Post # 1
This is a spinoff from a previous post… I’m wondering if anyone believes that being completely drunk is a genuine excuse for making bad decisions?
when I’m drunk I make poor choices but nothing I wouldn’t at least consider being sober. So kissing another person, flirting, being violent etc never happen when I’m drunk and I never worry about it happening. As drunk as I get and sometimes it’s been to the point of not remembering the next day, I’ve never done something against my moral code so I don’t buy the excuse of being drunk.
what about all of you? Is drunk a reasonable excuse for misbehaving?
Post # 4
@Mrslovebug: It’s never an excuse. The way I see it you allowed yourself to get drunk. If you chose not to stop at a comfortable buzz any mistakes are 100% your fault. I did some disgusting things while drunk as a teenager and still regret them.
Post # 5
- Wedding: September 2013 - B&B
I voted its only an excuse for minor things… I mean really minor, like horrible dancing lol. Or spilling a secret that wasnt extremely hurtful.
Other than that I sort of subscribe to the idea that “Drunken words are sober thoughts”. Same with actions. So no, being drunk is not an excuse to flirt with someone else’s SO, or say hurtful things, or be violent, etc.
Post # 6
@Mrslovebug: people LOVE to blame being drunk, but you know what you’re doing most of the time and being drunk doesnt mean you get a free pass.The law doesn’t recognize it as an excuse and neither do I. “officer, I was drunk! what happened wasn’t my fault” see that won’t fly.
Post # 7
- Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall
I said it’s only an excuse for minor things – blurting out things you’d usually keep to yourself, poor manners, loud speaking voice, and mostly harmless things like that. Meaningful physical contact whether romantic or violent… not so much.
Even then, not really an “excuse” but more of an understadable reason.
Post # 9
@Mrslovebug: i think it’s an excuse for minor things. I act pretty silly and huggy when drunk. Sometimes I’m embarassed afterwards for the silly things I’ve done, but usually the people around me are non-plussed about it.
Not an excuse to cheat, grab someone’s genitals, or do anything like that.
Post # 10
A person chooses to be drunk; therefore, one can expect bad decisions to potentially occur. So, my answer is no, it’s not an excuse.
Post # 11
Alcohol merely takes the brakes off. It doesn’t change who you are.
Post # 12
I think minor things, like bad dancing/loud talking/saying hilariously stupid stuff (“Duuuude. You’re like, my BFF, you know what? Totally. My BFF!”) is all excusable.
Cheating, physical assult, etc, is not.
Post # 13
@Mrslovebug – it is an excuse for something like falling out of their chair or losing balance but they are still not excused for over drinking. Not an excuse for behavioral issues
Post # 14
@Mrslovebug: I said minor things. Like being louder (or more anti-social depending on the type of drunk you are) than usual. Or leaving a mess because you can’t remember where the hamper/dishwaster/trashcan is.
It’s not an excuse for coming on to someone off-limits, talking crap about your friends or SO, groping people, etc…
Post # 15
It depends what the bad choices and behaviors are. i haven’t ever actually been wasted, but my SO has, and no matter how drunk he is he’s just silly and says strange things. He doesn’t actually go out and try to hit on people or go home with random girls. I don’t think there is ever an excuse for something like that.
Post # 16
@Mrslovebug: Not an excuse, but it is the explanation.
Obviously you could chose to not get drunk, but if you do get drunk it explains why you behaved as though you had no inhibitions, you didn’t.
That doesn’t make it ok though.