes its nice not to be harassed 24/7!
Post # 13
I know he does and he keeps porn safely tucked away under the bed. Doesnt bother me at all, in fact, I find it a turn on.
Post # 14
@CreatureFromTheBlackLagoon: lololol I am one of the only 3 women who do it and he doesn’t. But there’s a reason, he used to do it, often, very often actually. But then he started having trouble with “our” time if he helped himself any time that day (or the day before even), so he had to cut that out.
Post # 15
It is human nature, so no I don’t care!
Post # 16
@CreatureFromTheBlackLagoon: When I’m exhausted and FI is in the mood, I’ll sometimes give him a quick somethin somethin and then he’ll finish while I’m ready to pass out in the bed. lol. I know this would MORTIFY so many people, but I don’t care. I’d only be upset if FI chose to masturbate over having sex w me. If it’s in addition, sure, why not!