(Closed) Spinoff: I wanted a big, expensive ring and make no apologies for it either.

posted 5 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@MrsFuzzyFace:  Preach it sister!  I too had expectations for my ring, what it would look like and carat size and I’m happy to say that my FI went above and beyond what I ever imagined.  I do not feel guilty for my ring since it is exactly what I wanted and I would not have been happy with anything less.

Post # 4
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6256 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

Some people just really, really need to get a hobby.

Post # 5
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2894 posts
Sugar bee

I’m claireos and I wanted a big ring. It’s who I am and what I wanted and what we could afford AND (before you get your knickers in a twist) it’s what HE wanted as well. And guess what? We’re getting another in a few years. And another band after that. Who knows when we’ll stop. Luckily for me I have a husband who loves me that just wants good things for me. And we both accept that for us the symbol of our marriage isn’t a lifeless piece of metal. It’s eachother. We’re our symbol. Shocking?! So yes, we’ll soon be setting the 3ct tanzanite, upgrading my ering in 2 years, buying a band in a few more? Why? because its what WE want and that has nothing to do with what some stranger may feel. You don’t want any other ring? Good for you. In the mean time, I’m going to enjoy my blessings and my husband and our life.

Post # 6
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632 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I agree. I wanted a 1 ct solitare and got it. To add to the pot, FI and I have full intentions to upgrade to a 1.5-2ct sometime down the road.

 

If I have the means to do so and my husband and I are in agreement, then I see no reason why not. It’s the same as wanting to upgrade your old Camry for a Lexus.

Post # 7
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1710 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

@IowaDDS13:  Yes!  I (and FI) wanted a full carat for my ring, but couldn’t swing it, so I have a .75 ct that I love, but FI is already talking about upgrading (which I have no problem doing, but would like to wait a while, maybe a year or so after the wedding, idk).  I love seeing the big rings, and love the smaller rings too.  I just have my own tastes for what I want to wear and that isn’t a smaller ring.  

Post # 8
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374 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Well…I just wanted a ring. And I got it 😀 LOL!

Post # 9
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2903 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I wanted a 1ct and I finally got it! lol Laughing

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Excuse my french but… WHO THE F*** CARES?!  It’s my ring and my wants and my husband and my life and MY CHOICE!  Jebus ladies, we’ve all got different opinions so there’s no need to judge.  I love tiny diamonds and large gemstones, and that’s just me.  I hope you love your rings whatever size, shape, stone, or sacrifice (sorry, I was looking for a word that started with “S” for “cost” lol)

eta – My dream diamond engagement ring will always be a 3 carat Tiffany stunner, but that’s just not in the cards for us so HAIL to you ladies who get to rock them big ol’ stones!

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: Central Park

Smal rings look bizarre on my finger, I need a bigger stone to balance the width of my size 8 ring finger. I don’t understand people who hate on someone for being disappointed that something wasn’t 100% what they wanted. We need to support each other, not jump on each other. I disagree with the “you should just be happy he even got you a ring at all” attitude. It reeks of desparation. A woman’s fiance wants her to be happy. And she has to wear that ring 24/7 for the rest of her life. Yeah sometimes you’ll get used to and learn to love something you weren’t crazy about, but if you’ve dreamed about a .7 carat emerald shape diamond in yellow gold and he gives you a .5 round solitaire in white gold then it doesn’t make you bad person for wanting something different. It doesn’t make you ungrateful. It doesn’t make you less in love with your fiance. I am disgusted by the air of desparation and judgement that follows the “you should be happy you got a ring at all” attitude, because it’s just a short hop, skip, and jump from the “you should be happy he proposed to you at all” attitude.

Post # 13
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317 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Well, I’m not here to be judgy…I don’t care about ring size etc, in fact my now husband, at the time of buying my ring, could only afford CZ, which is fine with me.  It’s my engagement ring and it means the world to me that he wanted to marry me regardless of what he put on my finger, I would have accepted a bread tie!  Good for you ladies that could get the ring of your dreams, I won’t lie and say that sometimes I don’t look at my set and wish it were white gold with a diamond, but I also know that my husband wants to eventually buy me what I want. 

QUESTION: How would you have felt if this was the situation with your FI or DH?  Would it have changed the outcome of his popping the question?

Post # 15
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298 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

@MrsFuzzyFace:  Oh, I know! I’m sorry if it came off wrong, I was trying to agree with you.  I just don’t get why anyone cares about anyone else’s ring choice except to oogle the ring porn and state “oooo that’s beautiful” even if it’s not their taste

Post # 16
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317 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@MrsFuzzyFace:  Exactly, what I thought you would say from your original post.  Didn’t sound like you were saying, “I want this style, this carat, this metal, this designer etc, or else I’m not marrying you!”  Unfortunately, I think some bees jump to conclusions when they see posts like this.  A girl wanting what she wants, doesn’t make her a brat or whatever other term people might have used.  NOW if a woman is unreasonable about it, then yes, she probably is a brat and probably even some of the ugly terms peopld have used.  Not the vibe I got from you at all.  Best wishes and glad ya got the ring o’ your dreams!

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