Post # 1
I’m doing this for the poll to see everyone weigh in. But in a previous thread the OP said a dry wedding was rude/against etiquitte rules.
Personally I don’t see how this can possibly be rude. There are SO many reasons to have a dry wedding and you don’t have to have alcohol to have fun. But that’s just me. Anways I’m really interested to see the reasoning on how this is rude!
Post # 3
Personally I wouldn’t like one because I like to drink and to me, it’s expected at a wedding. However, in certain cases there are exceptions to this rule and in those circumstances I would be ok. If it’s a couple just wanting to save money or if the couple just doesn’t like to drink then I find it rude.
Post # 4
I don’t think it’s rude. It’s your party and you can do whatever you want.
Post # 5
i’d rather go to dry wedding than there be a cash bar.
Post # 6
I personally don’t think a dry wedding is rude, but it depends on WHY you want a dry wedding.
Most of my family have drinking problems so it would make more sense to go dry. With that said, my FI’s family is big drinkers. We are going with a full bar, my family gets to be grown ups and make the right choices.
Post # 7
I personally do not think that is rude. However from where I come from it is sort of expected that there would be alcahol at a wedding
Post # 8
Ive never been to one, but I would assume the couple has their own reasons for choosing to have one. I love to celebrate with some wine, but I wouldnt be offended if it wasnt available.
Post # 9
I have been to one but I didnt mind. Im not a heavy drinker though. I actually rarely drink.
Post # 10
@Woodstock: I think it could be rude if you’re just doing it to save money. (Unless you are having a daytime dessert reception… I feel like people wouldn’t want to drink so much there) However it wouldn’t be rude if there is a good reason, especially cultural reasons. There are many cultures in which alcohol is prohibited, such as Baptist Christianity, Buddhism, and Hinduism, so I would understand if I was at the wedding of someone who was very devoutly religious. I am sure there are other good reasons not to serve alcohol as well, perhaps if you have a relative who has dealt with alcohol addiction and is trying to maintain abstinence from alcohol.
Post # 11
@orchidaloha: I get where you’re coming from. But you say “if the couple doesn’t like to drink” Whenever I’m not feeling like drinking and I go out I get pestered by people asking why I’m not drinking. At my wedding I didn’t want to drink a lot and kept getting people shoving drinks in my face… It was annoying. I can see why a couple that doesn’t want to drink doesn’t want to deal with that. Why pay for something at your wedding that you don’t want AND have to deal with people bringing you drinks while you explain time and time again, you don’t want another drink.
Post # 12
I personally don’t think it’s rude. It’s the couple’s choice. And I won’t die without a drink. 😉
Post # 13
@Birdee106: +1. While I personally wouldn’t have a dry wedding, I wouldn’t be offended if I went to one. It is up to the hosts to decide what to provide guests with. I would be offended if someone tried to make me pay for drinks though, and next time they came over I would charge them for their drinks too.
Post # 15
It can sometimes come across as rude. For example, at a destination wedding where guest paid a lot of money to attend and then the bride and groom make the wedding dry to save money….eh. Also, if the wedding is dry and then the bride and groom go out drinking afterwards…~headtilt~
I don’t think it’s inherently rude though.
Post # 16
I don’t think it’s rude in the slightest. A guest always has a choice to decline, but the host has the right to host whatever party they want.