Post # 1
I’ve always planned on taking FHs name, but that was before the man of my dreams was white with a white last name. It may not seem like a big deal, but my family has always instilled in us a sense of pride in our heritage and our family and a knowledge of where we came from and what our family has overcome. It means something to say that I’m a *lastname*. Then, to get rid of it, one of the biggest things tying me to the Hispanic community, feels like I’m losing something. People I meet won’t see a pale, Mexican woman, but a slightly tanned white girl. FI doesn’t care either way, I just don’t really know. Other brides marrying into a new culture, did you have this problem? What are you doing?
Post # 3
I’m happy to give up my Russian last name for FI’s “normal” American name. I actually dislike it when people who meet me define me on the basis of culture or nationality before anything else. Being Russian doesn’t characterize me any more so than being my FI’s future wife will characterize me, so it’s a sacrifice I can live with. I’m just going to look forward to people knowing how to pronounce my name.
Post # 4
I’ll be taking on a hispanic last name. I’ve kind of been looking forward to it because of the traditional symbolism but I’ve also contemplated doing a hyphenation because like you I identify my name so much with my family and who I am.
The best way to look at it is that you and your FH will be creating a new family and new cutlure together and that’s what your new name really represents and thats a beautiful thing as well.
Post # 5
@HonoraryNerd: What about hyphenating your surname?
I’m considering this as a possibility. I have also considered adding my current surname to the bevy of middle names I already have. I have plenty of time to decide. So, I’m still mulling things over.
Post # 6
@MlleFabuleux: I’m too lazy to hyphenate, it’d be too long. I’ve been thinking about adding it as a middle name. Still deciding, though.
Post # 7
I’m actually marrying an american. He is black and so am I.. somewhat. My father’s Asian family did not take to well to the black side of my mothers family. So, according to my mom is not even a question… she is half black herself and american so she looks at me with a bewildered look. I promised her it is actually a question on the Bee!
My dad’s family is a whole other story. I am changing my name. My mom and my grandma and aunts are the most important people on this earth to me besides my children. So I don’t even give it a 2nd thought.
Post # 8
I’m an American marrying a Dane and despite the Ø in his surname I will be taking his last name. Legally the foreign character will have to be replaced by “oe” until we move back to Denmark someday. The replacement will take into effect professionally as well due to the definite confusion of Americans when they see an Ø
Post # 9
I’m white and my fiancé is Asian, with a very Asian last name. it will be a weird adjustment and I’m sure people will be surprised when they meet me in person after phone/emails and see I’m white. Ill miss my old last name! It will definitely be a big adjustment.
Post # 10
I am taking my white future husband’s name. I am kind of sad to think about dropping my native american last name, but it’s okay. My new last name will never be misspelled!
Post # 11
I’m white and will be taking a Latino last name. I’m looking forward to confusing people! I love my FI’s uncommon, Latino name.
Post # 12
Hyphenating for me, although it might be different if I had brothers.
Post # 13
My Fiance is Irish/Italian and I will be proud to take it his name and I am going to drop mine completely. I do understand how you feel because that is how my father feels about our last name. My Fiance said if I wanted him too he would take my last name, but I am totally fine with it.
Post # 14
I’m keeping mine, a large part of that is so I can still keep connected to my heritage (French). FI’s name is very common, it wouldn’t sound as good (my first name is French as well so it goes with my last name).
Post # 15
My husband to-be is Russian and has a very difficult last name, so we decided to take on my simple 5 letter Hungarian last name for professional purposes. 🙂 It will make his and my lives much easier in our business ventures. I really wanted his Russian last name because I love the culture, but watching his day-to-day strain with explaining the spelling to customers over and over is a daunting task. He is very excited to get my simple last name!
Post # 16
@Taeyers: I’m in your exact same situation! I’m really looking forward to having a name people won’t look at and go silent…. ‘how do you pronounce that???”
Yeah, I’m ready for a more manageable last name 🙂