SPINOFF: Intercultural brides, will you be changing your name?

posted 5 years ago in Intercultural
Post # 3
1849 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I’m happy to give up my Russian last name for FI’s “normal” American name. I actually dislike it when people who meet me define me on the basis of culture or nationality before anything else. Being Russian doesn’t characterize me any more so than being my FI’s future wife will characterize me, so it’s a sacrifice I can live with. I’m just going to look forward to people knowing how to pronounce my name. 


Post # 4
1475 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I’ll be taking on a hispanic last name. I’ve kind of been looking forward to it because of the traditional symbolism but I’ve also contemplated doing a hyphenation because like you I identify my name so much with my family and who I am.

The best way to look at it is that you and your FH will be creating a new family and new cutlure together and that’s what your new name really represents and thats a beautiful thing as well.

Post # 5
2055 posts
Buzzing bee

@HonoraryNerd:  What about hyphenating your surname?

I’m considering this as a possibility. I have also considered adding my current surname to the bevy of middle names I already have. I have plenty of time to decide. So, I’m still mulling things over.

Post # 7
6 posts
  • Wedding: June 2014

I’m actually marrying an american.  He is black and so am I.. somewhat.  My father’s Asian family did not take to well to the black side of my mothers family.  So, according to my mom is not even a question… she is half black herself and american so she looks at me with a bewildered look.  I promised her it is actually a question on the Bee!  Embarassed Laughing

My dad’s family is a whole other story.  I am changing my name.  My mom and my grandma and aunts are the most important people on this earth to me besides my children.  So I don’t even give it a 2nd thought.  Smile

Post # 8
63 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m an American marrying a Dane and despite the Ø in his surname I will be taking his last name. Legally the foreign character will have to be replaced by “oe” until we move back to Denmark someday. The replacement will take into effect professionally as well due to the definite confusion of Americans when they see an Ø Tongue Out 

Post # 9
10453 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

I’m white and my fiancé is Asian, with a very Asian last name. it will be a weird adjustment and I’m sure people will be surprised when they meet me in person after phone/emails and see I’m white. Ill miss my old last name! It will definitely be a big adjustment. 

Post # 10
1850 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I am taking my white future husband’s name. I am kind of sad to think about dropping my native american last name, but it’s okay. My new last name will never be misspelled!

Post # 11
1326 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I’m white and will be taking a Latino last name. I’m looking forward to confusing people! I love my FI’s uncommon, Latino name.

Post # 12
1367 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Hyphenating for me, although it might be different if I had brothers.

Post # 13
1465 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

My Fiance is Irish/Italian and I will be proud to take it his name and I am going to drop mine completely. I do understand how you feel because that is how my father feels about our last name. My Fiance said if I wanted him too he would take my last name, but I am totally fine with it.

Post # 14
401 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’m keeping mine, a large part of that is so I can still keep connected to my heritage (French). FI’s name is very common, it wouldn’t sound as good (my first name is French as well so it goes with my last name). 

Post # 15
20 posts
  • Wedding: August 2015

My husband to-be is Russian and has a very difficult last name, so we decided to take on my simple 5 letter Hungarian last name for professional purposes. 🙂 It will make his and my lives much easier in our business ventures. I really wanted his Russian last name because I love the culture, but watching his day-to-day strain with explaining the spelling to customers over and over is a daunting task. He is very excited to get my simple last name!

Post # 16
135 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Taeyers:  I’m in your exact same situation! I’m really looking forward to having a name people won’t look at and go silent…. ‘how do you pronounce that???”

Yeah, I’m ready for a more manageable last name 🙂

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