Spinoff – "I won't accept anything LARGER than…"

posted 3 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Did you have a maximum cost?
    Yes - I didn't want us to spend more than $100 on the ring : (4 votes)
    1 %
    Yes - I didn't want us to spend more than $500 on the ring : (9 votes)
    3 %
    Yes - I didn't want us to spend more than $1,000 on the ring : (30 votes)
    10 %
    Yes - I didn't want us to spend more than $2,000 on the ring : (38 votes)
    13 %
    Yes - I didn't want us to spend more than $5,000 on the ring : (56 votes)
    19 %
    Yes - I didn't want us to spend more than $10,000 on the ring : (37 votes)
    12 %
    Yes - I didn't want us to spend more than $20,000 on the ring : (14 votes)
    5 %
    No - any price was fine : (66 votes)
    22 %
    No - I gave him/her a minimum price/carat size, not a maximum : (25 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    8720 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I didnt give a minimum price but he did ask what carat size  wanted and I told him at least one carat. I didnt even think to give him a maximum size or price. His money, his choice (in my opinion). We did go pick out the ring together though. 

    Post # 5
    Member
    442 posts
    Helper bee

    Still a few years before we will get engaged, so I can’t say what our financial situation will be. If it is what I anticipate, I wouldn’t want him spending more than 2500 or 3k. But most likely it would be lower – my ideal ring right now is about 1800.

    Post # 6
    Member
    5483 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Hahaha we didn’t really get that far. It was less of I didn’t WANT to spend that much and more of I knew we couldn’t/it would be demanding to ask for. That said, I don’t like anything bigger than about 1.5 carats on me, no matter what type of stone.

    Post # 7
    Member
    279 posts
    Helper bee

    @JulietFoxtrot:  I told him I didn’t want him to spend more than 2k because he is still in school and has student loans and I don’t like big diamonds anyways!

    Post # 8
    Member
    451 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    as we looked at rings, my opinion on what I liked and wanted kept changing. I didn’t set a minimum or maximum. I wanted FI to use what he learned about what I liked and use his best judgement to pick out the ring that best fit our tastes and his budget. 

    Post # 9
    Member
    1040 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    My ring was a surprise and the diamond was inherited by my FI from his mother so it cost less than its worth. But it’s a valuable ring and if anything happened to it, I wouldn’t feel comfortable spending that much money to replace it. I’d either get a smaller or lower spec diamond or I would get a gemstone or simulant. As much as I love my ring, I’d feel better about putting that money towards our future. 

    Post # 10
    Member
    1174 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I voted <$100 because we were struggling students. We’re still not in the greatest place, but a bit better. I chose to get a nice anniversary band rather than a larger e-ring, as I prefer the aesthetic of bands anyway 🙂

    Post # 11
    Member
    5432 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016

    I didn’t want him spending more than $2000, because we were both students. Now that he’s done school and has a full-time job, I still wouldn’t want him spending more than that. I’d rather put money towards other things. I was able to get my dream ring for $1500 because we went with Moissanite (:

    Post # 12
    Member
    10219 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    As I said in my the “smaller than” post… IF we were getting an ERing with a Feature Diamond (wasn’t my first choice) then I thought a 1/2 Carat was just fine.

    Mr TTR wanted me to have something bigger… closer to a Carat

    We agreed on a 3/4 Carat.

    My concern for a MAXIMUM was mostly about size / comfort / practicality … I just didn’t see myself with much beyond a 1/2 Carat to be truthful.

    As for expense…

    We went shopping together… and I certainly had a ball-park number in mind (lol, what I fondly have called “more than a Refrigerator” cost)

    Which when it came to Diamond ERings… isn’t a crazy amount by any means.

    In the process of looking tho, it became apparent that there were some very expensive options out there… and I told Mr TTR I wasn’t comfortable with an amount that was what I’d consider BIG MONEY (5 digits).

    Fortunately, in the end we both were quite comfy with the amount spent, and the size & style of ring we got…

    And we still had money left over to buy our Kitchen Appliances.

    Smile

     

    Post # 13
    Member
    1400 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I put any price was fine, because I barely thought about the budget, I knew he had set one that he felt was reasonable and saved up accordingly, and my dream setting fit well within it. And it turned out that it allowed enough for a nice diamond center stone too, I didn’t really do any research on diamond prices, but he did.

    We would have a problem if I felt like he spent an irresponsible amount on it, or it was so flashy it made me feel self conscious, but other than that I don’t really care.

    Post # 14
    Member
    13012 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I didnt specify a max budget, but I completely trust that he would not spend more than we could afford.

    Post # 15
    Member
    8720 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @JulietFoxtrot:  I wish he was good enough to have surprised me! He was so nervous though. LOL

    Post # 16
    Member
    2151 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    We looked at rings together and set a budget of $5000. He ended up designing a ring himself based on what he knew I liked and spent slightly more than our budget, which is fine with me! 

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